Do looks matter to you?

[bèlla]

I think the comment was in poor taste. The biological truth doesn’t lessen the fact he’s discussing her reproductive decisions in a public forum. Most men wouldn’t welcome similar remarks made to their companion by strangers.

~Bella

 

[blackribbon]

That's good.. be grateful for those large eyes. Don't ever feel bad for them.



Yeah.. but you still have to deal with doubt.. like the person you're with is not as satisfied with your appearance as she's letting on. What else am I supposed to feel when women constantly harp about height? Even more.. when I understand the psychology behind it?

I would assume that someone choosing to be with you is satisfied with your appearance. Constantly worrying about whether your insecurities are a problem (such as height) would become tiresome and unattractive before too long....and maybe would make it an issue. I don't agree with your assessment of the psychology behind it because most women I know, simply prefer the guy to be taller than them...or taller than them in their heels if they like to wear them. There are plenty of women who are shorter than 5'7" so the available pool is still pretty large. And if a woman really likes a guy, she usually can get over any height preferences she had before meeting him.

I'd look for a reason that is larger than your physical height... A few women are that shallow. The grand majority only see it as a preference, but not a deal breaker.

 

[Mel2020]

Would you want someone who was appointed to be your spouse to be vain ? (empty)

No, but I would like for him to be honest.

 

[Mel2020]

I’ve read some responses here about having children after their 20’s, I agree to some extend because, we have to consider that not all of us have been brought up in the same backgrounds, environments etc.

In my culture, it’s normal to help raise the younger children of the family, so at the ages of between 10-16 years old I already knew how to look after younger children from changing their nappies to feeding them - it’s the norm. When I got to the age of 18+ I felt confident enough to babysit children by myself.

Ironic thing is that, I don’t have any children of my own lol.

 

[Mel2020]

I also want to share that, being a tall woman is a enough struggle in itself, but it’s certainly not a deal breaker to have a man taller than me.

Most short men I’ve come across have such an awesome charisma and confidence that some tall men don’t have.

But going back to the OP; looks matter but it only can take you as far as it can, if chemistry isn’t there, then we are going to struggle.

 

[Sophrosyne]

I would assume that someone choosing to be with you is satisfied with your appearance. Constantly worrying about whether your insecurities are a problem (such as height) would become tiresome and unattractive before too long....and maybe would make it an issue. I don't agree with your assessment of the psychology behind it because most women I know, simply prefer the guy to be taller than them...or taller than them in their heels if they like to wear them. There are plenty of women who are shorter than 5'7" so the available pool is still pretty large. And if a woman really likes a guy, she usually can get over any height preferences she had before meeting him.

I'd look for a reason that is larger than your physical height... A few women are that shallow. The grand majority only see it as a preference, but not a deal breaker.

I agree that most women are 5'7 or shorter there is a rather small number of slender tall women out there of which I am most attracted to being tall and slender myself. Being that the average height of women in the US is about 5'4 and other countries even shorter us guys over 6' have a hard time finding women even with heels on that can get close to seeing eye to eye with them something a short guy doesn't have problems with.
Short guys can wear shoes with heels on them to add a few inches to their height but overly tall guys don't necessarily want women that need stilts on to kiss them goodnight at their door step.

 

[blackribbon]

I agree that most women are 5'7 or shorter there is a rather small number of slender tall women out there of which I am most attracted to being tall and slender myself. Being that the average height of women in the US is about 5'4 and other countries even shorter us guys over 6' have a hard time finding women even with heels on that can get close to seeing eye to eye with them something a short guy doesn't have problems with.
Short guys can wear shoes with heels on them to add a few inches to their height but overly tall guys don't necessarily want women that need stilts on to kiss them goodnight at their door step.

Hence...height is only one factor in equation of finding a significant other ... and hopefully, not the only one a person focuses on.

 

[Sophrosyne]

Hence...height is only one factor in equation of finding a significant other ... and hopefully, not the only one a person focuses on.

I agree...... intelligence, sense of humor, morals, beliefs, hobbies, and even location.

 

[MehGuy]

I would assume that someone choosing to be with you is satisfied with your appearance. Constantly worrying about whether your insecurities are a problem (such as height) would become tiresome and unattractive before too long....and maybe would make it an issue. I don't agree with your assessment of the psychology behind it because most women I know, simply prefer the guy to be taller than them...or taller than them in their heels if they like to wear them. There are plenty of women who are shorter than 5'7" so the available pool is still pretty large. And if a woman really likes a guy, she usually can get over any height preferences she had before meeting him.

