GT Loved Ones, Help.

[sunlover1]

Daughter informed me that son (who still lives home) has
a girl, and her name is Mary, and he's not mentioned it
to me cos "didnt feel like playing 20 questions".
That was mostly a joke, and imo he didnt tell me
because she's Catholic (I found out later).

I said, "Jay" (not his real name) One question sweety,
not twenty, what church does she go to?
He said St such and such.
I said, "what the @#$% were you thinking".
(Subtle and supportive wasnt i?)


He said, well she goes to "insert name of emergent
church here" sometimes too.


That was yesterday in the AM.
Yes, I know we have to let the kids
make their own choices.
My question is this:
Do I say something?
Is there anything I should,
as a caring parent, say to son?
Is it none of my bi'ness

Or isnt it even an unequal yoking
should it get serious?
(this kid dont date, and is a very
goal oriented person like a "Paul")

Catholics/Protestants etc. What would
you guys do or say in that situation?

Help only please, no judging k?

thanks,
sunlover

 

[benedictaoo]

You're kidding right?

 

[fwiwwl]

Daughter informed me that son (who still lives home) has
a girl, and her name is Mary, and he's not mentioned it
to me cos "didnt feel like playing 20 questions".
That was mostly a joke, and imo he didnt tell me
because she's Catholic (I found out later).

I said, "Jay" (not his real name) One question sweety,
not twenty, what church does she go to?
He said St such and such.
I said, "what the @#$% were you thinking".
(Subtle and supportive wasnt i?)


He said, well she goes to "insert name of emergent
church here" sometimes too.


That was yesterday in the AM.
Yes, I know we have to let the kids
make their own choices.
My question is this:
Do I say something?
Is there anything I should,
as a caring parent, say to son?
Is it none of my bi'ness

Or isnt it even an unequal yolking
should it get serious?
(this kid dont date, and is a very
goal oriented person like a "Paul")

Catholics/Protestants etc. What would
you guys do or say in that situation?

Help only please, no judging k?

thanks,
sunlover

How old is Jay?

 

[sunlover1]

You're kidding right?

Which part?
You think it would be a good match?
Would you welcome the chance for
one of your kids to date a protestant
when they're nearing marriage age?
Would you bring it to the priest??

How old is Jay?

He's twenty, but since he lives at home,
and as one Christian to another, I'm wondering
if I should speak to him.
My thoughts are that this sort of union could
cause much conflict for both families, and
especially them if it were to get serious (if it
hasnt already).
Young hearts often disregard reason when
involved in issues of the heart.
We can help others learn by our mistakes.

It's been my experience that relationships
are very difficult and especially the more
background that you DONT have in common.

 

[JoeyRatzinger]

He's twenty, but since he lives at home,
and as one Christian to another, I'm wondering
if I should speak to him.
My thoughts are that this sort of union could
cause much conflict for both families, and
especially them if it were to get serious (if it
hasnt already).
Young hearts often disregard reason when
involved in issues of the heart.
We can help others learn by our mistakes.

It's been my experience that relationships
are very difficult and especially the more
background that you DONT have in common.

I think it is a very serious issue, considering your son is likely born again and heeds God's word at its face value i'd make sure he understands that the views on justification differ greatly and both can't be right, that saddled with the yoke thing seem to put him at odds with what God desires of His followers. Just make sure he is aware of this, and that a compromise in principal is alot more than what is seems on the surface. It's something I would recommend out of principal that he speak with her early on.

 

[Thekla]

Hi, Sonlover


I don't all the particulars, but in this age,
glory to God that she is a Christian !
How many don't even know of Christ, or deny Him.

Of course you should speak to your pastor
we can use extra prayer and guidance in all things.

Praise God for every blessing and burden

 

[Sphinx777]

You're kidding right?

I fear not...

 

[JoeyRatzinger]

Hi, Sonlover


I don't all the particulars, but in this age,
glory to God that she is a Christian !

I mean no offense by this and I in no means can speak for sun, but MANY evangelics don't necessarily consider those in the RC church to be CHRISTian, not that they can't be, but that by using her system likely are not, from my view this seems to be a very serious issue.

 

[Rhamiel]

Um... wow...
When people from differant faith traditions get together there can be problems, but pulling out the "unequal yoke" line, as in, "be not yoked to an unbeliever"? is that what you are talking about?

 

[WashedClean]

I mean no offense by this and I in no means can speak for sun, but MANY evangelics don't necessarily consider those in the RC church to be CHRISTian, not that they can't be, but that by using her system likely are not, from my view this seems to be a very serious issue.

You are 100% correct JR. Just because she attends a Catholic church doesn't mean anything. It's about her heart and being unequally yoked is very serious.

Perhaps she is a Christian. There is only one way to find out - ask her (or maybe your son knows the answer).

