hmmm i have come to the conclusion that it works for some and not for others!
Oh I think when they say you're like a brother they mean that they arnt interested in dating u...there are several reasons for that; either they're interested in someone else and it has nothing to do with you. Or...you dont come accross as relationship material...sorry.Ideally, I'd love to have a friend for six months or so before we start dating. However, all my female friends I've wanted to date have told me I'm "like a brother" to them. I'm still waiting for a woman to decode that.
As much as I'd love to be friends first, it just doesn't work out for me that way. I'm starting to think I'm meant to be single for the rest of my life anyway, but the beer I'm drinking isn't in celebration.
Sorry if I come across as asking for pity. Just trying to offer an opinion when I'm not in the most positive of moods.
I've never been very good at remaining "just friends" with someone I was interested in dating. It usually lasts about a week before I get involved in a relationship.
However, my last relationship started with our first date and it was the longest I've ever had (10 months). We got too physical (don't worry, we never had sex), and never really talked (not that I ever really talked to my previous two either). So, she broke up with me due to communication problems.
We decided the break up was caused, in part, due to the fact that we were never really friends. So we stayed friends, and, though we see each other once a week (I go to college, she's taking a semester off due to personal reasons), we talk on the phone virtually every day. We hold hands a lot more often than we used to, and we talk a lot more than we used to. We're dating as "just friends" right now, because she's not ready for a relationship at the moment (her personal reasons).
What is everyone's opinion on the friends first thing? Is that how you prefer your relationships to start?
What is everyone's opinion on the friends first thing? Is that how you prefer your relationships to start?
Ideally, I'd love to have a friend for six months or so before we start dating. However, all my female friends I've wanted to date have told me I'm "like a brother" to them. I'm still waiting for a woman to decode that.