Does she like me?

[churchgoer123]

Hello, (i am sorry about the length)

I made a post on this site last week sometime. Since then, something else has come up... I have moved beyond what I talked about in the other post I made.

So here's my situation:

There is this chick at my school. I have known her for a while, pretty well actually. To the point where I guess you could say we're "friends." She is one of those types who is a people person.

So anyway... Here's a few "details" to make it a bit more clear:

I've hung out with her and some friends a few times at school parties and stuff.

And I like to poke fun at her a lot. I once got to the point where I almost got her laughing so hard she cryed. And I am always joking around with her, no matter the situation at hand. But this stuff was last year.

So then more time passed, and I called her a few times to ask if she wanted to hang out and stuff (with friends). But she has a busy schedule.

And I think she might have got the picture "maybe he likes me." I asked her to meet me and some friends at a youthgroup, but she was going out of town.

So then this year rolls around... i have talked to her a few times, but for not as long. She still seems interested in talking though. So she still likes me as a friend.

But here's what I can't figure out... lately when I talk to her, and say "wazzup" she sorta gives me a "nothin much" and she seems very rude about it. Sorta like "whatever loser" and then she kinda keeps talking to her friends, completely taking me for granted. But when I talk to her alone, she is real nice to me.

And then at lunch... She sits at the other end of my table. And she only looks at me when I'm not looking at her. then when i DO look at her, she keeps talking to her friends, and acts like she didn't notice me. Now, from what I know, that is courtship behavior. And that is what she is doing, I think. And there have been other times where that's sorta happened... She'll walk into me and my friends, will look at me strangly for a sec, then will keep on walking. She really doesn't acknowlege me at all.

Now I don't get it.. She is real freindly sometimes, and she looks at me sometimes... but then she sorta ignores me and tells me to, in so many words, to "F off." And I haven't ever will fully initiated a "boy/girl" thing with her, and i have never tried to flirt with her or anything...the only way she would know I like her would be the invisible "signs" i gave her (asking her to come to hang out and stuff)

so what's the deal? why is she being like this? I know something is fishy here... i can't figure it out.

oh yeah i should also mention... it seems like she jokingly flirts with other guys when I'm by her. Something just seems up... maybe I'm wrong.

God did give me an intuition, but advice would be helpful too...

God Bless

 

[MrDude]

This is what I think, but as you can tell by my title I'm an idiot, so take it with a grain of salt.

She likes you, but she's probably a little shy about it. She might not be sure if you feel the same way, so she's not quite sure how to act around you, so she just tries to ignore you(I've displayed the exact same behavior you're describing when around girls I liked when I was younger, didn't know how to act around them). Also, the fact that she looks at you when you're not looking at her is probably a sign that, like I said, she likes you but she doesn't want you to know how she feels because she might think you don't feel the same way

Also, she's probably purposely flirting with other guys around you to sort of make you jealous(not in a bad way) and see how you react, hoping that you'll become more aggressive and maybe try to take the friendship a step further.

As I said though, take my opinion with a grain of salt.

 

[churchgoer123]

yeah... for some reason that's what i'm getting... i'm planning on keeping it "cool" for a while... sorta keeping it jokingly.. for example, if i see her, i'll make a little "innuendo" (in a joking way, that is) and then i'll just shake my head and laugh or something, or i'll do something funny, but not serious.

do you think asking her to prom would be too much?

if theres any other info that would be useful.. pleze let me know

 

[MrDude]

do you think asking her to prom would be too much?

NO!!! That is definitly not too much. In fact, I would highly recommend doing this.

 

[churchgoer123]

could you be sure though... is the stuff i told you enough "evedence"?

if I ask her... i'm gonna do it like i have no clue that i know what is "going on" if you know what i mean.. i won't do it personally.... i'll just throw out a little "invite"

man, i put quotes around everything... just my writing "style" i guess...

well i guess i'll "see ya"

any "advice?"

umm... "thank you" jk i'm being dumb

 

[MrDude]

Just ask her. So what if she says no? Don't be a spineless idiot like me, take some risks. If she says no, then eh, you move on with life. If she says yes, well then that opens a lot of doors for you two. You can't possibly lose.

Oh, and I would highly recommend you do it personally, girls respect a guy who has the guts to ask her face to face. The thought alone that you had the guts to come up to her like that might make her say yes even if she wasn't planning on it (which she probably was, but just in case).

