Maybe you're just better at it than I am. Or maybe it's not as simple for us to understand the feelings of others as you suppose.
Most likely my approach is different. That´s what I am trying to tell you all the time: "Understanding" is one thing (it depends on analysis, diagnosis and other such congnitive, intellectual processes). This is not what I am talking about.
Communicating a
feeling is easy (and so is receiving the message). It is easy to say "I am sad" when I am sad, and the message "I am sad" is easily understood by someone who has ever been sad.
I´d recommend you to observe your (and others') daily communication: How often does it really happen that you or someone else simply states a feeling? In most cases people will immediately give you an analysis, an explanation or a justification along with communicating a feeling, and in more cases than not they will not even articulate the feeling at all but
merely give you an analysis (preferably an analysis of another person - like: "My girlfriend is so insensitive").
Hint: The expression of a feeling
never starts with "I think". It also never starts with "I feel that [followed by a
thought]". E.g. "I feel you aren´t listening to me" isn´t stating a feeling but an analytic thought.
Since I was once misdiagnosed by a doctor (the result was life-threatening) I must be pretty poor at this - or maybe we're all poor at it
Resha, what do you think the point of my example was? Did you understand me saying:
1. Leave the diagnosis to doctors/experts/other people,
or did you understand me saying:
2. An accurate description of your pain warrants a correct diagnosis?
These would be statements to which your reply would have made sense.
However, we were talking about something else, and the context in which I gave this example clearly didn´t suggest that I wanted to say #1 or #2.
All I meant to communicate was: There is an important difference between the description of a feeling and an analysis/diagnosis.
So I am a little clueless how your reply could possibly be meant to be a response.
Well, I know a lot of people who can describe the nature of their physical or emotional pain very colorful, very creatively, very illustratively. So I don´t think there is a point in singling me out just because you may find it hard.
I can recall when I had young children frequently commiserating with other parents about how hard it was to figure out what was really wrong when your children are sick.
And this has to do what exactly with anything?

My statements (in a nutshell) were:
1. If you want to communicate a feeling make sure you communicate the feeling instead of communicating an analysis/diagnosis.
2. It is easy to communicate a feeling.
Now, how is "Parents often have problems with making a
diagnosis ('what is wrong' with their children
) in any way adressing what I have said?
I haven´t been talking about diagnosis/analysis - I just used them to
contrast that which I have been talking about.
Is it possible that two people might lack this bridge of shared experience?
No, I don´t think so. We all are equipped with a full set of feelings, and we all have plenty of opportunity to experience them. (Some people, though, have problems accessing their feelings.)
I've never been in a war. So, I can imagine what it was probably like, but I don't pretend to understand.
Sure, but "being in a war" is not a feeling. At best, it is the attempt of an
analysis as to what causes someone certain feelings.
A
feeling that people who are in a war frequently report would be, for example: "I am afraid". I have been afraid myself before - so I can connect with their feeling.
Hmm. How so? If this appears to be a general character of my posts, what about them gives that impression?
Well, all the clarifications I had to write above are indicative of it (and my previous post already consisted of such clarifications, as well):
I am saying "feeling", and you keep hearing "analysis".
Specific to this thread, what am I trying to rationalize?
I don´t know (and for detecting
that you rationalize I needn´t know
what it is that you rationalize). I´m not a mind reader.
But since you asked: The fact that you started a thread about other people´s thought experiments and ended up asking me how you could possibly attract me to your religious convictions (and are left completely stranded when I say: "Don´t try explanations/analysis/diagnosis, try feelings/beauty/narratives/art/inspiring things") suggest to me that you are permanently trying to rationalize your faith.

(But don´t take my word for it)