That would be a huge difference in our churches. While the ELCA respects peoples' bound conscience on this issue (not wishing to bless same-sex attraction), I do not think it is routine to deny gay people sacraments in our church, nor do we necessarily judge them as unrepentant for being openly gay. My pastor is clear about this, he does not wish to lead any "little ones" to stumble, to lose faith in Jesus, because he would consider it a betrayal of his pastoral call. I know it's not an easy position for him to take, as he comes from a conservative LCMS/LCA background. He doesn't want to alienate people from the Church over such a controversial issue.
Frankly, I find more Christ-likeliness in my pastor in general than I did in the Orthodox church. My Orthodox priest didn't mind offending people and alienating people, and he didn't mind placing a lot of burdens on people, either- in short he lacked the sensitivity I expect of somebody who genuinely knows God.
In my experience, Episcopalian ministers were also extraordinarily sensitive and kind people, they went above and beyond for their parishoners and tried to do the right thing, to the point of carrying real crosses. Frankly, I think I've met more Protestants that have a real love for Jesus as opossed to religion. They are people that have genuinely been set free to love their neighbor by the power of the Gospel.
It can be difficult to explain because no other Christian tradition really has anything quite like it. The best example I can think of is Shusaku Endo's book Silence (which was recently released as a film, BTW). It also ties into our Theology of the Cross, which is another difficult-to-explain concept. We do not think of the Christian life primarily as moral progress, as becoming more and more like Christ (although we do not deny it). We think of the Christian life as a deepening relationship of trust, where we find grace despite our failure. It's not a religion of glory, it focuses on the Creche and the Cross. These are the places we can most clearly hear God's love for us. God set aside his glory and took on our human nature to suffer and die for our salvation. Christ died for the ungodly, while we were still sinners. That is what we focus on. The human response is not focused on quite as intensely: we are Gospel centered people.