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Because you said there is still no reason for divorce. So what do you suggest a person does when stuck in a violent relationship other than leave. Especially when the violent party does not wish to seek help.
Believe God will take care of us in EVERY way. Divorce is believing Satan rather than God. It's deception. Satan is an expert in deception.
 
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That's exactly what he's saying. You get to leave, and that's pretty much it.:o
No that's not it. Not for those who believe God.

Mark 11:24 (KJV)
24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
 
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Believe God will take care of us in EVERY way. Divorce is believing Satan rather than God. It's deception. Satan is an expert in deception.

So what happens when it goes wrong? When a marriage ends in blood and tears... or just blood? Is it a kind of "oh, you´ll get your reward for having stayed faithful in the afterlife" explanation?
 
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So what happens when it goes wrong? When a marriage ends in blood and tears... or just blood? Is it a kind of "oh, you´ll get your reward for having stayed faithful in the afterlife" explanation?
When it's faith you won't have to ask. You will know. God has provided us with help in every instance of our lives. His promises are there for we who believe them. They are as reliable as John 3:16. They are from the same God.

Jas 4:8
"Draw near to God and He will draw near to you."
 
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ducky

1) from you it's an emotionalistic rant if you forsake context.

2) that has absolutely nothing to do with why i said.

3)Youre not helping, however.
The context is the Bible. God takes care of His own who diligently seek Him.

Hebrews 11:6 (NKJV)
6 But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.
 
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When it's faith you won't have to ask. You will know. God has provided us with help in every instance of our lives. His promises are there for we who believe them. They are as reliable as John 3:16. They are from the same God.

Jas 4:8
"Draw near to God and He will draw near to you."

This doesn´t answer my question: what happened when it goes wrong? Or are you really saying that it can´t go wrong... that all the marriages where the faithful spouse was beaten to bloody pulp were all their fault for not "believing" enough?
 
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You're butchering the context is what I'm saying.
Not at all. God is faithful to His MANY promises.

Mark 10:29-30 (NKJV)
29 So Jesus answered and said, "Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My sake and the gospel's, 30 who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this time--houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutions--and in the age to come, eternal life.
 
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This doesn´t answer my question: what happened when it goes wrong? Or are you really saying that it can´t go wrong... that all the marriages where the faithful spouse was beaten to bloody pulp were all their fault for not "believing" enough?
God's promises are for individuals. It is the responsibility of each individual to either believe God or Satan. Our choice! When it's faith you don't have to wonder if God will show up to help or not. Fear is the opposite of faith.
 
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God's promises are for individuals. It is the responsibility of each individual to either believe God or Satan. Our choice! When it's faith you don't have to wonder if God will show up to help or not. Fear is the opposite of faith.
So I get that right: when God did not show up to help, it was the fault of the victims for not having enough faith.
 
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Regarding the "God hates divorce" thing:

Maybe it´s naive and inappropriate a question (e.g. because you may say god can hate whatever god wishes to hate, arbitrarily, and god doesn´t need any sound reason for hating something) - but does anyone of those who present this as the final argument have an idea what reasons god has to hate divorce regardless of the circumstances?
 
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So I get that right: when God did not show up to help, it was the fault of the victims for not having enough faith.

that is precisely what he is saying. Sick, isn't it?

Except that in these cases, God DID show up to help. He helped us figure out that we needed to be out of that relationship and we needed to be rid of the stumbling block to our own faith.

I am not deceived by Satan. As I have pointed out numerous times, I am very blessed in my marriage. It is strong, my husband loves me and he loves our children, I love him and I love my children. We have a thriving ministry and God's presence is everywhere in this house.

I'm living proof that Ducky is wrong.
 
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Duckybill,
Honestly you have no idea what you are talking about.
Either you have never seen a violent relationship to the point where on person fears for their lives or you are delusional!

Yes I agree that we need to abide by gods laws, but does that also mean we shouldnt mix fabrics? God gave us a brain to use and wisdom to use, I think in these circumstances it is safer to get out while you still can!
 
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Sure there is. Believe God's promises. I.E.

Acts 16:31 (NKJV)
31 So they said, "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household."
God gave us His promises to take care of us in EVERY way. He didn't forsake us in any way, especially one of the most important aspects of our lives, marriage. MANY in the churches have no idea what God has promised us.
I believe God. I suggest that you find out what He has promised us. He is faithful to we who believe Him!!!
Except for those, you know, who get beaten to death. But hey, they're in heaven right?!
 
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that is precisely what he is saying. Sick, isn't it?

Except that in these cases, God DID show up to help. He helped us figure out that we needed to be out of that relationship and we needed to be rid of the stumbling block to our own faith.

I am not deceived by Satan. As I have pointed out numerous times, I am very blessed in my marriage. It is strong, my husband loves me and he loves our children, I love him and I love my children. We have a thriving ministry and God's presence is everywhere in this house.

I'm living proof that Ducky is wrong.
What is "sick" is blaming God rather than taking personal responsibility. Much like Adam and Eve did.
 
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Duckybill,
Honestly you have no idea what you are talking about.
Either you have never seen a violent relationship to the point where on person fears for their lives or you are delusional!
I have been threatened at gun point because of my religious beliefs. I do know what I'm talking about. God is faithful. I do not own a gun. Don't need one.
Yes I agree that we need to abide by gods laws, but does that also mean we shouldnt mix fabrics? God gave us a brain to use and wisdom to use, I think in these circumstances it is safer to get out while you still can!
Getting out is fine. I would recommend it. Divorce? Nope. No reason to divorce except adultery.
 
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