Got a gut so Am I outta luck? be honest now

[VozNocturna]

Actually, a large gut is a sign of undigested food. What we are seeing is not really fat but years of compacted food and fecal matter. Or in the words of afriend of mine who was in nursing school, they are literally full of crap. Gross! Most men with large guts (the type that are hanging over their pants and that make them look like they are carrying triplets) are dead men walking, meaning they are waiting for colon cancer to happen any minute.

 

[Gardener101]

Actually, a large gut is a sign of undigested food. What we are seeing is not really fat but years of compacted food and fecal matter. Or in the words of afriend of mine who was in nursing school, they are literally full of crap. Gross! Most men with large guts (the type that are hanging over their pants and that make them look like they are carrying triplets) are dead men walking, meaning they are waiting for colon cancer to happen any minute.

And they say it's what's 'inside' that counts????

 

[Laurie919]

I think women are more accepting of men being overweight then men are of women being overweight.

Your options aren't as broad as they would be if you were healthier.

I don't know if this is true or not. Well, I guess it is because I have seen heavy men with beautiful women. But at the same time I know I don't want a man that I don't like his body and I don't like heavy guys, even when I was heavy I didn't.

 

[srobinson]

dang what do ladies define as "heavy"

 

[Stratiotes]

For those of you that have mentioned the health risk of being fat... that they'll probably have a heart attack, or get colon cancer...

Maybe so, but a guy at my work is around 50, perfectly healthy looking. He eats healthy and works on a ropes course climbing and exercising all the time. He was just diagnosed with prostate cancer. Everyone is at risk for some disease or another... you live your life trying to prevent one and you instead get another.

Being fat is a health risk, not a death sentence in itself. Much of my family is overweight, and while I will say some of them have high blood pressure and stuff, at least half of them with high blood pressure aren't the ones who are overweight...

I am not advocating being comfortable with fat--I'm all about exercise and fitness, but I'm just saying being fat doesn't automatically mean someone is going to drop dead anytime. It is just one of many health risks. Just like stress, breathing city air, etc.

 

[Luther073082]

I don't know if this is true or not. Well, I guess it is because I have seen heavy men with beautiful women. But at the same time I know I don't want a man that I don't like his body and I don't like heavy guys, even when I was heavy I didn't.

It just not matter enough for it to matter to me.

Honestly thinner girls to a point are more attractive physically. But I am still physically attracted to overweight women and I'm not about to go looking for the "perfect" woman in terms of physicallity.

I'd much rather have a woman that is 270 pounds that I love then have a woman that is at a perfect weight and looks like a model that is just superfical, annoying, ignorant, or has nothing in common with me. Because I still am attracted physically to women who are 270 pounds.

Do you see what I'm saying?

 

[Gardener101]

It just not matter enough for it to matter to me.

Honestly thinner girls to a point are more attractive physically. But I am still physically attracted to overweight women and I'm not about to go looking for the "perfect" woman in terms of physicallity.

I'd much rather have a woman that is 270 pounds that I love then have a woman that is at a perfect weight and looks like a model that is just superfical, annoying, ignorant, or has nothing in common with me. Because I still am attracted physically to women who are 270 pounds.

Do you see what I'm saying?

I'm sure we all see what you're saying, but the OP was asking for the opinion of women.

 

[JPPT1974]

I don't know if this is true or not. Well, I guess it is because I have seen heavy men with beautiful women. But at the same time I know I don't want a man that I don't like his body and I don't like heavy guys, even when I was heavy I didn't.

I would prefer someone nicer
On the inside rather than the outside IMHO!

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

dang what do ladies define as "heavy"

It differs from each person. Some like a little more meat on the bones, and some like really lean guys.

I personally like a little meat on the bones, but I don't want someone who has trouble walking around or is unhealthy.

 

[JPPT1974]

I will tell you all that I am 5'2"
And weigh approximately 140-145 pounds
But my bones are medium.

