So, I did a little searching for instances of the word "fornication" in the bible... because it doesn't matter what the direct definition of the english word is... the applicable definition is that of the word translated INTO the english word fornication.
in some searching I found: "1 Cor 6:9 badly mistranslate "porneia" as fornication. Corinth was a wide-open port city. People there could get sex any way they wanted it. Where our English translations read 'fornication', Paul's original Greek word was 'porneia' which means to sell and refers to slaves bought and sold for cultic prostitution. What was happening in the Temples of Corinth was farmers were visiting the temple priestesses who represented the fertility Gods. By having sex with these prostitutes they believed their fields would be more furtile. It didn't even have to do with going to prostitutes, but pagan cultic worship."
In Acts 15:20 and again in 29, it mentions things to abstain from... one of those being fornication... but again... the greek word used is "porneia," "prostitution." Beyond the spiritual implication of sleeping with a pegan priestess in worship of her gods.... even mundane prostitutes are dangerous due to disease, you could be robbed, and you leave yourself vulnerable to being harmed otherwise... it seems prostitutes are something you were to abstain from, like idols, and things that have been strangled, and from blood. Plus, even if you weren't married, I'm sure the prostitutes of those times had the same potential for the problems modern prostitutes face... by hiring a prostitute you encourage them into a profession that is very dangerous for them.
In acts 21:25... again... porneia... "prostitution"... not "any sexual contact without marriage to that person.
Matthew 5:32, speaking of the grounds for divorce... again... porneia... "prostitution."
Romans 1:29 lists fornication as one of the things bad people were filled with... but the greek has no word describing it.
In fact... in my preliminary search, I'm not finding any greek word to mean something so restrictive as "any and all sexual contact outside of marriage."
Okay. I've heard the "porneia" argument before and I'm open to it...if someone can show me some credible proof. Are the supplemental writings that, while not canonical, can further elaborate on Paul's writings about the Corithians? I don't know of any. The only place I have ever seen this argument is on very liberal sites with no real citation. They simply take a "that's what Paul was really saying" kind of approach without credible documentation. You could argue anything like that.
So... what else does the bible say?
Remember Abraham was married and was not producing an offspring. His wife asked him to give her a son through her servant... although he was married to her, all three involved consented to the situation, and along came ishmael... without whom, we wouldn't have of the lessons learned via isaac and ishmael.
It's not entirely unheard of for exemplary bible characters to ASK their spouse to produce a child with someone other than themselves. Also, remember in the O.T. there was a very real commandment... if your brother is married and doesn't produce an offspring before he dies, it's your duty to produce an offspring for him... even though you may be married to someone else. Remember, Onan was killed for not obeying this, in spite of being directly commanded to do so. He was not killed for masturbating, regardless of what some say. He was not killed for having sex with his brother's widow... he was killed for having sex with her and purposefully avoiding the production of a child so that he could continue having sex with her.
Solomon was the wisest human to live... and how many wives did he have? And how many concubines beyond that? And have you ever READ the song of solomon? Yet, he was always considered a faithful man.
Good points. They have never been answered in a satisfactory manner by anyone I've asked thus far.
Some will argue that God meant for you to "know" only one person, so you will not have anyone to compare someone you love deeply above all others to and envy anyone else. Well, as you pointed out, the accounts of Abraham and Solomon pretty much destroy that argument.
So... if a couple are dating... they plan to marry, and engage in "non-intercourse sexual activity" ... are they committing a sin?
Probably not in every instance, IMO. It really would depend on the depth of the relationship and the nature of the intent to marry, IMO. Some people do not marry because they cannot afford it for the forseeable future. Should they be denied the relationship until better financial days are ahead? What if better financial days never come? Maybe one partner finally leaves convinced the biological clock is ticking and that the other partner will never be able to pull through with the commitment, only to regret it years later.
I have said before...of all the aspects that make up a marriage, the legal piece of paper is far and away the least important.
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