Favorite Things About Singlehood!

[TheLastGeek]

There are so many threads in this section about the woes and struggles of being single.

What's one thing - just one thing! - that you find you enjoy from your single status?

I'll go first.

I love being able to binge-watch TV shows, movies, Youtube videos, etc, without interruption

 

[LoveDivine]

I love to paint and draw. I can get lost in working on projects for hours. I enjoy having extra free time to devote to my hobby.

 

[Neogaia777]

There are so many threads in this section about the woes and struggles of being single.

What's one thing - just one thing! - that you find you enjoy from your single status?

I'll go first.

I love being able to binge-watch TV shows, movies, Youtube videos, etc, without interruption

Just about everything after what I went through.

God Bless.

 

[High Fidelity]

Honestly, being single affords you the freedom to do a lot of things.

The freedom of selfishness in a good way, e.g., you can make choices that are for you as you only have yourself to consider.

It's a great opportunity to do those things for yourself before being committed to someone else and your decisions impacting them. I think with a lot of people rushing into marriage can cut short that opportunity, and definitely presents the opportunity for resentment or feeling a loss of autonomy to creep in.

Both states of living have their benefits, so whilst it's okay and natural to yearn for marriage, it's unfortunate that so many overlook their current opportunities too.

 

[Servus]

I like being able to go anywhere at any time to do whatever I want.

 

[TheRealAriel]

- knowing your leftovers and groceries will be there when you meal plan for the week
- not walking into your bathroom after somebody and it being messy and stinky
- not having to follow a list of expectations every day only to be told you did it all wrong every time
- not having someone weaponize your biggest fears and insecurities against you
- not having to worry that you’re spending too much time with family and friends
- not having to be quiet all the time and feeling scared in your home
- not being the butt of every joke your s/o makes in front of coworkers
- not being told you’re dramatic or overreacting any time you get upset
- not being told you’re making things up when you try to confront him about something

To name a few. I’m enjoying being single.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Just about everything after what I went through.

God Bless.

Relatable. The feeling of relief and nervous-but-hopeful is intense.

 

[TheLastGeek]

- knowing your leftovers and groceries will be there when you meal plan for the week
- not walking into your bathroom after somebody and it being messy and stinky
- not having to follow a list of expectations every day only to be told you did it all wrong every time
- not having someone weaponize your biggest fears and insecurities against you
- not having to worry that you’re spending too much time with family and friends
- not having to be quiet all the time and feeling scared in your home
- not being the butt of every joke your s/o makes in front of coworkers
- not being told you’re dramatic or overreacting any time you get upset
- not being told you’re making things up when you try to confront him about something

To name a few. I’m enjoying being single.

Wow, you got out of a bad situation, for sure. I can relate to some of these!

 

[TheLastGeek]

Never having to share the bed! That may sound odd to some, but I've learned that I need my own sleeping space. Not having my sleep constantly interrupted by someone rolling over, stealing the blankets, snoring, getting up to pee, farting on me... yeah, it's much better lol. If I ever wind up married in the future, I'll have my own bedroom. That gives us the option to share a bed if we're feeling like it, but it won't be a huge inconvenience if one of us needs to slip away. But for now? My bedroom is my domain and I love that.

On the same note, being able to walk around my home in whatever state of disarray, messiness, bedhead, etc, without worrying that I look repulsive to someone else, lol. No pressure to immediately get in the shower and make myself look human each morning.

 

[LoveDivine]

Another fun thing is being able to decorate my place with as much pink as I like Also, I have the entire closet for all my clothes.

On a serious note, the biggest benefit is being able to spend lots of time with my family. We are very close and I love being able to spend as much time with them as I want. A lot of spouses tend to resent their in- laws or try to spend as little time as possible with them. It makes it very hard in those kinds of marriages to stay connected to your family. I have seen/ experienced that. So, all kidding aside about pink decor, closet spaces, or even time for hobbies, family time is what I am most grateful for as a single person. I'm grateful enough that it makes me very hesitant to marry someone who might disrupt that

 

[timewerx]

I have PTSD and it's probably a very good thing for me to be single.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Another fun thing is being able to decorate my place with as much pink as I like Also, I have the entire closet for all my clothes.

That, too. I experienced a lack of freedom to express myself through having my own space for my own stuff, whether it was clothes or posters on the wall. Being able to decorate my whole home with my own "voice" now is just fantastic.

 

[angelsaroundme]

Don't have to worry about appearing cool to them, their friends, and their family 24/7. Don't have to get into debates over politics, interests, etc.

 

[peaceful-forest]

When you're single, you don't have to worry about your man lying to you about another woman.

That has happened to me twice.

 

[Sketcher]

I can do things in ways that make sense only to me, and I don't have to answer to anyone for it.
I don't have to constantly impress someone in order to keep her around or keep her positively disposed towards me.

 

[TheLastGeek]

When you're single, you don't have to worry about your man lying to you about another woman.

That has happened to me twice.

Ouch... I'm sorry.

 

[TheLastGeek]

I can do things in ways that make sense only to me, and I don't have to answer to anyone for it.
I don't have to constantly impress someone in order to keep her around or keep her positively disposed towards me.

I love this. I'm a bit of an oddball, too, so I can be as odd as I wanna be, without ever worrying what someone may think.

 

[DragonFox91]

Definitely the freedom.

When you're single, you don't have to worry about your man lying to you about another woman.

That has happened to me twice.

Ugh, why do people do that.

When or if you got into a relationship again, how would you try or how are you trying, to overcome anxiety about that?

 

[timewerx]

Definitely the freedom.


Ugh, why do people do that.

When or if you got into a relationship again, how would you try or how are you trying, to overcome anxiety about that?

It's really simple, you'll always find someone prettier or more handsome or more personable than your partner. The challenge is not giving in to temptation to hurt your partner.

In my mom's generation, women are much less likely to cheat than men. What my mom did to help reduce temptation for my dad to cheat is to keep herself looking nice and in good shape. She never let herself go.

Although my dad was a bit of a flirt, he never cheated and they had active sex life well into their sixties until my dad got sick with cancer and died.

I'm not saying it's your fault if your partner cheats on you. It's always the fault of the cheater, 100% but you can help your partner not cheat by NOT trying to be as despicable as possible. Don't test your partner's loyalty or "true love" by making yourself as difficult to live with as possible or becoming lazy in your relationship. Because if you truly love your partner, you will make it as easy as possible for them to live with you, ofc, not to the point of letting them abuse your kindness.

 

[peaceful-forest]

When or if you got into a relationship again, how would you try or how are you trying, to overcome anxiety about that?

I'm not worried about it in future relationships. It only happened with two guys who chose to lie to me. Not all men are cheaters.

If someone is worried about it, they should be transparent about their feelings and concerns to their partner.