ok, sure; I won't call anyone a bigot, however, as Christ would want it, I will be quick to point out any bigotry taking place by bigots. I won't point at them and call them a bigot, but I will point at the fact that they are bigots by pointing out their bigotry.
I understand your anger. However, I find it more useful to illustrate the bigotry.
For example, when the Pharisees claimed Jesus of casting out demons in the name of Satan, he pointed out that it would be defeating Satan to do so, so either way, it can't be blamed.
When told that he was sinning for not washing his hands before eating, according to their laws of cleanliness, he said that what goes into the body passes through it, but what does into the heart does not, showing that one should be far more concerned with their soul and what is in their heart, than the dirt of their hands.
Granted, he was also harsh with the Pharisees, and called the children of the devil, vipers brood, and also got angry at the moneychangers in the temple, believers who were desecrating the temple.
If more believers stepped forward and defended the "sinners" against such Pharisees, such clear misuse of the bible, authority, arrogance, cruelty, who wouldn't know God if he sat next to them on the bus, the "sinners" wouldn't feel like its an Us vs. Them issue, and the squeaky wheels wouldn't be seen of the voice of all Christians, but as the minority that they truly are.