Feeling like an idiot

[Periann]

I feel like an idiot right now. I took a test that was supposed to be really easy to pass and the results have come back and I didn't pass the test. I really really feel stupid because I know so many people who are in less competitive colleges/studies then I am in and they have all passed and I didnt. This test was a prerequisite to getting a certain job. The thing is that I already have a great job for the next school year, so I dont know whether doing a retest would be of any use(because I won't need that job anyway). But, I still feel dumb that I didn't pass the test, and feel like I should take it just to show that I could pass it if I put a little bit of studying into it. I mean, I will be taking the MCAT's in a couple of years God willing, and I dont want this doubt to linger in my mind. Do you think I should retake this test or should I just suck it up?

Sorry Im not sure if this is Christian counsel or not but I do need some sort of advice. My parents are sadly dissapointed in me and so am I.

 

[Flynmonkie]

Hi!
I have a little saying...there is no such thing as failure - only not to try! And I think it is obvious you are an intelligent thinker! Just from your post! I am not much of a test taker... and I have a pretty good IQ. (Spelling is not my forte either!) Tests always seem to cause me to freeze up! Some cannot give speeches in public.. I am a horrible test taker!!

Looking back on all the twists and turns my life has taken, some being just like your situation. I have found that ALWAYS persist if this is in fact what you want. Sometimes however, in my life, when I keep hitting a brick wall after prayers, I find that that was not the path God wanted for me at that time in my life. It can be very frustrating and sometimes you feel you have lost your way. Please do not ever feel discouraged, but I am not going to lie to you, it happens!
You have to make a decision - is this test something you want to pursue until you get it right? Or not? I doubt very seriously that your parents are disappointed in you! For you but in you??
There comes a point in time in your life were you have to stand on your own two feet. You have to toot your own horn. I have a couple of rules I live by.


1.) Never take no for an answer if it what you want. You want it bad enough you will get it. But ALWAYS weigh the consequences of the goal, and then decide if it is something you can live with or without. Fight for what you want. Never back down from your goals, even when they seem overwhelming!! Such is life and you will never find success if you turn tail and run when the going gets tough.... the going is always going to be tough...so expect it... when it is not...it makes for a nicer surprise!
2) NEVER EVER EVER compare you to others. For various reasons. You never know how God is working his plan with you or with others. Another reason is that it does nothing but chip away at your own self-esteem. There is never a comparison. Your one of a beautiful kind!!
3.) ALWAYS Love yourself even your faults and try to work on being a better person. Always recognize your faults and build from there.


But as always remember to pray. He knows your need -- talk it over with him.

 

[Rafael]

That's some really good advice by Flymonkey. History tells us that most great men fail many times before making significant progress towards their goals. Whatever your goal is, determination and desire to succeed are major factors. If you want it, do what it takes to have it, if not, and your satisfied where your at, then that is a choice to be made by only you.

 

[Pastor Frank]

IDIOT/DUMB/STUPID -these are the personal insults you've made against yourself in a very brief message.But you're personal put-downs didn't stop there.You went on to state,"doubt in my mind" and "disappointed in me".The real problem is not what happened but your reaction to what happened.It's absolutely essential that you stop your negitive self-talk and degrading remarks about yourself.People who verbally abuse themselves the way you do,turn into lifetime failiures,unable to succeed in anything.Our subconsciuous minds react very strongly to name-calling and personal insults and in time it will give you the performance you are talking about -failure.Taking the test won't be at all important once you build up your self-confidence through self-love and praise instead of self-hate and condemnation.

 

[Flynmonkie]

Wow Great advice!!!Pastor Frank, You know I wonder if you have any suggestions of sites or books or other things that can help one to identify these traits so they can work on them? I myself have these momments, this is how I devised my little rule system. I am interested however for Christian perspective on this topic. I always say never second guess your better judgement, or never doubt yourself... but I think all of us do at one time or another. So if you have any good ideas for a read..let me know!

 

[Periann]

First of all, thanks to all of you for your advice. I was rather dissapointed yesterday when I heard the results, because I guess somehow I thought I would pass it. Im honestly not a negative thinker most of the time, but when I got the results I automatically started punishing myself in my thoughts because I thought that was how I was supposed to feel. The truth is, I know if I took it again and studied for it, I could pass it easily, I guess I was just too cocky the last time. In my first post I mentioned that I had another job for the next schoolyear, and its kind of cool how that came about because it was such a surprise for me. Around 20 people applied for it (or more Im not sure) and they gave the job to me based on my interview. So I guess Im not really all of those things I was calling myself. I might decide to retake it later, but Im not sure. I guess right now Ive just decided to suck it up