Feeling lonely again, doesn't feel like people are able to understand me.

[zxcv]

Just feeling lonely again. Like people don't understand me or want to be with me. Just having a time figuring out why a girl would like me or would want to be with me. I really don't understand how to connect to people or how really how dating works. Just having one of those nights where I'm worried I'll be alone forever.

It also really doesn't that I don't seem to have the same interested most people have...

 

[bèlla]

Its hard when we feel misunderstood. I felt the same a little while ago and I kept giving those feelings to God and hashing them out with Him so I didn’t remain in that place.

As for women, there isn’t a lot you have to figure out. Being yourself is ideal. No matter how awkward or uncool you believe yourself to be. Demonstrate your love for God and make that the springboard for your discussions.

The idea is developing acquaintances and determining if the connection warrants further exploration in courtship. The best isn’t meant in the early stages. You’ll learn your partner and their needs through marriage. That’s the one you date, spoil, etc.

 

[devin553344]

You're never alone, God is always there, has always been there, preserving you till this day.

You could pray (if you haven't) that God will send a special someone into your life. I found he usually did within months or less. Be yourself. You should find someone that relates to you on some level.

 

[zxcv]

I've been asking God for help with this for years, maybe even a decade now...

 

[devin553344]

I've been asking God for help with this for years, maybe even a decade now...

Then if I can suggest: get into church groups, extra from church services. And perhaps other groups and get active in your community perhaps. Then you can interact in an non-threatening way (as a friend) and see if there are any girls that you relate to.

 

[devin553344]

Just feeling lonely again. Like people don't understand me or want to be with me. Just having a time figuring out why a girl would like me or would want to be with me. I really don't understand how to connect to people or how really how dating works. Just having one of those nights where I'm worried I'll be alone forever.

It also really doesn't that I don't seem to have the same interested most people have...

If I can ask: what are your interests?

 

[bèlla]

I've been asking God for help with this for years, maybe even a decade now...

Marriage is meant to be a permanent connection. When you consider ten years against the span of your lifetime it isn’t long.

The time between the fulfillment of our desires is purposeful. We develop a deeper relationship with Him which becomes the benchmark for relations with others. Including our companion.

We develop patience, faith, trust and understand the meaning of fat and lean and serving others. All that you are today you will bring into your union. Some attributes are beneficial and others are stumbling blocks.

While you’re single you have the opportunity to work through your challenges without the pressure of expectations or demands.

Ask the Lord to prepare you for marriage. Read everything you can on the subject, forge relationships with married men, and ask others to pray on your behalf.

Pray for your future bride. Pray for the godly qualities you seek, her welfare, and a warm reception when you meet.

Don’t despair. God has it all in hand.

 

[Niels]

I'll let you in on a little secret:
Nobody ever really, completely, understands how dating works. It isn't rocket science, but it's at least a little different for everyone. Sometimes, a lot different. To be sure, many pretend to know, or think they know, or maybe they share similar scripts or backgrounds which help move things along, but much of it is subjective. Everybody's fumbling around in the dark to an extent. Even those who seem to have it easy.

It can take some of us a little longer to find a real connection, but it's all part of the human experience. Try to be the best version of you that you can, so when you meet someone right for you more clear that you're a good match for each other. Rather than figuring out how or why a girl would be interested in you, work on being true to yourself. That way, when right kind of woman comes along you're in a good place to make it work.

 

[MadamAutumn]

Sometimes we seek in others what is missing within us. Do you know once you meet that woman, she won't remove personal lack of confidence or pain etc, you don't understand why a girl will like you, so if you don't know, how would she know? You need healing first. Only God can heal us and truly comfort us. Instead of focusing on that woman where is she.... First seek God and become a strong man of God. So when its time and if its the Will of God, he will introduce you to that special woman. You both can live together for the glory of God.

 

[blackribbon]

Have you asked any one out? Have you actually done anything new or different to meet a girl...or are you just doing the stuff you did before and complaining that no woman has showed up yet?

 

[zxcv]

If I can ask: what are your interests?

Video games, anime, God, mythology, politics, other stuff.

 

[zxcv]

Have you asked any one out? Have you actually done anything new or different to meet a girl...or are you just doing the stuff you did before and complaining that no woman has showed up yet?

Still can't really figure out what to say with them, or what to do with them or just how to interact with them.

 

[devin553344]

Video games, anime, God, mythology, politics, other stuff.

Well that's great, you share the same interests as a lot of people. You could try those interests as groups to join to make friends. You could have a lot to talk about.

 

[blackribbon]

Still can't really figure out what to say with them, or what to do with them or just how to interact with them.

I suspect that you talk to women all the time. You talk to girls your own age like people, no different than you talk to anyone. And you practice by just talking to all the people around you. Do you thinking that talking to a girl you might be interested in is somehow easier for other people? It isn't. You got to practice talking to people you don't know and then it still won't be easy, but it will be easier.

 

[timewerx]

Video games, anime, God, mythology, politics, other stuff.

Asians love these things. You should hang out with them. Go to a church that have predominantly Asian members.

Unless you don't prefer Asian women.

 

[zxcv]

Asians love these things. You should hang out with them. Go to a church that have predominantly Asian members.

Unless you don't prefer Asian women.

I wouldn't mind going for Asian women, but I don't really know many Asian women. It's mostly black and white around here. I'm obviously fine with other white women, but I'm not into black girls in a marriage type way. I know, people are going to scream racism now.

 

[timewerx]

I wouldn't mind going for Asian women, but I don't really know many Asian women. It's mostly black and white around here. I'm obviously fine with other white women, but I'm not into black girls in a marriage type way. I know, people are going to scream racism now.

You live in the south?

Consider moving to the West Coast, if you don't like LA, go SF, plenty of Asians there. Hawaii is also a great option.

You have a big problem and consider making a big move, and literally moving out if you don't have any other options.

You work in IT now.... It should be easier for you to find IT work in other states (before making the move).

Plenty of Asians in Canada too if you want more laid back culture.

 

[blackribbon]

Video games, anime, God, mythology, politics, other stuff.

Asians love these things. You should hang out with them. Go to a church that have predominantly Asian members.

Unless you don't prefer Asian women.

The young women around here like and do all the things mentioned here. I know my daughter and her crowds do. I see those as normal millennial activities. Where do you live? What are the girls around you into?

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Everyone feels this way. Even when I was in a relationship I still felt lonely. There is no solution to this problem other than figuring out what the hell works. Trial and error is the solution.

 

[timewerx]

The young women around here like and do all the things mentioned here. I know my daughter and her crowds do. I see those as normal millennial activities. Where do you live? What are the girls around you into?

The disclaimer is many young women will grow out of it. They love games when young but as they get older and do more reponsibilities, they lose interest in video games.