Friday Nights

[renaistre]

I know a lot of you here don't date. I also know that Friday nights are traditionally "date nights," or at least that's what movies and music tell us. So I was just curious what ya'll do on Friday nights.

Aside from just wanting to get to know everyone better, I'm asking this partly because it is one of my weak spots. Even though I'm ok with not dating right now, those hours when I get home after a long week of school and work seem to be prime time for that annoying little red guy with the pitchfork. I can almost hear him whispering "you should get out and have some 'fun'," or "everyone else is doing it, why should you sit here and suffer."

Normally, I can see right through these whispers and they don't bother me. But the mental exhaustion from school and work gets to me by the end of the week, and a lot of times I just give in and sit there feeling sorry for myself. So if you have any good ideas, they might be helpful.

Right now, some of the things I do are:

- Go to a Bible study once every few weeks.
- Play my instruments.
- Go to sleep early.
- Play computer games with my little brother.
- Go online and log on to CF.

 

[fishstix]

-play computer games
-rent a movie
-take a nap
-watch tv
-drive to see friends (more in summer when the roads are good)
-work on hobbies

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

*Go to the gym
*read, read, read, read, read
*visit the nephews
*grocery shop
*clean
*write
*rent a movie, put on the PJs early and veg
*roam the bookstore

 

[msjones21]

~Rent a movie and eat Ben and Jerry's ice cream out of the carton.
~Play poker with my family
~Go to Barnes & Noble to read books, sip Starbucks coffee, and listen to music.
~Play with my Guinea Pigs.

 

[Shixel]

~work

 

[jenptcfan]

I plan stuff with my single friends
rent a movie
read
catch up on laundry!
work in the yard (once it gets dark later)
our Singles group at church tries to plan stuff on the weekends sometimes

I'm not completely against dating, so I occasionally go on a date on a Fri.--pretty rare that I run into someone that I want to date (who also wants to date me!).

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

I go downtown with a volunteer minsitry to the slums and alleyways every friday night and we bring food and clothing and other neccessities to the homeless people and pray for them.

 

[Sketcher]

hang out with friends.

 

[stubbornkelly]

I usually go out with friends or come home and get some work (be it thesis related or housework) done. But you can usually count on me going out for a few hours. Friday night as "date night" isn't really the norm around here. I'm more likely to go out one-on-one with a man on a Saturday or weeknight, or a Sunday afternoon.

Maybe it's an urban thing. I'm in DC - where are some of you from?

I'm curious, though - even if it is "date night" in your area, what's wrong with going out and having fun on a Friday night, even if it's not on a date?

 

[renaistre]

*roam the bookstore

~Go to Barnes & Noble to read books, sip Starbucks coffee, and listen to music.

This one sounds good. Kick back at B&N with a hot chocolate (I don't like coffee ) with a good book...

I plan stuff with my single friends...

I'm not completely against dating, so I occasionally go on a date on a Fri.--pretty rare that I run into someone that I want to date (who also wants to date me!).

What kind of stuff do you plan?

I'm not 100% against dating either. I just feel that I shouldn't be dating right now.

I go downtown with a volunteer minsitry to the slums and alleyways every friday night and we bring food and clothing and other neccessities to the homeless people and pray for them.

Now that's . Which city?

I've done things similar to that a few times, but not regularly.

...Friday night as "date night" isn't really the norm around here. I'm more likely to go out one-on-one with a man on a Saturday or weeknight, or a Sunday afternoon.

Maybe it's an urban thing. I'm in DC - where are some of you from?

I'm from the Los Angeles area. Since I haven't actually been on a date, I can only make assumptions based on what I hear. But I think Friday is typical around here.

I don't want to make it sound like my life is so miserable, because it's really not. But I guess what I'm getting at is that, when I read:

I'm curious, though - even if it is "date night" in your area, what's wrong with going out and having fun on a Friday night, even if it's not on a date?

I think, "That's a great idea! But go out where, have fun doing what, and with whom?" Some of the things people have mentioned, I already do. And there are some good ideas here too. (And thanks for all the replies, even the one I haven't quoted.) I think part of the "problem" is that most of my friends are not Christians, and the things they like to do are usually things I want to stay away from.

