Dislike for Revealing clothes

[sunshineforJesus]

I agree,I hate bikinis and when people wear dresses that are way too short.
Than again I also like short shorts just since they are so comfy.

 

[Tanj]

Im not the one who is dressing to attract attention, so I dont need the prayer.

No, you are the one who thinks the dressing is "to attract attention", and are thus very much in need of prayer.

I agree,I hate bikinis and when people wear dresses that are way too short.
Than again I also like short shorts just since they are so comfy.

Case in point.

 

[Go Braves]

How is wearing revealing clothing not seen as violating other people ? I personally hate it.

Also, I often hear women say they dress in what they are comfortable in or they don't want attention, but being a woman myself it seems like it's all humble bragging. Cause im totally sure you couldn't find anything else comfortable that doesnt expose your whole body *eye roll*.They want attention but don't want to look like they want attention. Kind of like when women post revealing picks on Facebook and leave a vague caption like just another day. And then they get a million comments from guys telling them they are hot. Sometimes I'm like we get it you want attention stop trying to play dumb already. Just leave a picture saying please tell me I'm hot cause I need to hear it at least once a day to feel good about myself again *eye roll*

I mean I think I'd be more okay with it if the women who do this would just admit it's about attention and stop trying to lie like the rest of us are dumb. There are so many times I want to call out other women for acting like this they get on my nerves. I always see articles on mean girls why some women don't like other women they never mention some of us can't stand other women lying.

Dang, you come across as giving way too much of your energy to what other ladies wear. Sounds like you care more about it than what most fellows do. Ladies can wear what they want. If I as a fellow surrounded by young ladies can manage to control myself just fine on account of being in a happy relationship you can too.

 

[Go Braves]

No lol, only to dress properly and not show the desirable parts of the body.

Girls now a days dont care what they show and that is the problem, nothing I can do about it, but pray.

How am I at fault? I never asked any of them to dress like this, I never wanted them to, I never needed them to, but they do it to tease men on purposes. Thats not my fault, I'm human created with the same desire as all men.

No I don't think they are teasing us, I think they're dressing themselves as they see fit. You're not going to see too many ladies out there wearing a tank top & short shorts when it's 10 degrees, but you're going to see plenty when it's 100. To tell you the truth my girlfriend cares more about what her gal friends think of her outfit than what I do. They're the ones who know, give a flip about fashion brands all that. If I didn't trust her judgement enough to dress herself gracious knows I wouldn't be dating her. So she can wear what she wants, as long as she's happy well I'm happy.

 

[Nithavela]

No lol, only to dress properly and not show the desirable parts of the body.

Since there are people who find almost every part of the human body desireable, sounds like you are for a burka. Or do you think that only you personal desires should count?

 

[comana]

Thats where your wrong, period.

If I should change then so should they, why is it just my fault?

Life’s not fair and you don’t get to choose what others wear or how they act.

I dont get you, you are defending sin filled actions by wemon, It not my fault, at all, like I said, if they dress like that, and walk around like that, and we men see it, then we are naturally going to be tempted into lust.

My comment was not in defense of women’s clothing choice but rather to point out that, yes, you are solely responsible for how you react to what you see.

If its a natural human nature event then You can not blame the ones who are being tempted, thats back wards thinking.

Again you are not taking responsibility for your own thoughts. Backwards thinking is expecting others to conform to your needs so that you are not tempted.

We are not machines that can be programed into your demanding ways.

You seem to be demanding a lot of hand holding to get you through the perils of seeing an attractive woman.

The more in time we go the more back wards we become.

No clue what you are trying to say here.

Whats wrong with teaching girls to dress correct? whats wrong with that? why is it so bad to have respect for how you look and dress? Why is it so wrong to have morality?

Instead of blaming me for a natural human feeling , instead, address the real problem by teaching them to dress properly.

Why do you get to decide what clothing is correct or proper for women? What about what men wear? And cultures that require women to cover everything, such as wearing a burka, do you think the men around them never feel tempted to lust? Never fantasize about what her desirable parts look like under all that cloth?

No amount of covering will stop the temptation if you cannot address the fact that the temptation starts in your own mind and only you can control it.

 

[Dave-W]

No amount of covering will stop the temptation if you cannot address the fact that the temptation starts in your own mind and only you can control it.

