Feel Like Will Never Find Someone?

[Christopher M Pruitt]

I know this is common. It's just for me I live with my parents at 30, I have no money since I'm disabled, & while I know there are women who don't mind a man with bad health, I just feel like I can't find a woman. I can't leave the house due to being unable to walk, so I'm in bed all day. My memory is also similar to that of early Alzheimer's. Doctors don't know why yet. I'm not feeling all "pity me," just wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation. I don't get depressed. I beat depression with God's help ten years ago, so I'm not depressed over this, I just wonder if many others are like this, in a situation where it's essentially impossible to marry without a true miracle.
I have no friends in person, but the ones I knew from when I was still healthy are all married now. So I just lay here and pray I will be healed so I can work again and thus help my parents, as well as possibly find a wife. Looks don't matter to me at all. My only requirements are that she is a good person, loves me, and most importantly, truly loves The LORD.
I want to love, to spend my life with a woman, to adopt and raise kids to do better and not make mistakes I made in life.

Anyone in a situation like this? Unable to marry for whatever reason and seeing your friends all get married despite not following God's laws?

Thanks for reading, and I appreciate any replies. God bless you all.

 

[timewerx]

Anyone in a situation like this? Unable to marry for whatever reason and seeing your friends all get married despite not following God's laws?

Thanks for reading, and I appreciate any replies. God bless you all.

Same here. Glad to know you're on top of all these and you're not depressed! It seems my problems are quite trivial compared to yours so I'm impressed, well done!

I'm not very good on following God's laws though so I probably deserve my fate.

This world lays in the wicked one (1 John 5:19). I'd probably should be more worried (spiritually) if things are fantastic in my life, because the devil is making everything too easy and too comfy, instead of opposing me at every turn which means I'm actually serving the devil's will instead of God's Will. Luke 6:20-26.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Trust me it's not important. Just enjoy your life.

 

[Archer_on_Fire]

I feel like this often. I have a disability- physical health issues as well as some developmental disabilities. I am high functioning but not high functioning enough to live completely independently.

I still live with my mother at nearly 30 but that will change soon, as I’ve been accepted to a facility for people with disabilities.

But I often feel like a man won’t want me. The facility has a policy about no dating other residents, so the option of meeting a guy there is out.

A guy without a disability, well, I doubt he would want to deal with me. I can’t drive, cannot work a full time job, having trouble with processing speed in certain tasks, and don’t have the full stamina of a normal person.

Regarding marriage, that likely won’t happen for me. There’s something called the marriage penalty. If you are on SSI and you marry, the amount of your SSI will reduce to the point where it’s useless or will be taken away all together. I can’t have that happen.

And if two individuals on SSI were to marry, the SSI would be reduced to the point where the two people would be living in poverty. The couple often has to divorce because they can’t support themselves.

Thanks America.

 

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I feel like this often. I have a disability- physical health issues as well as some developmental disabilities. I am high functioning but not high functioning enough to live completely independently.

I still live with my mother at nearly 30 but that will change soon, as I’ve been accepted to a facility for people with disabilities.

But I often feel like a man won’t want me. The facility has a policy about no dating other residents, so the option of meeting a guy there is out.

A guy without a disability, well, I doubt he would want to deal with me. I can’t drive, cannot work a full time job, having trouble with processing speed in certain tasks, and don’t have the full stamina of a normal person.

Regarding marriage, that likely won’t happen for me. There’s something called the marriage penalty. If you are on SSI and you marry, the amount of your SSI will reduce to the point where it’s useless or will be taken away all together. I can’t have that happen.

And if two individuals on SSI were to marry, the SSI would be reduced to the point where the two people would be living in poverty. The couple often has to divorce because they can’t support themselves.

Thanks America.

Hmm. I've never heard of such a thing as a marriage penalty. I'm going to call social security up tomorrow and ask them about that.

 

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Nevertheless, what all this comes down to is faith. If God intends for you to get married one day then trust Him. Many Christians today are but believers. They find ways to allow doubt to creep in due to their circumstances. And to be real with you, God isn't pleased with unbelief. The scriptures say that it is impossible to please God without faith.

 

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Hmm. I've never heard of such a thing as a marriage penalty. I'm going to call social security up tomorrow and ask them about that.

I talked to Social Security today, and they said as long as a person is receiving benefits from their record and not someone else's then there is no penalty.

 

[sunshine100]

I know this is common. It's just for me I live with my parents at 30, I have no money since I'm disabled, & while I know there are women who don't mind a man with bad health, I just feel like I can't find a woman. I can't leave the house due to being unable to walk, so I'm in bed all day. My memory is also similar to that of early Alzheimer's. Doctors don't know why yet. I'm not feeling all "pity me," just wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation. I don't get depressed. I beat depression with God's help ten years ago, so I'm not depressed over this, I just wonder if many others are like this, in a situation where it's essentially impossible to marry without a true miracle.
I have no friends in person, but the ones I knew from when I was still healthy are all married now. So I just lay here and pray I will be healed so I can work again and thus help my parents, as well as possibly find a wife. Looks don't matter to me at all. My only requirements are that she is a good person, loves me, and most importantly, truly loves The LORD.
I want to love, to spend my life with a woman, to adopt and raise kids to do better and not make mistakes I made in life.

Anyone in a situation like this? Unable to marry for whatever reason and seeing your friends all get married despite not following God's laws?

Thanks for reading, and I appreciate any replies. God bless you all.

I know and understand how you feel,I have a disability and feel that no guy will want to marry me because of what I have,you are not alone,God is with you,don't worry about anything,instead pray and never give up.

 

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I know and understand how you feel,I have a disability and feel that no guy will want to marry me because of what I have,you are not alone,God is with you,don't worry about anything,instead pray and never give up.

What's your diagnosis?
We're schizophrenic and so am I.