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Fatolia said:
Geesh I certainly wish more girls would flirt with me. Everyone always seems so deadpan serious. At my 20 somethings group, there's enough tension to choke a baboon.

LOL!! :p you serious, fatolia?? We just had some dude get up in front of everyone and start rapping at our last 20-something group....it was awesome!!!
 
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I just think it is plain wrong :( it is hard to express why, maybe because I am not 100% sure why, but I just find it very distasteful. seeing other people do it, it is just not proper behaviour. I think it is rude, incredibly disrespectful, ill-mannered and exceptionally sleazy. I find it to be really quite shallow. the entire culture and principle behind it seems to be that causal sexual encounters are normal, acceptable and good.

but that's just me... :sigh:
 
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rebel_conservative said:
I just think it is plain wrong :( it is hard to express why, maybe because I am not 100% sure why, but I just find it very distasteful. seeing other people do it, it is just not proper behaviour. I think it is rude, incredibly disrespectful, ill-mannered and exceptionally sleazy. I find it to be really quite shallow. the entire culture and principle behind it seems to be that causal sexual encounters are normal, acceptable and good.

but that's just me... :sigh:
That's exactly what I was thinking, it seems like theres too much sexual connotation. There's other ways to express that you are interested in someone.
 
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Buskanaka said:
I don't know if this is necessarily flirting, but a friend and me have noticed that if the other person picks up the phone and it's a girl, they automatically start talking differently :D


Hmmm...it's a conspiracy, I tell ya..... a conspiracy...:p
 
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I tend to be fairly flirtatious, but I'm also quite good at keeping things respectable. (And I have no problem with flirting, so long as it doesn't cross the line into sexual harassment).

My grandmother told me, when I was a little girl, that "proper" flirting should be along the lines of, "Oh, aren't you a charming person," as opposed to "Hi, I want you!". Good rule to follow, I think.

There's also so much more to flirting than verbal stuff - eye contact, body posture, all kinds of stuff that I can guarantee almost all of us do unconsciously. Go get a cup of coffee or a soda and sit and watch people some time and notice how they'll mirror each other's body postures and stuff, it's fascinating!
 
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flirting in this church i go to is not tolerable. we are to treat the girls as if they are our sisters... with the utmost purity. and we cannot date anyone outside of the church...hmmm how am i ever suppose to get a girlfriend. i think they are trying to force us to stay single like paul did.
 
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Abuna said:
flirting in this church i go to is not tolerable. we are to treat the girls as if they are our sisters... with the utmost purity. and we cannot date anyone outside of the church...hmmm how am i ever suppose to get a girlfriend. i think they are trying to force us to stay single like paul did.
I sure wouldn't last long at that church.
 
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Tenorvoice said:
:eek: :doh:

You mean its a *shivers* a a a a a a a a a ddddannnnnceeee??


I'm not supposed to do that ;) (I'm baptist ya know) hehe

I like your style Tenorvoice stay cool man!
I mean that too, your posts are always posative:)
 
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Abuna said:
flirting in this church i go to is not tolerable. we are to treat the girls as if they are our sisters... with the utmost purity. and we cannot date anyone outside of the church...hmmm how am i ever suppose to get a girlfriend. i think they are trying to force us to stay single like paul did.

moral of the story?

get the hell out of that church.
 
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Inperfected said:
I used to habitually flirt.. and i forcefuly stopped it, since i hurt too many guys....

But in general i don't think flirting is bad, you have to be careful whether it's coming across wrong tho...

Yeh that is what happens if you are really attractive... You ARE really attractive aren't you? Just curious if I am right.
 
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Flirting... I think there are two kinds...
Mind play/intellectual banter: flirting by conversation-based attraction... playing and flirting through the mind... attraction to the wit, the knowledge, and the prowess of the other person...

Sexual flirting
: Body language, eye contact, movement, etc... Things that don't indulge the intellectual mind.


Both are dangerous
!
 
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