Repeated because this needed to be said. AGAIN.

 

[AirPo]

How is wearing revealing clothing not seen as violating other people ? I personally hate it.

Also, I often hear women say they dress in what they are comfortable in or they don't want attention, but being a woman myself it seems like it's all humble bragging. Cause im totally sure you couldn't find anything else comfortable that doesnt expose your whole body *eye roll*.They want attention but don't want to look like they want attention. Kind of like when women post revealing picks on Facebook and leave a vague caption like just another day. And then they get a million comments from guys telling them they are hot. Sometimes I'm like we get it you want attention stop trying to play dumb already. Just leave a picture saying please tell me I'm hot cause I need to hear it at least once a day to feel good about myself again *eye roll*

I mean I think I'd be more okay with it if the women who do this would just admit it's about attention and stop trying to lie like the rest of us are dumb. There are so many times I want to call out other women for acting like this they get on my nerves. I always see articles on mean girls why some women don't like other women they never mention some of us can't stand other women lying.

Burka mentality.

 

[Godcrazy]

I think we can separate between the world, and Christians. It's one thing to say this to the world and another one entirely to the believers .as noone in the world will think you're in the right mind as that's how they've come today The answer would also be like that It's unfortunate yes but we can't force anyone
I've never been the one enjoying to let others see my private parts so to speak I've always felt it dishonoring towards myself. But I wasn't raised that way either. I tend to stay in the middle, not too tight, not showing off, not too short and definitely no boobs. And decent clothes. No they don't see because that's how society become. If I have to mention someone with style it would be melania trump. I live in uk but I'm from another EU country. I find without judging many here dress to show the body off or dress off. Recently I went to the supermarket, I was doing some shopping and there were some clothes as well beside me stood two women, very tight and short dressed. Definitely draw attention. And high heels. I was just in jeans and a top with another jumper over I had no makeup as I usually don't I don't find it comfortable. And a ponytail. They were staring at me from their eyeballs. As far as the air felt compressed. I was close to the Lord and could feel him all over and his acceptance. I could tell they didn't like it. They might be used to people my sit crumble But I actually felt relieved I didn't dress that way. Without feeling superior. But here they really dress off. I'm not used to that the same way where I'm from We are more modest. But it's also a smaller country

 

[Ana the Ist]

How is wearing revealing clothing not seen as violating other people ? I personally hate it.

Also, I often hear women say they dress in what they are comfortable in or they don't want attention, but being a woman myself it seems like it's all humble bragging. Cause im totally sure you couldn't find anything else comfortable that doesnt expose your whole body *eye roll*.They want attention but don't want to look like they want attention. Kind of like when women post revealing picks on Facebook and leave a vague caption like just another day. And then they get a million comments from guys telling them they are hot. Sometimes I'm like we get it you want attention stop trying to play dumb already. Just leave a picture saying please tell me I'm hot cause I need to hear it at least once a day to feel good about myself again *eye roll*

I mean I think I'd be more okay with it if the women who do this would just admit it's about attention and stop trying to lie like the rest of us are dumb. There are so many times I want to call out other women for acting like this they get on my nerves. I always see articles on mean girls why some women don't like other women they never mention some of us can't stand other women lying.

Is it the lying? Or is it the attention?

I get it...and to be honest, you'd either have to be a very young guy or a very naive one to not realize that a woman wants attention. That's pretty obvious. If a woman just asks for attention though....then she gets it for reasons that she doesn't like. Guys would be asking her "What's wrong with you? Why do you need so much attention?"

Using sexuality is an easy way for an attractive girl to get attention. Personally, I don't see why it bothers anyone.

 

[Godcrazy]

I think jesus meant not too much, not too strict.. It's an interesting idea how you would dress, if jesus came.
When you completely dress off at least I can't help to wonder. I've seen those with practically nothing on. In the middle of icy winter, short skirt that didn't even cover the bum and I mean it, you only had to look down To that a thin top ending over the stomach. And high heels. That's just one. There are others. Silky night dress with bare backs except from one single strap. I'm not joking. And deep, deed plunge. Showing half of the breast. Until the nipples. I'm not joking. It was mega short. And the highest heels ever. It was icy winter. I couldn't believe it.
Or how anyone could take them seriously
So, there is really a fine line.
God just put on my mind that this, and similar, they used to dress in babylon and so on.