 

[klewlis]

I'm almost always working on Friday night.

when I'm not, I'm usually glad for an evening just to stay home and do nothing! In which case I'll watch a movie or read a book. (and there's always Comedy Friday on CBC!)

Otherwise, it's always fun to do something with a group of friends.

 

[Living4Him03]

*chat on the phone w/ boyfriend (ok so i am dating but my friday nights can be pretty lonely too! most of them are!)
*watch the WB friday night shows
*rent a movie
*go home to visit my parents
*call my grandmother and chat
*eat with a few good friends
*go see a movie
*work on screenplay ideas
*study
*go to sleep early
*just lay there and listen to some good music

 

[MewithoutYou]

Go to Shows

 

[Injured Soldier]

(ok so i am dating but my friday nights can be pretty lonely too! most of them are!)

Looks like we've got an agent for the enemy in the Singles Forum!

I do 3 things on a Friday when I'm at home:

Sleep
Read
Play harmonica

If I'm visiting Sydney, I visit my old youth group.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

Now that's . Which city?

Vancouver. Yep. It's good.

 

[Sirius]

After i get off school i get on my computer from a bout 3 - when ever i get tired ussaly around 12 am
sometimes i will go out and see a movie

 

[wvmtnkid]

Usually depends on what is going on-sometimes there is an activity at church I go to. If not-

* usually when it is warm out, work in the yard, enjoy the evening on my porch

* go out with friends to dinner

* put on PJ's early and watch a movie (mostly in the winter)

* curl up with a good book and read

* have been known to go out on a date on Friday's

 

[jenptcfan]

What kind of stuff do you plan?

I'm not 100% against dating either. I just feel that I shouldn't be dating right now.

I think, "That's a great idea! But go out where, have fun doing what, and with whom?" Some of the things people have mentioned, I already do. And there are some good ideas here too. (And thanks for all the replies, even the one I haven't quoted.) I think part of the "problem" is that most of my friends are not Christians, and the things they like to do are usually things I want to stay away from.

Sometimes I plan a girls night where we just go out to dinner/rent a chick-flick/get caught up on whatever's going on in eachother's life. There are also different restaurants around here that have local bands play on Fri. or Sat. nights and we go listen to them occasionally.

I'm kind of a 'homebody' anyway, so I don't go do stuff that often, and usually it doesn't bother me. But it seems like other people ask me "hey what did you do last night?" and if I say that I just stayed in and read a book or whatever, they get all concerned. I get this a lot: "You need to get out and do something! You shouldn't be sitting alone in your house doing nothing." or this classic: "How are you ever gonna find a man if you aren't out meeting new people??" It's very annoying. I wouldn't mind being out meeting new people and just being social, but I don't know a lot of people here so I don't even know where to begin. I go to church and am involved there--I'm in the choir, a committee member, a member of a small group, a member of the singles group....and my church is my family here (I don't have any ACTUAL family here). BUT it seems like the new people I meet through church are usually married or older than me or other nice people who I enjoy being around, but can't necessarily relate to very well as close friends.

We used to have a community-wide Christian singles worship service and Christian related activities which was really cool, but that kind of died out. That was a really neat way to network with other Christians and make new friends with similar values. Maybe there's something like that in your area?

 

[Lia]

I don't date on friday nights or in any day of the week, as well.

I don't go for casual dating especially with non-Christians these days..not to be exclusive to the non-believers but like someone said above, they just simply don't share my values and beliefs..I just wanna play safe within the boundary (fell too many times for many unbelievers in the past). I am praying to God to give me "a date" that will last for a lifetime...someday

In the meantime, these are the things that I do on Friday nights/weekend nights.

• go out with my roommate and do random things, usually go out to eat.
• gym
• go to singles meeting at my church (once a month)
• read my book at home/go to bookstore
• go shopping
• meet up with my other single friends
• cook and invite people over to my place
• call my friends up
• practice my guitar
• watch a movie or tv

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

Do any of you have the problem of all your friends being married? I'm 27, but everyone I know is married w/kids. I wouldn't mind going out and hanging with the girls, but they're home with the hubby/kids. The people I do meet at work who are single don't really follow the same kind of lifestyle I lead. Out to the clubs until 3am is not my idea of fun.