 

[Moonlight Lady]

Beauty inside AND out is fantastic.... and no, that doesn't men ugly vs. good looking or whatever. I find myself attracted to confident people who take care of themselves - spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.

I wouldn't consider going out with someone who didn't give himself a spiritual workout every week (reading his bible, worship, prayer, etc), these things keep you spiritually healthy.....and I feel the same way about being mentally, emotionally, and physically healthy as well: read, talk, exercise.

I'm only interested in a mate who makes an effort to be spiritually fit, mentally fit, emotionally fit, and physically fit, because those are the standards I set for myself daily.



Having a gut is not a permanent issue....if you're honest with yourself you know this is something you can change anytime you choose. I'm not talking about becoming super skinny.... you can be big and healthy.... but there is a difference between being big, and being over weight. Only you can decided what kind of life and future you want for yourself.... Once you do, don't be afraid to work at getting it.

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[Luther073082]

Moonlight, why do I get the impression that you misreported your age?

 

[Moonlight Lady]

Moonlight, why do I get the impression that you misreported your age?

lol... Actually that was an error... I didn't realize it until I had been registered about a week. I just don't know how to change it now.

 

[Macrina]

To the OP:

As someone who is halfway through my own weight-loss journey, I'll share one of the best pieces of advice I read: Live like you are already at your goal weight. I don't know if you're trying to slim down or what, but the idea is not to put dating or hobbies or anything else you want on hold until you have everything in your life "just so." None of us are ever going to have everything going perfectly all at once, so we have to learn to be confident with who God made us to be and the package we're in right now. The key factor here truly is your own confidence.

I'm sure there's as much variation among women as there is among men on this sort of thing, but perhaps it will help you to know that I was interested in my guy before I even knew what he looked like. I do think he is very handsome, but he peaked my interest online before I ever saw his picture. If he gained or lost weight, my feelings for him wouldn't change.

I am blessed that he feels the same way about me. He supports my efforts to slim down because it's what I want in order to be fit and healthy, but he thinks I'm beautiful as I am.

I'd rather build on that foundation than on a list of required physical characteristics. And I'm sure I'm not the only woman who feels that way.

 

[b4uris]

In general, women judge guys based on their height, which is in some respects much more superficial than weight.

 

[Macrina]

In general, women judge guys based on their height, which is in some respects much more superficial than weight.

I've seen a number of men on this forum claim that women judge men based on height (or income). Perhaps that is true for some women, but neither I nor my friends care about either of those things. I think it would be best if we spoke for ourselves and our own experiences and avoided generalizations of either gender.

 

[srobinson]

hmmm is it women over 30 who are less picky bout weight. guess I should wait till I'm older to date

 

[Macrina]

hmmm is it women over 30 who are less picky bout weight. guess I should wait till I'm older to date

Or you could date an older woman. A couple of guys around here are doing that.

 

[Tamara224]

I like men with some meat on them... a 'gut' isn't the least bit unattractive to me.

That being said... there is a point when it is too big.

However, I know guys have a hard time believing this...

But, imo, women really are not as concerned with appearances as men are. We really can find ourselves attracted to men based almost entirely on personality.

For an example:

I had a professor in law school who was about 5'7" - 5'8", balding, weighed probably right around 180-200 lbs, (had a bit of a gut). He looked a little bit like Jason Alexander (George from Seinfeld). Almost every woman in my class agreed that there was just something really sexy about that man. It was his intelligence, confidence and charisma that made him attractive to us.

So really, don't stress about that so much. If you feel that you would be more confident with yourself if you lost weight... then by all means, work on it. I know that losing weight did LOADS for my confidence (still have a ways to go). But other aspects of my life supply more confidence - things that don't seem as precarious to me.

For another example of a guy I think is cute, despite his gut...

 

[srobinson]

hmm seems like my options are if I want to be seen as physically attractive which is a must have and being thin is the definition of physically attractive then I better lose weight or no dice. What if I cant lose weight? Am I doomed to a life of singleness?