 

[Godcrazy]

The problem is that you usually get the wrong kind of attention.
It's not in the dress off, or in how sexual you are, but in wether or not you can build a deeper connection. And to do that it has very little to do with sexual attention and dressing off.
As a Christian, one ought to know, that our desires and lust, our ways of dressing, speaking and being has to transform to God's ways. I don't think that would be dressing immodest, even apostle paul said not to adorn yourself like the world.

 

[Par5]

Yes, we are to do what we can to keep from sin, and that also calls for us to ask the public not to offend us.

No one has a right not to be offended and if the sight of someone in the street displaying a bare midriff makes you feel full of lust, then you have a serious self-control problem. Don't blame women for your own shortcomings and weakness.

 

[Godcrazy]

Is it the lying? Or is it the attention?

I get it...and to be honest, you'd either have to be a very young guy or a very naive one to not realize that a woman wants attention. That's pretty obvious. If a woman just asks for attention though....then she gets it for reasons that she doesn't like. Guys would be asking her "What's wrong with you? Why do you need so much attention?"

Using sexuality is an easy way for an attractive girl to get attention. Personally, I don't see why it bothers anyone.

If you can't get the attention without dressing off, you really are in a bad place and in the wrong place when you have the guy. And I personally wouldn't want a man who went for me because of if I dressed off. That would signal to me he's too carnal. And my focus is entirely on the mission for God.

 

[Ana the Ist]

If you can't get the attention without dressing off, you really are in a bad place and in the wrong place when you have the guy.

I don't think that seeking attention for being attractive necessarily means one cannot get attention in other ways.

And I personally wouldn't want a man who went for me because of if I dressed off. That would signal to me he's too carnal. And my focus is entirely on the mission for God.

I totally understand that...I actually think most women who seek attention for their looks also don't want a man who only appreciates their appearance.

I look at it like a rational strategy for finding the right person. Nobody is able to notice your sparkling personality or brilliant intelligence from across the room. Those things take time to appreciate. If however, you attract several men with your appearance...you can then select from those who seem like they're most compatible to you. It's a matter of giving yourself choice instead of simply hoping the correct person just strolls into your life one day and falls in love with you.

If you look at it that way, I think it's easier to understand even if it doesn't really fit with your morals.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

Is it the lying? Or is it the attention?

I get it...and to be honest, you'd either have to be a very young guy or a very naive one to not realize that a woman wants attention. That's pretty obvious. If a woman just asks for attention though....then she gets it for reasons that she doesn't like. Guys would be asking her "What's wrong with you? Why do you need so much attention?"

Using sexuality is an easy way for an attractive girl to get attention. Personally, I don't see why it bothers anyone.

I am a woman posting this -__-. I am not a guy.

 

[Ana the Ist]

I am a woman posting this -__-. I am not a guy.

I got that the first time. When I wrote this sentence....

"...and to be honest, you'd either have to be a very young guy or a very naive one to not realize that a woman wants attention."

I was simply pointing out the kind of person who doesn't understand a cry for attention when he sees it. That's not to say that I think that any "immodest" attire (whatever that means to you) is necessarily attention seeking behavior, but there is a pattern in some women where it becomes a little obsessive and high priority and in those cases I agree it's about attention.

I think it's worth considering that in those cases, a lot of those women are extremely insecure and the attention is a way of avoiding those insecurities which plague them.

 

[Danielwright2311]

No one has a right not to be offended and if the sight of someone in the street displaying a bare midriff makes you feel full of lust, then you have a serious self-control problem. Don't blame women for your own shortcomings and weakness.

Self control is a way for you to try to control me and me natural felling's, natural human feelings.

I do blame wemon who dress like that, I never asked them to, wanted then to.

Its called a wanting woman and even God hates it, if God hates it I do to.

done and done.

 

[Desk trauma]

Self control is a way for you to try to control me and me natural felling's, natural human feelings.

I do blame wemon who dress like that, I never asked them to, wanted then to.

Its called a wanting woman and even God hates it, if God hates it I do to.

With suggestions of self control causing such umbrage to be taken I would suggest a blindfold and cane while out in public.

 

[Paidiske]

If suggesting that men exercise self-control is controlling them, and attempting to dress in such a way as to control men's response (in any direction) is controlling them... precisely which option do women have for which men will not blame us?