Hating My Siblings With a Passion

[Introverted1293]

I feel like I am going crazy right now. I do not trust God. I do not trust his mercy. I do not trust him at all.

My mom died a year ago. She died with many unresolved issues. I know that she was imperfect. But I worry whether she made it in or not. I know that people gave me opinions about whether she made it in or not. So I am not going to ask about whether she made it or not. I am still worried about her and I can't seem to get peace. My brothers and sisters are no help whatsoever. They keep bringing up her sins and flaws. And it increases my anxiety. I am starting to hate my brothers and sisters with a passion. In fact, I am thinking of writing a letter to my oldest sister telling her to not call me. The truth of the matter is that I can't stand my siblings, even though both of our parents have died. And yes, it may be true that they may not like me too. But they want me to remain in their lives, not the other way around. My sister got upset with me when I told the doctor that I no longer have an emergency contact. She was not happy; and she demanded that I put her down. I do not want them in my life any more. Part of me wants to hurt them because they say bad things about mom. I loved mom. And she was imperfect. But so were we. And she had to deal with our baggage. But nobody ever thinks about that.

I would pray to God to have mercy on her soul. I know that is worthless. The Bible says that it is to become of men to die once and then the judgment. But I can't seem to help it. Sometimes I hate the fact that there is a hell. But I am human and have no right to question God. I don't see him as merciful. I see him as vengeful and wrathful. I am hoping he is merciful.

Anyways, I need prayer to stop hating my siblings so much. I am suffering with bitterness.

 

[Leaf473]

May God be with you and give you peace

 

[d taylor]

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Well i do not know you or your mom or even your siblings, so i do not know what your mom believed. But i do know The Bible and how a person receives God's free gift of Eternal Life salvation. And it has nothing to do about how good or bad a person is, but who they have placed their faith in. If at some point in her life she believe in Jesus for God's free gift of Eternal Life. Then she crosses over at the very moment of faith in Jesus from death to life.

 

[StillGods]

Dear Father God, please help 1293 to be able to forgive their siblings so that bitterness doesnt have this hold on them and hurt them anymore. Please help them find peace regarding their Mothers passing and be able to grieve and process in a healthy way, please help them with this. Thank you that You are so Merciful towards us, I pray that 1293 would be reassured about this and be able to trust you again. please bless 1293 very much I pray in Jesus Name, amen.

 

[LoricaLady]

I feel like I am going crazy right now. I do not trust God. I do not trust his mercy. I do not trust him at all.

My mom died a year ago. She died with many unresolved issues. I know that she was imperfect. But I worry whether she made it in or not. I know that people gave me opinions about whether she made it in or not. So I am not going to ask about whether she made it or not. I am still worried about her and I can't seem to get peace. My brothers and sisters are no help whatsoever. They keep bringing up her sins and flaws. And it increases my anxiety. I am starting to hate my brothers and sisters with a passion. In fact, I am thinking of writing a letter to my oldest sister telling her to not call me. The truth of the matter is that I can't stand my siblings, even though both of our parents have died. And yes, it may be true that they may not like me too. But they want me to remain in their lives, not the other way around. My sister got upset with me when I told the doctor that I no longer have an emergency contact. She was not happy; and she demanded that I put her down. I do not want them in my life any more. Part of me wants to hurt them because they say bad things about mom. I loved mom. And she was imperfect. But so were we. And she had to deal with our baggage. But nobody ever thinks about that.

I would pray to God to have mercy on her soul. I know that is worthless. The Bible says that it is to become of men to die once and then the judgment. But I can't seem to help it. Sometimes I hate the fact that there is a hell. But I am human and have no right to question God. I don't see him as merciful. I see him as vengeful and wrathful. I am hoping he is merciful.

Anyways, I need prayer to stop hating my siblings so much. I am suffering with bitterness.

 

[Wings like Eagles]

His Grace and Peace to you and your family @Introverted1293

 

[LoricaLady]

You don’t have to listen to your siblings attacking your mother. You can simply tell them that you don’t want to hear it. Calmly, but firmly.

Remind them you loved your mother and if they are going to say negative things about her, you will have to leave either while in their presence or through discontinuing a phone conversation. And then stick to that. No need to argue, just exit the conversation.

“ Now I did say that I don’t want to hear negative things about mom. So I’m going to go now.… Remember, I’m not going to participate in a conversation where there is a lot of rancor and negativities as that is upsetting to me… you are certainly entitled to your opinion, even though it is totally different from mine… And one of my opinions is that this type of exchange is unhealthy.… Gotta go! Bye!”

If this group is like my sister has been at times in the past, they may call you back and leave you a message with more rancor. Just ignore it. Or just say, “when you want to stick to pleasant topics, give me a call. That’s all I have time for. Kindly call me back until then. Bye! Click “

(The Bible tells us not to exchange insult for insult or rancor for rancor. It also tells us to avoid angry people.)

Of course, this approach can work when they say other things that upset you that they most likely know upset you.

I pray you will keep your calm and will remove yourself from being harassed and that you’ll be free from hate. Hate is so toxic to our health, physically, as well as spiritually.

I pray you will learn to just accept it that they are the way that they are, and that you’re not going to change them. But be firm in your stance that they are not going to change you and get you into hostile conversations.

I have no clue as to what kind of personality disorders your siblings may or may not have. One way or another, though, under the topic of narcissistic personality disorder, you will see some YouTube videos on something called gray rock. This type of video has great advice on how to handle people who being obnoxious without losing your cool.

 

[William J]

I pray that God would enable you to forgive your siblings for their criticisms of your mother.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

praying

 

[musicalpilgrim]

May the love of Jesus enfold you all in his mercy and forgiveness

 

[returntosender]

I am sorry if i offended anyone. I don't recall why i replied as i did but it was not mean spirited at all. Please forgive me. I would never want to hurt you.

 

[Introverted1293]

I am sorry if i offended anyone. I don't recall why i replied as i did but it was not mean spirited at all. Please forgive me. I would never want to hurt you.

Forgiven

Sorry I misunderstood.

 

[Yusuphhai]

Maintaining indifference may not be good, but it's better than arguing directly. My relationship with my parents is also very poor, they always restrict me from going out. After the argument, I chose to be indifferent and speechless, and love has already been lost. Listen to the Bible, chat with friends, and don't have to pray to quell anger. Anger will gradually settle. Waiting for new light and opportunities from the Lord.

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

Praying.