I've been dating a girl about a year and she is great. More than likely getting engaged soon. Here is my situation i wanted advice on. She is a nurse, as am I, and she's been staying with her parents for just a little while. She is doing very well with her finances and is very nearly debt free (student loans and such). We both do our best to live within our means. What concerns me is her family constantly relies on her as their bank account. A brother had a situation where he had gotten behind on the house payments and was going to lose the house and she was basically require to pay it which they have no intention on paying back, she's had to give the other brother money, and the parent's have a really hard time budgeting their money and frequently have trouble making their bills without her. It is frustrating to her because she doesn't feel like she can't get ahead without the family dipping into her bank account in a manner of speaking. She's said that it seems like every time she saves up some money one of her family members will make a bad financial decision and if she doesn't fix it then she is the bad guy. She has tried sitting the parents down and working on a budget but usually just ending up with the dad getting mad and the mother acting like she doesn't get it. My concern is that if we do get married we'll end up having to finance them on a continual basis. I am not uncaring and have no problem helping people out. However I fear it will be a constant thing and with all the expenses we will have as a married couple i don't know if it is fair for us to eventually have to carry her family as well. She has said that if we were married she wouldn't give them money without talking to me first, but I told her I couldn't tell you you can't help your own family if they need it. i just don't know what to do.