Easily Pleased

[Living4Him03]

Guys, this is another one for you

It seems like guys say they prefer to date a girl who is not high maintenance. However, I have noticed that some guys seem to like girls to be picky and choosy about things.

Does it annoy you if a girl is easily pleased?
I think some guys think that if you are okay with going to get fast food or simple things like that, free dates, etc. that you don't have confidence or can't make decisions. Also, it seems like guys I have dated in the past, the ones who would actually take me out, got somewhat annoyed when I couldn't choose a place to go. It wasn't that I was trying to be overly submissive or anything, but I am not used to really good treatment from guys (not trying to make people feel sorry, just stating a fact) and so I tend to try and not be too picky about dates.


So if a girl can't decide or says she is okay with wherever you want to go, does that get on your nerves? If she never asks to go out to eat somewhere nice or something do you think badly of her?

 

[Xen_Antares]

Guys, this is another one for you

It seems like guys say they prefer to date a girl who is not high maintenance. However, I have noticed that some guys seem to like girls to be picky and choosy about things.

Does it annoy you if a girl is easily pleased?
I think some guys think that if you are okay with going to get fast food or simple things like that, free dates, etc. that you don't have confidence or can't make decisions. Also, it seems like guys I have dated in the past, the ones who would actually take me out, got somewhat annoyed when I couldn't choose a place to go. It wasn't that I was trying to be overly submissive or anything, but I am not used to really good treatment from guys (not trying to make people feel sorry, just stating a fact) and so I tend to try and not be too picky about dates.


So if a girl can't decide or says she is okay with wherever you want to go, does that get on your nerves? If she never asks to go out to eat somewhere nice or something do you think badly of her?

Think badly of her? No, not at all. Annoyed? In ways, absolutely. My ex was brought up with the notion the guy should always be in the one who decides. Whenever I asked her what she wanted to do she always said it was up to me. I know she didnt mean it the way it sounded to me, but it was like she didnt care to put thought into going somewhere. That annoyed me, I actually did talk her into driving once, but her car broke down and I never heard the end of it

I have a few places I like to go that I consider special, they are usually away from people and civilization with overlooks and views that stretch for miles, like the waterfall I found in the woods, just a short hike and your there. They are nice places to go and be alone, I took her there because it was special to me. I would of liked to have the favor returned to me, but.....

 

[Living4Him03]

Guys who are jerks are just awful ...they are like this :

They just ruin things for you in the future because they cause you to have such a warped perception of things. So when you find a good guy who is nice you just dont have a chance.

For you good guys out there, please be patient with girls who have dated jerks before! I know there are a lot of girls who have, but some have really dated some bad guys. It can make us feel like we have to do everything we can to get you to like us because we're so afraid you won't or that you'll react the same way other jerks have towards us.

I don't know if that made sense, I just needed to vent. Sorry.

 

[Tenorvoice]

My dear the type of woman that you just desrcibed to me is just a good ole southern-country girl (and the type of woman that I one day want to marry). The small things are what matters to her, just knowing that her man thinks that she is # 1 on his list just under the Lord Jesus Christ.

I do not at all get offended (it takes a lot more than that to offend me)

I would never think less of her (if anything I would think more of her)

And yes you have made perfect sence to me, I know were you are coming from and I personally am coming from the same side of the fence that you are. A little over protective of my feelings and a little scared to show them to anyone. I have been hurt one to many times in the past and it only gets harder to trust anyone with my heart again. I do oneday want to have the strong and meaningful relationship that I know that God has planed for me, I only hope that my fears and scars will have healed by then and that I can love her with the AGAPEE type of love that God had planed for us to love our spouses with.

Peace

 

[Xen_Antares]

It made sense. In truth Im probably harder on my ex than I should be. She truely is a good girl, and a wonderful person. The only other BF she had before me thought after three dates they were supposed to get in the bed to "Find out if they loved eachother or not" when she refused on moral grounds he became withdrawn, and they broke up after a month of dating.

We dated several months, when I began to withdraw, it wasnt the sex issue bothering me as much as beginning to suffer through a battle of depression. Maybe she thought I was going down the same path as him? I know her mom didnt like me none and was putting pressure on her to break up with me, which also aggravated me, because she never stood up for me to her parents. Those dominating so and sos, I curse their names.

Now my ex is engaged to a guy her mother approves of, one of those Sunday warrior types from what I understand who dominates everything she does. She's apparently not allowed to talk to guys anymore, even the ones shes been friends with for years. Poor girl, I do feel bad for her, but Im still angry and hurt of her timing to break up with me. It was the day before Thanksgiving, a month before Christmas (the day after I bought her Christmas gift) and the beginning of my depression. But really I feel bad for her, Im not sure if Im mad at her, or myself for beginning to go through that.

