Just Listen to Christ:
14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
And there is so much more, about what we should do -- Words He spoke to us, that we would listen and follow, and so also then when we stumble (sin), then we know we should confess and be forgiven, and by experience also learn, and continue to walk as He walked.
By our
choices, with His aid.
So, any interpretation that makes predestination in Christ into a being entirely predetermined before a person even comes into existence
contradicts the words of Christ and scripture in many places, in that clearly and over and over the scripture tells us what we should do, and what is required of us, and this of course then means we can
choose to follow or rebel against those commandments to us.
But we are indeed predestined to be saved through Christ when we come to Him in faith, and that is indeed with the help/aid/grace of God.
But it involves us too, our listening, hearing, following, believing.
So, a command is because we are able to choose, and our choices are part of how we become His:
John 20:27 Then Jesus said to Thomas, "Put your finger here and look at My hands. Reach out your hand and put it into My side. Stop doubting and believe."
(i.e.
part of 'believing' is to stop the habit (wrong) of just always doubting, endlessly...)
Would it not be metaphysically acceptable if we all chose by our free will our own fates in HIM either as our GOD and Saviour OR as a liar and therefor a false god...?
The only thing wonky about predestination is the Calvinist assertion that election had to be without merit or condition found in neither the elect nor the reprobate. I suggest that rejecting this as the blasphemy of GOD's goodness it is, that it opens our thinking to accept an election by merit and a reprobation by dismerit found in each individual due to their free will choices..
IF the blasphemy of our election being without merit is rejected in favor of the idea that: those who put their faith in HIM merited election to salvation and the rejection of HIM by faith was the reason for the others being passed over for election to salvation as they were condemned on the spot. How is that not acceptable?