 

[jarrol]

mate nothing will ever give you enough eviidence except for biting the bullet and asking the shelia out!!!!

serious hey... you'll never know unless you're straight with her. cause she's not gonna walk up to you, smack u over the head with a cricket bat and say "I Like You!"

you gotta take the risk.

 

[churchgoer123]

yeah... but im not gonna do it like "hey, i have had you in mind since i was born... i am madly in love..." rather 'so... yeah... just lookin for a date... i don't know if youd be "interested"... so... "

not that gay... but something like that i guess

(since this is a Christan forum, and God hates homosexual-ITY, i can say "that's gay"... can i not?)

 

[MrDude]

Yes just ask her casually.

 

[churchgoer123]

i will... thank you very much.... could you please pray?


(i think i may... sorta... put a little bit of "poison" in my coffee tomarrow... you know, just to calm me down... i wouldn't call that too sinful...) I know it's against the law, but...

Many people take: Romans 13:1-2, and Hebrews 13:17 way too seriously... and feel the need to "confess" not using their blinker.. or confess jaywalking.. or confess this... or confess that ....or confess this... and that... "oops... sorry Lord... i didn't mean to grab that many M&M's from the jar... oops, sorry Lord for running that red light to get out of the way of the ambulance so it could save a life... or sorry Lord for accendently doing 55 in the 50 zone on the freeway... even though everyone else was going 75, that doesn't mean i have the right to go 55... an accedent would be less immoral than breaking a little law...."

some people just don't understand God's loving, forgiving nature... and they treat Him as "Rule Man"

shame on them... yes... God put the gov't on the earth to protect/serve... but does He want us to keep EVERY little policy?

I would have to say: NO.

anyone else?

 

[MrDude]

God Himself told someone in the Bible (can't remember who) to take some whine everyday to calm his stress down because he kept having bad stomach problems.

So no, I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with having a little Irish coffee to calm you down.

 

[churchgoer123]

thank you Mr. dude... you are awsome... if i could hug you i would...

i am so sick of hearing those two versus as an excuse for legalism...

"where religion speaks... Christianity fails".... hey, good idea for a bump. sticker!!

anyone else hate religion? Jesus did... anyone else?

 

[MrDude]

Yeah religion sucks and religious people are too uptight.

Anyway, let us know how it goes with the girl, God bless and best of luck to you.

 

[churchgoer123]

yeah... thank you... check out http://www.christianforums.com/showthread.php?p=13816885#post13816885

 

[Iggster]

I'd say you ask her out like MrDude said.

And if you don't get on the ball right away, you might just find this gal in someone else's prom picture but yours. May be one of those guys she flirts with when you're around. Get my drift....

 

[lingjanet]

maybe you never gave her the response that she wan since so long...so she just react and be 'cool' to you just to get your attention and it is a way to force you tell her seriously.

 

[red_head_4ever]

You should definitely ask her out. But do it cool, maybe kinda slip it into a conversation. I'd say she likes you, but has no clue if you like her so she's trying not to make a deal out of the fact that she likes you. Just ask her out, the worst she can do is say no.

 

[redcorvette]

well, I'm in the same situation as you. there is a chick(s) who is (are) ignoring me.


Hey, I can't really offer you Godly advice on this, but one thing: CHICKS PLAY GAMES. They think everything is fun and games. I was in love with a chick, she played games, was really in love with me, but she displayed that she didn't like me, so i moved on, BROKE HER HEART, until she found someone else.

for some reason, it seems like chicks like that "Love Hurts" feeling, or that "i can't have him feeling." They still like you, but they like that "long for you" feeling more than you.

I gotta admit, I am kinda "femme" I'm not gay, but I'm sensible unlike the other guys (like Jesus) and I guess I sorta like that "I need you but I can't have you" feeling.

But, like some chiks do, I wouldn't reject her just to feel that way.

Confusing ****

 

[redcorvette]

WHY DID THEY BLEEP OUT the "C" word????

 

[redcorvette]

chickity chickity chickity... you and you politcal corretcness

"whatever is holy, speak those words"

well, mankind makes all these "taboo" words, and then they say "christans can not speak them, because WE think they're bad....

do you actaulyy think I'm a sexist?

when i say chick, I mean girl. you must be one of those people who take words litterally, and not figureativiely

Offended by C to the R to the A to the P?????