I'd look for a reason that is larger than your physical height... A few women are that shallow. The grand majority only see it as a preference, but not a deal breaker.

What about all those confessions I hear from women who date shorter men.. admitting that they secretly have a huge problem with it?

I mean genetically.. there will be women who prefer short men and men even shorter than her.. but by and large.. height is a pretty big issue with women.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

No, but I would like for him to be honest.

Do you happen to know the word in Scripture that "....... is vain" ?

 

[Mel2020]

Do you happen to know the word in Scripture that "....... is vain" ?

No?

Only scripture I know about taking “in vain” is Exodus 20:7....

 

[Mel2020]

What about all those confessions I hear from women who date shorter men.. admitting that they secretly have a huge problem with it?

I mean genetically.. there will be women who prefer short men and men even shorter than her.. but by and large.. height is a pretty big issue with women.

Well, You could say the same about men who prefer skinnier than larger women.

Am I wrong?

 

[MehGuy]

Well, You could say the same about men who prefer skinnier than larger women.

Am I wrong?

No, you're not wrong.

That's another thing.. I see the behavior of men behind closed doors.. and realistically can't expect women to be much better.

Although their concerns seem to be more about youthfulness than weight. At least in my age range and beyond.

 

[Mel2020]

No, you're not wrong.

That's another thing.. I see the behavior of men behind closed doors.. and realistically can't expect women to be much better.

Although their concerns seem to be more about youthfulness than weight. At least in my age range and beyond.

I’m yet to come across a guy who doesn’t mind how large the woman is, yet I’ve seen and know women who don’t mind a man’s weight.

Which is why I am saying the same about men’s height- most women prefer the tall guy vs men prefer the short woman over a tall woman.

Inevitably, it comes down to personal preference.

 

[bèlla]

There is always a flaw the other has to bear. No one can ascertain the measure of discomfort others have with your shortcomings. You never view them in their proper proportion or consider them in light of the other’s faults. They’re minimized or overblown.

~Bella

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Well, You could say the same about men who prefer skinnier than larger women.

Am I wrong?

Thing is, nothing can be done about height, but something can be done about weight.

Also, there are attractive short men out there just as there are attractive tall and short women. If you see a picture of a guy in good shape and he's got it going on for him career wise, but when a tall gal sees him in person and he's say 5'6"...that can immediately make him unattractive.

Flip it...and to a man it wouldn't really matter. I've seen 6 feet tall women turn my heads just as much as shorter women. If they have a nice figure, the height isn't even an issue for men.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

No?

Only scripture I know about taking “in vain” is Exodus 20:7....

Concerning the title of the thread,
Proverbs 31:30 English Standard Version (ESV)
30 "... beauty is vain ....."

 

[bèlla]

Mating usually occurs in similar spheres. This has been proven in studies and plays out in all echelons. Dating sites and apps won’t alter the truth.

There are many women who’d happily date someone of smaller stature. But they’re probably not the ones men are targeting.

At some point, you must discern the difference between what you’re attracted to and the caliber of women you’ve secured. Many are conflating the two and holding out for unicorns.

~Bella

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Mating usually occurs in similar spheres. This has been proven in studies and plays out in all echelons. Dating sites and apps won’t alter the truth.

There are many women who’d happily date someone of smaller stature. But they’re probably not the ones men are targeting.

At some point, you must discern the difference between what you’re attracted to and the caliber of women you’ve secured. Many are conflating the two and holding out for unicorns.

~Bella

Oh yeah, I agree on the unicorn thing. You'd be surprised how often I'd see the same faces on dating sites through the years I've been on and off the sites. Esp. in these smaller towns where I keep seeing them. Of course, they were the same one's that had ignored my emails...but there they still are...permanent fixtures of the online dating world. To be honest, they weren't much to look at themselves either. Cute, but average. Some were pretty attractive. But they'd honestly would have to consider travel a good distance geographically from a po-dunk town to meet people an hour away at the nearest big city if they weren't going to compromise on settling on locals.

I recall a couple though that said, "Locals only" AND...were looking for unicorns. ROck....meet hard place. LOL

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Interesting that this would pop up. Today's article:

Why Is Everyone Obsessed With Dating Someone Tall?

I'd get a kick out of how a woman would actually see the importance of being too tall for their man in heels. As if heels was a major contributing factor to the height math.

Shes' 5'6", wears 4 to 5 inch heels, thus...making her taller than a guy that's 5'8"