feeling depressed:-(

[Faithfulandtrue]

I think singleness wouldn't be so bad if couples didn't rub it in your face 24/7. i mean yeah they have a right to be talking about it and all but I mean when its excessively bragged about ALL The Time by someone who knows what your going through itsa bit jerkish.

 

[Goodbook]

Ok I knew this would crop up sooner or later and I have a book recommendation for you

Its called How to live joyfully single in a couples world. By harold J sala.

I have just read it and its great.
I dont know if you a book person but if I were you I would get thee to a library and borrow some books about the single heroes of faith, like..

Jesus
Paul
Mary, martha and Lazarus

Those single ladies who made a difference like Amy Carmichael
Corrie ten Boom
jackie pullinger
mary Slessor
Gladys aywlard

Not every christian woman can be a pastors wife you know...

 

[CCHIPSS]

Random thpught but I really wish society didn't worship marriage. Like seriously can't find even a movie about a single person who isn't portrayed as a loser. Just thought that also bugs me.

Society is the fallen world. They will worship anything but God. They worship money. They worship pleasure. They worship being popular and fitting in. And yes they worship marriage. All these would become gods and idols to them.

But anyone who worships these things will be disappointed. Money might disappear. Pleasure will get boring or even become an addiction. Popularity will drop even with superstars like Arnold Schwarzenegger. Marriage might fail (as in divorce). And marriage will certainly fail and disappoint if a perfect happy marriage is the expectation.

But we are called to something much greater. We are called to worship God who is Love. This is the same Love that created us. This Love gave up his own Son so that we are all saved.

Because God did not spare even his own son to in order to love us, we know 100% that God loves us when we are poor, when we suffer from pain and addictions, when everyone rejects us, when we are single for long term and even when we are divorced.

Many talks about relying on God to be our strength. And here it is. Love can be painful and costly but that's why Love is power and strength. Do not worship the gifts, but worship the provider who provides abundantly. And let His love flow out of you so you too can love others. It is indeed more blessed to give than to receive, time and money. So ask not what you can receive, but what you can give. This is the cure for worshiping anything in this world. =)

 

[CCHIPSS]

I think singleness wouldn't be so bad if couples didn't rub it in your face 24/7. i mean yeah they have a right to be talking about it and all but I mean when its excessively bragged about ALL The Time by someone who knows what your going through itsa bit jerkish.

You have to understand that a lot of "couples" were at one point "singles" for the longest time. They now finally found someone and the relationship is going great. So they want to share it with people.

So why not just be happy for them? Isn't it better that at least some people found someone that they like?

Now I know there are people that just rub it in your face on purpose. These are very different from that first group of people I mentioned earlier. And the differences are obvious.

These people you should tell them to their face "Hey guys I like you and everything. But when you talk about your relationship that way it makes me uncomfortable. I want to discovered my unique relationship with my future partner for myself. So I really do not need to hear what you just told me." And if that couple get angry at you for that, you know their true heart. God will be the witness and judge between you. So you can leave that couple in peace.

Do not worship marriage, even if other people does. And do not do anything out of jealousy, or to prove a point. And when you do find that BF (and yes you will), do not assume that he will be your husband. All of the above has a great chance of leading you to sin.

Worship God only. Keep your eyes on the provider who loves you. Trust and obey his words because he is on your side. He is for your benefits. You know this because he sent his son to die for you. =)

 

[Goodbook]

Yes don't be bitter, be better.

Thats one of the things that was pointed out in the book. We are all single at some stage in our lives. Remember that, couples often get together because they are taking the path of least resistance! They WANT to be yoked. But being yoked means you are BOUND have you thought about that? Many married couples envy or are jealous of singles because of this.

The christian walk for a single is actually one of liberty. So really you have nothing to be depressed about. If thats a persistent feeling, ok acknowledge it but then take it captive to christ. self pity is Satan's ploy.

 

[Goodbook]

The only person who ever rubbed it in my face that she was married and kept asking when I was going to find a bf was divorced.