As someone who is in an unequally yoked marriage myself, I can tell you this is very serious. We were both non-Christians when we married. I love my husband dearly and probably have one the most satisfying marriages even if we are unqually yoked. However, until he trusts Jesus as his savior, there will always be an aspect of our relationship that's missing.

Sunlover - I've always appreciated and agreed with your posts. I'll pray for you and please feel free to PM me if you like. Your concerns are valid, but I think you have to be careful not to alienate your son in the process. Prayer and an understanding attitude are probably the best way to handle this at the moment. They aren't engaged so try to take this one day at a time.

 

[Rhamiel]

You are 100% correct JR. Just because she attends a Catholic church doesn't mean anything. It's about her heart and being unequally yoked is very serious.

Perhaps she is a Christian. There is only one way to find out - ask her (or maybe your son knows the answer).

how come I feel we would not be having this conversation if she went to a methodist church?
yes just because you go to a church on sunday does not mean you live your life, but it seems people just assumes if you are Catholic you are probably not a good christian.
Sun

Would you welcome the chance for
one of your kids to date a protestant
when they're nearing marriage age?

It is not something I would be gung ho about but I would not question if it is a case of being "unequally yoked" there are problems when when people from two differant faith traditions get together but since they are both christian it is not that big of a gulf

 

[JoeyRatzinger]

Um... wow...
When people from differant faith traditions get together there can be problems, but pulling out the "unequal yoke" line, as in, "be not yoked to an unbeliever"? is that what you are talking about?

Me? yes that is exactly what I am talking about, between the 2 posts I made I thought that was rather clear.

 

[Uphill Battle]

Sunlover:

First, for the levity to make you feel a bit better.

Call the Pope. As soon as he finds out that one of his flock would dare sully themselves by stooping to date a protestant, he'll dispatch the black choppers to pick her up.

now, on to a more serious note.

It will work out. God allows many things in our lives, and if a relationship between a Catholic and a Protestant is within his will, it's no problem. It's harder for US to accept differences, that it is for God, IMO. God couldn't care less about your denomination.

 

[JoeyRatzinger]

how come I feel we would not be having this conversation if she went to a methodist church?

Because the methodist fell in line with the other reformed churches in getting away from the doctrines taught at Rome.
Come on Rhamiel there are really two schools reformed and unreformed.

 

[JoeyRatzinger]

It will work out.

You sound awfully confident.

God allows many things in our lives, and if a relationship between a Catholic and a Protestant is within his will, it's no problem. It's harder for US to accept differences, that it is for God, IMO.

Yeah cause God's a relativist in His standards of justification.

 

[Rhamiel]

Come on Rhamiel there are really two schools reformed and unreformed.

I thought the two schools were Christian and non-christian.
It is almost funny, it is always the protestants who say "it is not about a religion, it is about a relationship with Christ" but then I see threads like this were it is the protestants who make a big deal over what church you go to on sunday.
I am sorry I am not being more positive, but I am tired and I really did not expect to see a thread like this from Sunlover, you have always treated me like a fellow christian, or were you just being polite?

 

[JoeyRatzinger]

I thought the two schools were Christian and non-christian.
It is almost funny, it is always the protestants who say "it is not about a religion, it is about a relationship with Christ" but then I see threads like this were it is the protestants who make a big deal over what church you go to on sunday.
I am sorry I am not being more positive, but I am tired and I really did not expect to see a thread like this from Sunlover, you have always treated me like a fellow christian, or were you just being polite?

I don't think its fair that your turning this on her, this question is valid and one I hope I need not confront in the future...She made no accusations. If your child wanted to marry a fundamental evangelic are you suggesting that you wouldn't push them on both converting to catholic? That is a very troubling view (scripturally) to most born again evangelics.

 

[Uphill Battle]

You sound awfully confident.


Yeah cause God's a relativist in His standards of justification.

yes, I am confident.

It will either be a blessed relationship, or it won't. But it will work out. These things always tend to, when you put your faith in God.


and careful. You're sounding an awful lot like a Roman Catholic with you second statement. Can't let THAT happen, SZ.

 

[christianmomof3]

I am praying for you and for your son.
To me, the bigger issue is that he did something that he knows you would not approve of behind your back without telling you. I know he is an adult, but I still see a problem with the way he went about it. My oldest daughter is 15 and I have not yet had to deal with those kind of issues, but I imagine my turn is coming unfortunately. I think the best thing to do is to pray for him and if he will, to pray with him.

 

[fwiwwl]

Well, Kid! mountain psychology would say that it's time to be your son's friend and not his mom. Being demanding and negative about what he is doing can result in rebellion. You might drive them closer. You can tell what you communicate to him about catholics by his reluctance to let mom in on this. You should let God have a say in the matter.......pray! Maybe God wants you to learn something in all this !Be his friend!