I posted something at another forum I think would apply here as well. I submit this in christian love, and genuine concern:
Let me present a word picture if I may, based on
Ephesians 5:23-33.
Consider a healthy human body that has no obstacles to it's good health. In this state, if the body gets cold, hungary, tired, etc.- the natural flow of intimate interplay between the Head and it's body, takes care of any threat to the body's well being. At the first hunger pang, without thought from the body, the head is signaled and instruction begins, in order that the body may be nurished. Clearly, the body is not able to care for itself- it needs the head to instruct it. Likewise, the head has no way of experiencing it's purposes, it's hopes, it's dreams without the body to carry these out.
Suppose the head is severed from the body. Can it exist? Can the body exist? No.
Jesus is our head, we His body. He provides life and nurishment to us, and we carry out His purposes. In this flow of intimate interplay, we thrive and exist, His purposes are fulfilled. When we lack, our Head provides. When we were guilty of transgression, HE died our death, and cleansed us. HE DID NOT SEVER US FROM HIMSELF- OR PUT US AWAY. Had He done so, we His body- would not exist.
The husband is the head of the wife. He is responsible to provide nurturing love to his wife- even if she becomes defiled. Severed from his love, there is no life. Love is an influence, that over time- brings healing, cleansing, nurturning, forgiveness- our own salvation teaches us that.
Suppose the severed head is sewn to ANOTHER body- does it begin to exist again? Does the body?
Much of the m/d/r debate is centered around the erring spouse and the assumed rights to judge that spouse. According to
Ephesians 5, there is a better way, shown to us by Jesus' example.
Something to consider...