Easily Pleased

[Living4Him03]

I agree with Mina's post that was quoted in the last post. I really am fine with wherever a guy decides to go usually. Unless it's like all you can eat catfish or something lol. I'm always afraid if I suggest somewhere that I'll just choose one of the usual places and sometimes if I'm not familiar with the area we're in then I don't know where a good place to go is. If I'm the one choosing I feel like I might miss out on an opportunity to try some really good place.

 

[mina]

My thing is that I want to be respectful, and if he's spending money on me and he's a guy thats worth dating in the first place then I don't want to suggest a place that might be out of his price range and make him feel like i'm a gold digger or something. Cause that is sooooo not me. and I feel bad asking about how much money can he spend because that's just tacky, so if he's asking me out and paying then I really want him to decide. And if i've said yes already then he's a good guy anyways and the place doesn't matter. Because honestly it's not the place you go that's special, it's the time you are spending together that has the value. or at least it should be.



Not that there are a lot of guys asking or anything, lol

 

[Iggster]

I agree with Mina's post that was quoted in the last post. I really am fine with wherever a guy decides to go usually. Unless it's like all you can eat catfish or something lol. I'm always afraid if I suggest somewhere that I'll just choose one of the usual places and sometimes if I'm not familiar with the area we're in then I don't know where a good place to go is. If I'm the one choosing I feel like I might miss out on an opportunity to try some really good place.

That's all part of being in a relationship. Discovering things together is a wonderful thing for a couple to do. You may have had something in mind you were really inkling to do, but never said a darn thing about it. But what if it was something he would've loved to do and some other girl suggested it? What then?

And Mina is right. Quality time together. Lots of it. I'd love to spend time with my s/o and get to know her. I'd like to be able to stare into her eyes, without her saying a word, I already know what she's thinking.

 

[Out of the Flames]

One of the best dates I ever had was when I went out with someone to an unfamiliar city to find a specialty music store and got lost. Eventually we just gave up on trying to find it and drove around instead. Whenever we came across something interesting, we'd find a place to park and walk around for a while. We must have sampled 5 different ice cream places that day, went hoarse from talking and laughing all day about anything and everything, and wound up getting soaking wet by a rogue wave in a tidepool.

The whole day wouldn't have happened if I hadn't suggested that we drive around looking for that store that we later found out went out of business the month before.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I think there's a difference between being easy to please and being entirely indecisive.

Indecisive people bug me. My little brother is naturally shy and indecisive so I always make him decide on movies and other small things so that he'll have more confidence in other things (hopefully).

There should be a healthy balance between how often you say "whatever you like" and how often you say, "let's do this".

But perhaps I am too far the other way. I am always the one who decides when no one else will. My friends are learning, though, since I *always* pick Italian when we go out to eat, so if they want something else they'd better make the decision themselves! lol

I can agree with this. I am a little shy and when someone suggests something I sometimes might say something like "I'm with you" or answer them with the question "what sounds good to you?" when it comes to going out to eat or whatever. However, my friends KNOW that I will pick a certain Mexican food place ALL THE TIME so if that doesn't sound good to them, they have to speak up.

I'm like Living, I don't get treated good often so it comes as a shock and I sometimes am not sure how to react. Then the guy just thinks I'm a dork and moves on! lol!! Oh well....his loss

 

[Tuffguy]

This is an interesting question. I think i have 2 perspectives on it.
1) I'm super easy going. I never really care where i eat, or what we really do, as long as i'm with that special person, i know i will have a good time. Lots of girls take this to mean that i don't care for them because i don't have some elaborate date planned out. I'm a spur of the moment type of person. I'll go where ever they want and pay for it, i am just a poor planner. For me the ideal situation is to go to dinner and then play it by ear. I EXPECT my date to be able to have a conversation with me about where to go. Its not my responsibility to plan everything to the utmost detail. I just really appreciate it when a girl and i can 'hash it out' and decide what we would like to do. The "you decide" line, doesn't go very far with me. You have a brain, wants and desires,, lets hear them!! I don't want to be a dictator of country Relationship. Tell me whats up. Sometimes i've had a freaking rough day at work,,and someone else should do the planning.
I dated a girl that demanded that i just tell her where we where going. It was strange and took some getting used to. She was a weird girl.
2) I think on a first date a guy should plan it. Maybe even the 1st 3 dates. Any girl that dictates to me exactly where she wants to go very early in the relationship, isn't gonna get to go there on my dime. I will not have marching orders barked at me.

So the perfect situation for me is a balance of 1 and 2.

 

[Kepa]

Easy going girls = GREAT! I'm not much for going out ALL the time. I'd like to be able to cook for her and spend time without the company of strangers.
But if she really wants to go somewhere, I'd like her to tell me. Also, what Tuffguy said, about someone else doing the planning sometimes. That's cool as well. I don't mind paying for it if I know you're going to enjoy it.