Do you think that humping

[Sri]

is wrong? I work at a preschool in the 2's class and several of the kids hump their beds during nap time or their blankets and pillows. It seems they don't know what they are doing (like they've seen it somewhere). I don't want to tell them it's wrong if it isn't, but i have told them to stop it before and it seems like they try, but do it anyway. This has gone on for a long time, so finally i just let them in order for them to fall asleep and i don't want to tell them no if it isn't wrong. It's not like they are (masterbating in public) i think that would be different. Anywho, also i know several christian guys that admit they hump pillows. So is this a healthy expression or am i just excusing it all to much? Am i being to easy going and need to be stricter or is this just a thing not to worry about? what about for adults not humping eachother but pillows? I don't know it all seems silly, i am just confused.

 

[MacFall]

You're right, the kids don't know what they're doing. I don't believe it is possible to do something wrong in a state of complete ignorance. The worst thing that could happen would be for a child to be forcefully introduced to the concept of sexuality because an adult associates an innocent action with sex. Trust me, I know this from experience.

 

[Amber Bird]

At two, I'd think they're maybe still dreaming about when they got around by crawling. Maybe in their dreams that's what's going on and their little bodies move in conjunction with those crawl around dreams.


My dog yelps in his sleep and moves his feet like he's barking and chasing something in his dreams. I give him a pet and sooth him till he wakes up. He's a happy dog even when he sleeps.
Maybe that's what your little one's are doing when you see them humping in their sleep. They're crawling and happy in their dreams.

 

[Keri]

Nevermind. MacFall summed it up.

 

[SnowyMacie]

You're right, the kids don't know what they're doing. I don't believe it is possible to do something wrong in a state of complete ignorance. The worst thing that could happen would be for a child to be forcefully introduced to the concept of sexuality because an adult associates an innocent action with sex. Trust me, I know this from experience.

I was going to say this.

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

is wrong? I work at a preschool in the 2's class and several of the kids hump their beds during nap time or their blankets and pillows. It seems they don't know what they are doing (like they've seen it somewhere). I don't want to tell them it's wrong if it isn't, but i have told them to stop it before and it seems like they try, but do it anyway. This has gone on for a long time, so finally i just let them in order for them to fall asleep and i don't want to tell them no if it isn't wrong. It's not like they are (masterbating in public) i think that would be different. Anywho, also i know several christian guys that admit they hump pillows. So is this a healthy expression or am i just excusing it all to much? Am i being to easy going and need to be stricter or is this just a thing not to worry about? what about for adults not humping eachother but pillows? I don't know it all seems silly, i am just confused.

Its up to you to tell them lovingly that humping each other or just on their own, is not good behavior . If you let it go on and their Parents walk in catching it occuring to find out from their child that the teacher never said anything...you will set yoursel f up for possible legal trouble.

As an A/C repairman, i once walked into a DayCare school and found little boys and girls stripping off in the hallway to get their bathing suits on. They were checking and touching each other . I told the DayCare Provider and she BEGGED ME not to say anything to anyone. So, its obviously not a good thing to let slide.

 

[Sri]

why? Did u even read it?

 

[ambelle]

One of my coworkers took her two year old to the Pediatrician for a check up. While her two year old was sitting on the table, she started rocking back and forth absentmindedly. My coworker asked the doctor what she was doing because she had been doing it frequently lately. The Dr told her "well, she's masturbating. She had no idea that's what she's doing. All she knows is that it feels good. To her its not sexual." He advised her that it was best not to make the sexual connection with it and to let her grow out of it.
Sounds like what these kids are doing.

 

[Guy Incognito]

At first I was like

but then I saw this was a serious topic.

On one hand, it might be a good idea to ask the kids to stop (without at all linking it to sexual stuff, kids get that too soon and too much these days). On the other hand, they're kids, they seriously don't know any better.

 

[MacFall]

I agree with the sentiment, Alley Cat, but I doubt that the topic would be safe from ignorance and immaturity in that section, either.

 

[Guy Incognito]

Nice assumption.

Of course I read it. But I don't think this is the place to openly discuss toddlers/children and sexuality. That's an extremely sensitive topic that requires a massive amount of understanding and maturity to discuss, and as I've already seen from some posters in this thread, those two things are lacking. This should be in a parenting/family section.

People in here work with kids, it'd be important to discuss. And aside from my own post, I don't see anyone not handling it maturely.

 

[Rhye]

I've seen this happen a lot and when you work with children you see a lot of things and experience a great range of things that happen with many children and their families.
If this happens I take many things into consideration: what has the child seen at home, what has the child seen on TV, what has the child seen with other children, what is the child's culture, is the child being abused, etc. Children learn behaviors from many people in their lives, and they mimic things they see. It can be anything from giving a hug that feels good to touching themselves like their fathers do to "check" their you know what. A lot of men do this and if a little boy is around his father a lot he catches things and he learns to do those things because daddy does it too. Children have great observation and though they do not understand it, they do the action because the adults in their lives do those things. Learned behaviors are easily "learned" but hard to un-learn if its not a "right" behavior. So the only suggestion I would make is understand the source and talk to the adults in the children's lives. If you are not in the position to talk to the parents, then take observation notes, have dates, and talk to the principle or head teacher.

 

[Orange_County_Chopper]

I believe that I remember doing this when I was a child. I guess even back then I was a frisky little fella.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

What!? Why is this...

 

[Apollo Celestio]

.......

 

[Squeakers]

It's us adults that make it into something disgusting.
To a child, they have no clue what it is that they're doing.

 

[snoopy500]

It's us adults that make it into something disgusting.
To a child, they have no clue what it is that they're doing.

this sums it up in my own words. Personally, I'm not exactly old enough to really have a opinion, but I will say I don't see a issue with this. I can somewhat understand where this is coming from, I mean yes kids in the younger age seem to understand sexuality a lot more faster. a bad thing? yes seeing as kids have sex way too early in their teen years.

Back on the topic, if it get's out of hand then it may be a good idea to talk to parent's yes. besides that I think just observing is not a bad idea.

 

[Guy Incognito]

It's us adults that make it into something disgusting.
To a child, they have no clue what it is that they're doing.

 

[Rhye]

When horrible people do unimaginable things to children, you can't help but want to know what is going on and protect them every way possible. Then at those times we forget to let children be children because of our own fears.

 

[stophurtingyourkid]

my dog humps her stuffed animal toy when she is horny. Maybe I should punish her.