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I have come into terms with my social skills. That doesn't mean I am not shy anymore. I still am, but for example in church, I don't talk or mingle that much but they know I fire up when I play my guitar for the Lord. People would come up to me and talk to me, so I talk to them but when I feel everybody has settled with their groups, I just walk away and wait to go home, but I don't feel a bit lonely being alone, I'm not anyway.

God bless!!!:wave:
 
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I have okay social skills. Sometimes they are better than other times. I have always been a little outspoken, especially when I know the people around me.
I feel that social skills can be learned with time and practice. There are some great books about improving your social skills.
The world needs all kinds of people...quiet ones, social butterflies, loud mouths, ect.
Be yourself. But if you feel you would like to become better at something, like your social skills, then go for it!
 
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I have okay social skills. Sometimes they are better than other times. I have always been a little outspoken, especially when I know the people around me.
I feel that social skills can be learned with time and practice. There are some great books about improving your social skills.
The world needs all kinds of people...quiet ones, social butterflies, loud mouths, ect.
Be yourself. But if you feel you would like to become better at something, like your social skills, then go for it!
Actually I was thinking about it and I have really good social skills. Reason being ~ I am comfortable being the center of attention or sitting back while someone else gets all the attention. Plus I am comfortable talking in front of large groups of strangers, although that did take a while.
 
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In new social situations/parties/crowds I'm a typical wallflower. My problem is that I can never think of the correct thing to say. I must appear to either be very shy or very up myself I'm not sure.

But the strangest thing is that if I am comfortable with the people that I am with I am quite outgoing. I am also fine at introductions etc at a work level. It's just social settings.

So I wish that I could improve the way that I interact in social settings. I wish that my brain didn't turn to mush everythime someone treis to start a conversation with me.
 
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Quoting, A Pink Ployd song, Good manners don't cost you nothing now do they?
it's not so much that my social skills suck but that most people are just plain full of crap, ops! but really most pepole shot there mouths of and when there done, youv'e wasted your life listening to them. And then when you try to speak they go into denial about what ever it was they where trying to convisne you of in the first place so you see you just wasted another presice monent of your (my ) life. apart from that I a cherpy out there kinda fella. ok, where did every run too.
 
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my social skills are so so.
I agree with stafy. I've had that happen to me so many times(person talks on themselves and then when they finish and you speak, they are off in another world- as far as their mind).
And one would think the girl would do a lot of the talking. Not in my cases..lol
 
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In new social situations/parties/crowds I'm a typical wallflower. My problem is that I can never think of the correct thing to say. I must appear to either be very shy or very up myself I'm not sure.

But the strangest thing is that if I am comfortable with the people that I am with I am quite outgoing. I am also fine at introductions etc at a work level. It's just social settings.

So I wish that I could improve the way that I interact in social settings. I wish that my brain didn't turn to mush everythime someone treis to start a conversation with me.

Go up to people who are also sitting by themselves. Make small talk, talk about the weather, ask their name. Ask them what they do for a living, tell them what you do for a living.

I guess I'm only speaking from experience having taught myself to become more and more comfortable in social situations.
 
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Go up to people who are also sitting by themselves. Make small talk, talk about the weather, ask their name. Ask them what they do for a living, tell them what you do for a living.

I guess I'm only speaking from experience having taught myself to become more and more comfortable in social situations.

Though I tend to be the one sitting by myself, I have the urge just to do that, I just did last Sunday, and it felt really good, how they appreciate that you take time to see how they are doing.

God bless!:wave:
 
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Though I tend to be the one sitting by myself, I have the urge just to do that, I just did last Sunday, and it felt really good, how they appreciate that you take time to see how they are doing.

God bless!:wave:

Honey I grew up in a family of agnostics. I never went to church. No one goes to church with me, ever.

However I'm becomming one the more well known and popular church members simpily because I get to know people and people know me.

I may not bring any family with me, but my brothers and sisters in christ meet me at church every sunday.
 
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You love to sing but are shy? So do you sing often in front of people? If you do I don't understand how you could be shy?? You are very cute, go find a guy thats alone and just start talking to him and get to know him. Make small talk about the weather and just go on from there. Ask him what he does for a living and about his life. Talk to him about God even! And if you can find things that you can relate on go deeper into them. Smile a lot! In that photo even you have just a very vague sense of a smile. I wanna see those pearly whites! Most girls are cuter when they are smiling then when they are keeping a straight face. I'm sorry let me amend that ALL girls are cuter when they are smiling. And you are cute without smiling so I'm sure you'll just blow him away when you do smile!



I actually have sang in front of people before. I'm just really weird because I can sing in front of people but I can't talk. :scratch: Go figure.
 
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I actually have sang in front of people before. I'm just really weird because I can sing in front of people but I can't talk. :scratch: Go figure.

Hey you are not alone, I can play my guitar at church with a lot of people and still can't talk and mingle.

Does that make us weird?:scratch:
 
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Hey you are not alone, I can play my guitar at church with a lot of people and still can't talk and mingle.

Does that make us weird?:scratch:
Not really. Talking and mingling is the best part, especially when you're tongue-tied and mired in one spot on the floor.
*S* for sarcasm.
 
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Hey you are not alone, I can play my guitar at church with a lot of people and still can't talk and mingle.

Does that make us weird?:scratch:

I don't know, I dance in front of people, I give speeches in front of people, I talk to people.

The sad thing is that I'm really just a shy guy who acts outgoing. Its not in my natural instinct to do these things I just do it as an act because I find I like the results of being outgoing better.
 
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I don't know, I dance in front of people, I give speeches in front of people, I talk to people.

The sad thing is that I'm really just a shy guy who acts outgoing. Its not in my natural instinct to do these things I just do it as an act because I find I like the results of being outgoing better.

Ok, so what I see from it, God made me a better person and through Him, I was able to do these things I wasn't able to do before, we can call it weird but I don't think so, God put the confidence in us, that is what I believe.

:wave:
 
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I find the best social skill is asking questions about the other person. People generally like to talk about themselves and besides that's how you learn if you want to continue to get to know them.

Once you find something in common you can tell a short story about yourself.

In fact, I almost always end a phone conversation with a friend with "anything else?" I want to know what's going on in their lives.

For instance, walking to school/work today, I noticed a girl with a law school book (I'm in law school), I asked her what law school she attended...and within 1/2 a block (I arrived at my destination) had her name, school, year in school and when she started. I encouraged her about law school (it'll get better after 1L) and I learned something new - some law schools allow you to start in Jan. I didn't ask for her number because it wasn't appropriate. I'll probably never see her again, but you never know. If I really wanted to, I could've kept walking and got to know her better. I decided being late to work wasn't worth it, but I made that conscious decision.

It's really not that hard to strike up a conversation and if it becomes friendly you have a new friend.
 
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I am ok but not good with crowds of people
Due to my asbergers as well as
Really once you get to know me, I can
Be down to earth and really fun.
But not with lots of people.
To me less is more and more is less.
 
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