Hi, I'm struggling with my beliefs lately and I was hoping to find some stories of those who left Christianity and why they left. I didn't really know what section to post this is so I hope this is not breaking any rules.
What made you decide to leave?
Do you have a new religion or set of spiritual beliefs? If you feel like sharing what are they?
How did you deal with fear and guilt of leaving?
What were the main sticking points for you about Christianity that you could no longer follow/believe in?
Have you found peace in your new spiritual identity?
How did your family and friends react to your leaving? What do you say to them about it and are they accepting of you? Have people turned their backs on you for leaving?
Do you ever struggle with your decision and want to go back?
Appreciate your answers
Thank you
My decision to leave Christianity wasn't an overnight thing. I went from Catholicism to born-again nondenominational Christianity, to Christian Universalism, and back to Catholicism (more specifically self-identifying as a Catholic Universalist, and this time not subscribing to each and every thing Catholic doctrine taught).
Right now, I’m spiritually diverse. I believe in God, but now the Bhagavad Gita is my go-to religious text (in the rare instance that I feel the need for one).
I have no fear or guilt about leaving at this point, if I ever did. By the time I was withdrawing, I knew it was the right thing for me to do. Things weren’t adding up, and not even those under the umbrella of Christianity can find a consensus on a lot of things (just browsing the discussions here on CF shows this).
Probably the biggest issue I had with Christianity was the insistence upon eternal torture for not believing thus-and-so (which varies depending on which denomination of Christianity you talk to). That’s why Christian Universalism was nice, because in that branch, if there is a hell, it’s not a permanent destination, and its purpose was for healing rather than petty divine revenge. Then, once I got past the belief that I needed to be saved from anything at all in the first place, even Christian Universalism fell short in my estimation because it still required this belief that salvation was needed. Basically, I began to trust that God did everything right the first time around, and so no cosmic damage-control measures were ever really needed later on (especially a belated 40,000 years later on!). Any perceived flaw in the framework is by deliberate Divine design and for the purpose of growth, imo; I now see this world as more about
growing towards something (spiritual evolution) than
fleeing from/being saved from something.
I probably have just as much, if not more, peace now than I did then. And I have found that what is considered the fruit of the Spirit is still growing in me in spite of no longer identifying as “Christian”, which I find interesting. Seems to be something that can happen regardless of what creed I pledge allegiance to.
When I left Catholicism after getting born-again, my Catholic family members were dismayed. But I didn’t waver. Later, when people found out that, as a Christian universalist, I didn’t believe in hell… oh my goodness, the reactions! It made me come away wondering who the real god was that I was apparently ‘blaspheming’, if removing the concept of something as inhumane as hell would cause such heartburn.
The only times I miss church-life in general is when I’m tired of having to think for myself on spiritual matters. It was nice when I could just pull out a book and see what it’s telling me to do/think. But it’s been worth it, and I’m happier now than ever before. Things happen here and now in my life to keep me believing that there’s more to this world than what meets the eye. There’s a lot to be said for dreams, signs, and synchronicities which I have experienced and witnessed first-hand. While it was nice to read about what God did in some guy’s life back in oh-dark-hundred B.C., experiencing what He – and others who have since passed on to the Other Side – are doing here and now, in my life, today, is having a bigger impact on me personally.