 

[Living4Him03]

You can't help it if you were going through depression and she interpreted it as becoming distant for not getting sex from her. But yah it is hard for girls who have been treated badly before to not assume a nice guy will do something bad too. All guys are pretty much nice in the beginning! Then, things can change. I know where your ex is coming from ...I had a guy tell me he loved me to try and have sex with me, and he knew that I was aware of the fact that he was just saying it to get me in bed! He wouldn't back off so I had to break up with him. Also, I dated a guy who wanted to do things to me I knew we shouldn't be doing, but he kept asking me to do them and went to great lengths to justfy the behavior. And last my recent ex wanted me to have anal sex with him and thought it would be something "special" for us to do together and when I explained that that IS sex and it's not something you should do with someone unless you're married, he said he wasn't sure that it's sex. I'm not saying he didnt' have strong feelings for me and was just trying to get me to do that with him but still it's hard to trust someone when they press such an issue with you. Sorry about being blunt I just really needed to get that off my chest.

*sigh of relief*

We've all been through some bad relationships and have had broken hearts, thank goodness that God is such a merciful, gracious, loving God who mends broken hearts and restores our soul!

 

[Tenorvoice]

good for you living.......I am very proud for you taking that kind of stand.

It takes a strong person to stand up against that kind a pressure.

Peace and Joy in the Lord

 

[tyberium]

I would ask a girl where she would want to eat/do and if she wanted she can pick the resturant/place we go. I am very easy going, and have yet to find any food I do not enjoy eating. So pick away, I love it all.

Although if she could not decide I would probably enjoy taking her to this Japaneese restaurant that does all the fancy knife tricks without loosing a finger. I really enjoy that type of food. A steak is also a good choice. Pasta is good too. OH OH a hamburger with all the fixings. Ohhh...What about breakfast, hashbrowns, eggs, grits, bacon, sausage, pancakes (now that is breakfast). How about fried chicken livers and brown gravy, yummy!

Enough about food though. I personally want to take a girl to anyplace she wants to go. It makes me feel good to know that I was able to pay for a meal that she really enjoyed, and if its not too complicated, I would enjoy to cook it.

There are a bunch of people out there that will tell you to be yourself, but it is true. The most important thing is not to be shy when asked a question. Think about what you are asked, and tell the person what you really think. A meanful responce shows confidence and desiciveness. Although there are times when I would like to surprise a girl and just take them to a restaurant on the coast. Not only do you get a good view, but its a long drive and you can talk.

I think that most of that is off topic and I hope I answered the OP in there somewhere.

 

[heavenliejediofthebeach]

im very easily pleased

 

[klewlis]

I think there's a difference between being easy to please and being entirely indecisive.

Indecisive people bug me. My little brother is naturally shy and indecisive so I always make him decide on movies and other small things so that he'll have more confidence in other things (hopefully).

There should be a healthy balance between how often you say "whatever you like" and how often you say, "let's do this".

But perhaps I am too far the other way. I am always the one who decides when no one else will. My friends are learning, though, since I *always* pick Italian when we go out to eat, so if they want something else they'd better make the decision themselves! lol

 

[mina]

I'm easily pleased. I'm very easy going and even tempered so when I am asked where i want to go , really anywhere is fine. I mean if I really want to go somewhere I'm not scared to speak up about it but I do try to be considerate of the guy's budget so a lot of times I will let him decide because I don't want to take advantage of him and make him feel like he has to spend a lot on me. If he wants to spend a lot on me that's fine but I'm not going to make him feel like it's an obligation or a pressure.

 

[Nater_Tater]

I actually Don't like girls that are too easy to please.

I mean, it may be hard to satisfy them, but when you do..it's worth whatever it takes.

 

[Justin04]

I think there's a difference between being easy to please and being entirely indecisive.

ya thats really true.

 

[Out of the Flames]

I've become much more of a "variety is the spice of life" type of person lately, so when there's something new I'd like to try, I don't hesistate to say it. And if someone takes that as high maintenance then they're probably too unimaginative for me anyway.

And as far as high maintenance goes, I have 2 high maintenance days a week- today (Saturday) and Wednesday. Any other day is just routine maintenance- shower, blowdry or not (depending on if I want to let my hair curl), get dressed, and I may or may not wear makeup. I like the way I look with or without it and sometimes I'd rather sleep an extra 5 minutes than put it on. Besides, some men appreciate a high maintenance day once in a while as long as it doesn't make us late for dinner reservations!

SO, being that today is a "high maintenance" day, I'm off to shower, exfoliate, shave, shampoo, clarify, deep condition, scalp massage, maincure, pedicure, and moisturize.

I should be back in 20 minutes.