 

[CCHIPSS]

The only person who ever rubbed it in my face that she was married and kept asking when I was going to find a bf was divorced.

Because people like that are filled with evil in their heart. Instead of feeling compassion for the singles, they feel the need to show how superior they themselves are. And if that's how they treat strangers, they will not treat their spouses much better. Most likely they treat their spouses even worst. Marriage is when nothing is hidden and everything is exposed.

 

[lighthouse4031]

I think singleness wouldn't be so bad if couples didn't rub it in your face 24/7. i mean yeah they have a right to be talking about it and all but I mean when its excessively bragged about ALL The Time by someone who knows what your going through itsa bit jerkish.

This is true, it is completely obnoxious.

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

You have to understand that a lot of "couples" were at one point "singles" for the longest time. They now finally found someone and the relationship is going great. So they want to share it with people.

So why not just be happy for them? Isn't it better that at least some people found someone that they like?

Now I know there are people that just rub it in your face on purpose. These are very different from that first group of people I mentioned earlier. And the differences are obvious.

These people you should tell them to their face "Hey guys I like you and everything. But when you talk about your relationship that way it makes me uncomfortable. I want to discovered my unique relationship with my future partner for myself. So I really do not need to hear what you just told me." And if that couple get angry at you for that, you know their true heart. God will be the witness and judge between you. So you can leave that couple in peace.

Do not worship marriage, even if other people does. And do not do anything out of jealousy, or to prove a point. And when you do find that BF (and yes you will), do not assume that he will be your husband. All of the above has a great chance of leading you to sin.

Worship God only. Keep your eyes on the provider who loves you. Trust and obey his words because he is on your side. He is for your benefits. You know this because he sent his son to die for you. =)

Or maybe they should be more compassionate to someone who s hurting. Its like someone's who's dad or mom passes away and e going," so yeah mothers day/fathers day was soooo much fun. We did this and that..." that would make me an insensitive jack bleep wouldn't it?

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

Because people like that are filled with evil in their heart. Instead of feeling compassion for the singles, they feel the need to show how superior they themselves are. And if that's how they treat strangers, they will not treat their spouses much better. Most likely they treat their spouses even worst. Marriage is when nothing is hidden and everything is exposed.

Whats the difference between good books experience and mine? I pretend to be happy for people and I'm suddenly bad for feeling like couples are insensitive to me.

 

[Faithfulandtrue]

Its honestly hard to be happy for people who found someone so easy and get married young just so they can have sex and here I'm doing everything to stay pure and dress modest and I'm treated like a second class citizen in church? I just don't get it. What's so great about being single? What is there for couples to envy? Being alone all the time?

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Can I ask? What's so great about being in a relationship? What's the greatest thing you look forward to? Would it actually bring you happiness right now in your life?

 

[Godiswithus(eternally)]

I have also never had a bf, I'm 21 and think right now I need to focus more on myself, of course there are times when I really want a bf but I need to be happy in myself before I bring someone else into the equation. If I'm not happy single then I wont b happy when I enter a relationship either, its as simple as that, I do feel for you though when you are the only single ones out of all of your friends, which has happened to me multiple times, I see girls who are engaged and in relationships and I do get jealous but I think thats normal, even tho I dont want to b jealous and Im trying hard not to be.

My best friend has never been single for long and always has a bf, she has been through so many heartbreaks and pain it just makes me sad for her when it happens, I kind of feel like saying just be single for a few moments, she is engaged now to a guy i dont know so well and she is worrying about things that I dont have to worry about, like finding a house, joint bank accounts etc. I just want to say that having a bf can be a struggle especially if they are not you destined future husband. Being alone is not that much of a burden at all compared to the many difficulties young people in relationships deal with, and there is a great difference to being alone and being lonely, you can still live a great life with a career, family/friends and hobbies. Right now Im trying to find my own happiness by myself before I expereince it with guy.