Favorite Things About Singlehood!

[DragonFox91]

Good attitude, forest

It's really simple, you'll always find someone prettier or more handsome or more personable than your partner. The challenge is not giving in to temptation to hurt your partner.

I think there is only one for me. If you're being tempted, you're not realizing your wants / needs are already being met.

In my mom's generation, women are much less likely to cheat than men.

Now I think it's equal.

What my mom did to help reduce temptation for my dad to cheat is to keep herself looking nice and in good shape. She never let herself go.

That's kind of sad she had to do that.

Although my dad was a bit of a flirt, he never cheated and they had active sex life well into their sixties until my dad got sick with cancer and died.

TMI

I'm not saying it's your fault if your partner cheats on you. It's always the fault of the cheater, 100% but you can help your partner not cheat by NOT trying to be as despicable as possible. Don't test your partner's loyalty or "true love" by making yourself as difficult to live with as possible or becoming lazy in your relationship. Because if you truly love your partner, you will make it as easy as possible for them to live with you, ofc, not to the point of letting them abuse your kindness.

Wise words.

Don't have to worry about appearing cool to them, their friends, and their family 24/7. Don't have to get into debates over politics, interests, etc.

That's a good one, especially for us who follow politics closely. I've heard married men have to compromise on that sometimes, not sure I ever could. I guess I have to find someone apolitical. But I'm generally a 'I don't want to talk about it unless I know we'll agree' on it, & even then I still don't like talking about it. I like following it, & am interested in it, but I don't like talking about it, if that makes sense!

 

[angelsaroundme]

That's a good one, especially for us who follow politics closely. I've heard married men have to compromise on that sometimes, not sure I ever could. I guess I have to find someone apolitical. But I'm generally a 'I don't want to talk about it unless I know we'll agree' on it, & even then I still don't like talking about it. I like following it, & am interested in it, but I don't like talking about it, if that makes sense!

I get what you are saying. It's interesting to see what's going on but debates usually turn into unproductive arguments. Especially in times when emotions are running high. Also, a lot of the news is just so negative regardless of where you stand. I like being able to ignore it sometimes where I could date/marry someone who wants to discuss it constantly.

 

[ReesePiece23]

I don't try to encourage people to intentionally stay single these days, but while you are, never EVER miss an opportunity to travel, make new friends, try new things, and reject the notion of any comfort zone.

Careers, hobbies, passions and money all matter, but NOT compared to how people matter. Meeting people from all over the world and making new friends is the best thing I've done with my life.

 

[Sif]

Quiet contemplation that solitude gives me.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Having control of the finances is a big one for me! I've worked very hard to get out of debt and clean up the remnants of the financial wreckage my ex left me with. Just being able to track my own paycheck going into the bank, all the expenses each month and knowing what they all are, and having the control to pay the bills and stay in the clear, is awesome.

 

[LoveDivine]

Having control of the finances is a big one for me! I've worked very hard to get out of debt and clean up the remnants of the financial wreckage my ex left me with. Just being able to track my own paycheck going into the bank, all the expenses each month and knowing what they all are, and having the control to pay the bills and stay in the clear, is awesome.

That sounds so stressful and tough.

 

[SeventhFisherofMen]

hate to sound crude but you can exercise bodily functions without feeling embarassed

 

[DragonFox91]

I like not feeling like I'm excluding singles - something I really want to avoid if / when I start dating & get married

 

[High Fidelity]

Being able to spend silly money of nice Bibles without judgement

 

[TheLastGeek]

That sounds so stressful and tough.

It was a terrible thing to endure, and for a very long time. I'll never let that happen again.

 

[LoveDivine]

It was a terrible thing to endure, and for a very long time. I'll never let that happen again.

If I ever marry, I would insist on both of us being involved in managing the finances. I have heard some horror stories of what has happened to some who allowed their spouses to manage it all. You have no idea what debts a person may be incurring and hiding. I am sorry that happened to you. I am glad you are free from that now.

 

[TheLastGeek]

If I ever marry, I would insist on both of us being involved in managing the finances. I have heard some horror stories of what has happened to some who allowed their spouses to manage it all. You have no idea what debts a person may be incurring and hiding. I am sorry that happened to you. I am glad you are free from that now.

I would insist on always having my own checking account and credit card. I would refuse to allow my name to be on any account/card/loan that I am not actively a part of. That was my mistake. Being too kind and loving and trusting and allowing him to use my name and my credit for everything. That's what supportive wives do, right? Learned my lesson.

 

[SeventhFisherofMen]

honestly i know i'm single but i want to add that before i was divorced having separate accounts, ie my own money and her own money worked pretty well.

 

[Citanul]

I would insist on always having my own checking account and credit card.

That's the way I'd go too. I know some people advocate having a joint account, but I'd only do that if it was a separate one that we both put money into. Our salaries go into our own accounts that only we have access to.

 

[DragonFox91]

I can’t see it any other way than joint

 

[TheLastGeek]

honestly i know i'm single but i want to add that before i was divorced having separate accounts, ie my own money and her own money worked pretty well.

I was a "it's OUR money" person, and he claimed to be as well. Found out he wasn't. He spent all of "our" money and anything extra he made on the side, he kept for himself while we just fell further into debt. Never again.

 

[TheLastGeek]

I can’t see it any other way than joint

If you have a good, trustworthy, frugal wife, go for it! It works just fine for some couples.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Another favorite thing: Never having to clean up any messes other than my own

 

[Tranquil Bondservant]

Probably super weird but the fact I'm not actually imposing on anyone.

 

[Plenipotent]

Many superficial aspects...

One of these is my bed. I purchased a loft bed this year and I love it. You need to use a ladder to get in and out though. It has a desk and a decent-sized closet underneath. Saves a ton of space. But, it's meant for kids and young adults and has a weight limit of 175lbs. Expecting a grown man to ascend a ladder every morning and night or weigh as much as a child is impractical.

I enjoy hosting imaginary commercials and talk shows randomly without fearing someone will catch me and question my sanity, or worse, ask about my non-existent inflatable tire products and why I'm attempting to both buy and sell them to myself.

The ability to fart at will.

I don't seriously judge those who don't find it funny, but I personally enjoy this meme. It amuses me that some people are nearly repelled by a natural bodily function beyond our control. You ever see a baby/small child fart and then run around giggling? They get it.

The list goes on and on, but it's all things that are just 'meh' in the grand scheme.