 

[Iggster]

Guys, this is another one for you

It seems like guys say they prefer to date a girl who is not high maintenance. However, I have noticed that some guys seem to like girls to be picky and choosy about things.

Does it annoy you if a girl is easily pleased?
I think some guys think that if you are okay with going to get fast food or simple things like that, free dates, etc. that you don't have confidence or can't make decisions. Also, it seems like guys I have dated in the past, the ones who would actually take me out, got somewhat annoyed when I couldn't choose a place to go. It wasn't that I was trying to be overly submissive or anything, but I am not used to really good treatment from guys (not trying to make people feel sorry, just stating a fact) and so I tend to try and not be too picky about dates.


So if a girl can't decide or says she is okay with wherever you want to go, does that get on your nerves? If she never asks to go out to eat somewhere nice or something do you think badly of her?

Hrrrrmmmm......I've had g/fs who couldn't decide what to do. I didn't mind picking and choosing. But that kind of gets old. I like a woman who knows what she wants and speaks her mind. I don't want someone like that woman on the Eddie Murphy movie," Coming to America." You know.....What's your favorite food? She replies," Whatever you like." It's boring. It brings nothing new to the relationship. It gets old quickly.

Sorry if I'm blunt. But I would feel comfortable if my s/o took the lead sometimes and plans our day out. Besides, it takes two people to be in a relationship. I'd like to do things she likes too.....Even if it was just to go out and walk the dog on the beach.........It's not all about me, or her. It's about us and the Lord. Just thinkin' out loud is all. Hope you're not offended.

 

[Iggster]

To be honest, we men are like dogs. We tend to chase. When a dog hunts and its prey is not moving, they'll sniff and leave.

 

[waterbear]

Guys, this is another one for you

It seems like guys say they prefer to date a girl who is not high maintenance. However, I have noticed that some guys seem to like girls to be picky and choosy about things.

Does it annoy you if a girl is easily pleased?
I think some guys think that if you are okay with going to get fast food or simple things like that, free dates, etc. that you don't have confidence or can't make decisions. Also, it seems like guys I have dated in the past, the ones who would actually take me out, got somewhat annoyed when I couldn't choose a place to go. It wasn't that I was trying to be overly submissive or anything, but I am not used to really good treatment from guys (not trying to make people feel sorry, just stating a fact) and so I tend to try and not be too picky about dates.


So if a girl can't decide or says she is okay with wherever you want to go, does that get on your nerves? If she never asks to go out to eat somewhere nice or something do you think badly of her?

"Easily pleased" being good or not depends entirely on context. I think people who are very picky about sense-inputs (i.e. someone who is a fussy eater) may be too determined by her sense-inputs (sense-driven) opposed to rationally determined (which would permit blocking of sense-inputs that are either counter-productive or pointless). Consequently, I think it is good to be "easily pleased" (or at least indifferent) on many sense-levels. However, someone who has no expectation for the values of the person she is dating is unattractive - for most people that have high expectations for themselves have high expectations for others, and someone without high expectations comes off as rather hopless. Thus in that context, "easily pleased" is bad.

 

[Justin04]

I think a lot of guys go after ''high matience'' girls cause they are the prettiest girls (most of the time).

mm. I'm trying to decide if my girlfriend is high matience. I would say no, but she can be needy.

 

[Iosias]

Guys, this is another one for you

It seems like guys say they prefer to date a girl who is not high maintenance. However, I have noticed that some guys seem to like girls to be picky and choosy about things.

Does it annoy you if a girl is easily pleased?
I think some guys think that if you are okay with going to get fast food or simple things like that, free dates, etc. that you don't have confidence or can't make decisions. Also, it seems like guys I have dated in the past, the ones who would actually take me out, got somewhat annoyed when I couldn't choose a place to go. It wasn't that I was trying to be overly submissive or anything, but I am not used to really good treatment from guys (not trying to make people feel sorry, just stating a fact) and so I tend to try and not be too picky about dates.

So if a girl can't decide or says she is okay with wherever you want to go, does that get on your nerves? If she never asks to go out to eat somewhere nice or something do you think badly of her?

I firmly believe that the decision maker should be the man. As for being easily pleased...its fantastic if she is easily pleased especially if its due to my decisions!

 

[Iosias]

I'm easily pleased. I'm very easy going and even tempered so when I am asked where i want to go , really anywhere is fine. I mean if I really want to go somewhere I'm not scared to speak up about it but I do try to be considerate of the guy's budget so a lot of times I will let him decide because I don't want to take advantage of him and make him feel like he has to spend a lot on me. If he wants to spend a lot on me that's fine but I'm not going to make him feel like it's an obligation or a pressure.

So they do exist in reality!!