I do agree with this, the essence of what I am saying is that although we are free from the tyranny of the curses of the Law, there is still the process of sanctification that we must walk through, and some of the Generational "stuff" by whatever process it manifested in our lives before Christ is part of that sinful nature that we must put off. This process of sanctification is not via the Law, but through the power of the Spirit, as we trust, and yield to Him.
I will give you an example form my own life to illustrate the point that I am making.
My family history, on both sides, contains a lot of mental illness, in particular BiPolar or (as it used to be called) Manic Depression, as such both myself and my Sister have been clinically diagnosed with depression, and have both tried to commit suicide because of this depression. Now when I became a Christian, I received Jesus Christ, and all of the promises, which in Christ are yes and amen, where given to me because of my new identity and position in Christ. Now did my depression go because I received Christ?? no, why ? because I still had this member of my body, making war against my spirit wanting to bring me again in captivity to its lusts. Now does Christ therefore set me free from these things? Yes, of course, He has set me free, then why do I struggle with those things that once controlled me, things that where learned behaviors coming through my family line? Because to my flesh I serve the Law of Sin, and my mind serves the Law of Christ, what must be done with my mind therefore???
ROMANS 12:1-3
The Answer is in the ongoing transformation of the mind, as the mind is renewed we are transformed into the reality of Christ, this is, however a process, and has nothing to do with trusting or not trusting in the Law. Transformation is used in tandem with the concept of Sanctification.
in regards to those seeking to be made perfect by the Law, I agree with you, many have missed it, and are seeking to be made perfct by their own righteousness rather than Christs