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Did a traumatic experience make you unchurched?

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Qidron said:
Well, honestly, I was just hoping that someone with this home or unchurched philosophy could share what they do instead of me figuring out what I WANT to do.

If we were to do that , we would be doing nothing different than the institutionalized groups . The New Covenant is about learning from the Lord as to what He desires through our relationship with Him .


I do believe the way the Lord is leading me currently is simply to get the fam together and feed them. Food and conversation and see how He directs. Sounds almost too easy, yet I think that's how He's leading. Like tonight, one of the kids decided we were going to have a cook out...and came over and got it going and another son "just showed up" something he never does...so I'ma go out there and see what the Lord's doing. Sorry I was crabby. I felt like youse guys were just being snobby because you don't understand the need for Christians to gather together. Later.

That is fantastic !! :)
 
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For me, it's just my Social Anxiety that keeps me from attending church. I have a huge fear of people judging me, though I do know that that's a sin, but everyone sins, so there's no way to escape their judging. So I just stay at home and worship on my own. It's the more comfortable option for me right now, and I know that God will let me know when He wants me to start attending church.
 
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Yes Hannah, people will ALWAYS be about the NOT-THEIR-BUSINESS of judging us...but GOD IS OUR JUDGE. So, I pray with you, that you will turn all of those fears about what people might be thinking to the Lord, and that He gives you the ability to LET IT GO.

Many have actually been falsely accused and have been strengthened thru the ordeal...God is amazing like that. He is about the business of building an army of those who are crucified with Christ...making a way of salvation & deliverance for those foolish judgmental ones who don't know what they do.... Welcome :wave: and God bless you this day.
 
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Qidron said:
Many have actually been falsely accused and have been strengthened thru the ordeal...God is amazing like that. He is about the business of building an army

Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Being in an army is by no means easy, nor is it for the weak. Tough times make tough people, capabale of great warfare.... are you game? That being said, it is never an easy thing having to go through those tough times, but if you keep your eyes both on Christ, and on the other side of the ordeal, you will find hope and strength to endure :)

Isa 40:31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

Hope this helps some :)

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ConstantlySearching said:
For me, it's just my Social Anxiety that keeps me from attending church. I have a huge fear of people judging me, though I do know that that's a sin, but everyone sins, so there's no way to escape their judging. So I just stay at home and worship on my own. It's the more comfortable option for me right now, and I know that God will let me know when He wants me to start attending church.

I hear ya :(
 
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TheAJKMan said:
Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Being in an army is by no means easy, nor is it for the weak. Tough times make tough people, capabale of great warfare.... are you game? That being said, it is never an easy thing having to go through those tough times, but if you keep your eyes both on Christ, and on the other side of the ordeal, you will find hope and strength to endure :)

Isa 40:31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

Hope this helps some :)

TheAJKMan

Amen and thanks for the encouragement and a great word for all of us who truly do follow Christ.

BTW, I love your country's flag. :)
 
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tigercub said:
My dilemma is this;

Is it ok to feel like that, or should we be making a huge effort to find a fellowship?I feel kinda guilty for having been out of church so long. :help:

PERSONALLY, my huge effort will continue to be in getting into His presence...so I can hear Him....and I can absorb the grace to do whatever it is He just revealed as THE WAY for me at this moment.

The Word says not to forsake gathering together with brothers and sisters in Christ....so as I am led....I will go wherever I am led. CURRENTLY I am led to feed my family. We have 13 children, half are grown and away from home. Our house has always been too small...but it's summer now and we can do cookouts. THAT'S OUR GATHERING at this time. As He leads, I will gladly move in HIS direction.

Do you have no Christian fellowship at all?

ASK HIM if this guilt you say you feel is at all from Him. Find out what He's saying for you for now.
 
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tigercub said:
My dilemma is this;

Is it ok to feel like that, or should we be making a huge effort to find a fellowship?I feel kinda guilty for having been out of church so long. :help:

I'll se your question and raise you another ;) *ng*

Okay, seriously though, do you "feel led" to be seeking a specific fellowship, or do you have peace in your spirit about where you're at at the moment. Is your concern a manmade one, or the urging of Gods Spirit for you to be back in fellowship. That may be a better course of enquiry for you at this time.

:blush:Qidron, many thanks for those kind words. I do try to lift up and encourage anyone I come across whenever I am able to do so :)

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discernomatic said:
Have already heard something about the G12. Tricia Tillin of Banner Ministries has a testimony on her site of someone who had a bad experience with it. She is of the opinion that it cannot benefit anyone, and from what I have heard so far, I think she is right. Some people need counseling after leaving the G12 program because it uses some methods that cults do to manipulate people and has some of the same effects on the psyche as a cult environment can have.
Government of 12? I thought we had one head Christ; and we are all members of His Body. The ministry gifts of Ephesians 4 : 11, 12 are intended to edify (build up) the Body of Christ. My yoke is easy, my burden is light.
God Bless
 
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Hisrosebud said:
Reading all this stuff is heartwrenching to me. We didn't have the Government 12 but we had layers of leadership; homegroups; discipling---it was almost identicle.

We really need to pray for the condition of the bride- she has been raped, robbed, lied to and left to fend for herself. It's got to grieve the Lord.

Jane
Hi Jane
I agree; the Bride of Christ has suffered at the hands of many hirelings. Jesus himself warned of greivious wolves that would come in not sparing the flock. Prasie God that He is the Author and Finisher of our faith.
God Bless
 
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tigercub said:
The million dollar question...:sigh:

HEeh tigercub, don't worry too much about it. Just leave the whole situation prayerfully at the foot of the cross in GOds caapable hands and await his perfect reply. I've been in that kinda situation many more times than I'd care to admit and will be there many more times. The trickk is to pray and seek GOd's guidance and then do the best you can. Don't get stuck in inaction, do something. A moving vehicle is easier to steer than one standing still. Even if the vehicle is moving in the wrong direction. An illustration I once heard in a sermon and have found appropriate on more than one occasion. :)

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I remember as a young Christian an elder at the church I attended telling me not to mix with his son as I was a widow's son and far too poor.

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kiwimac said:
I remember as a young Christian an elder at the church I attended telling me not to mix with his son as I was a widow's son and far too poor.

Kiwimac

I imagine that was quite traumatic...until you figured out that the man, nor his words had ANYTHING to do with Christ.

Those situations divide the goats from the sheep. :) And the sheep grow stronger through them. God bless you.
 
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kiwimac said:
I remember as a young Christian an elder at the church I attended telling me not to mix with his son as I was a widow's son and far too poor.

Jesus was a widows sons, and not reknown for being well-to-do. ;)
 
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