You can cause me of whatever you like, my position is that of Christ's Church not because it is my favorite position politically but because I know His Church to have greater wisdom than I do and I submit to Her teachigs - not just on Just War, but on abortion and the death penalty and euthanasia and gun control and immigration and living wages and so on. Throw all the barbs you like if you feel so justified.
Stop feeling persecuted Mike.
The only barb that has been thrown is you saying that you advocate Christ's Church and people like myself are therefore disagreeing with Christ himself, and advocating a contrary morality to Christianity itself.
If that is not a barb against your fellow Christian, then nothing is.
None of us need be so self-righteous as to think that they are carrying God in our back pocket to flash as a red card in order to trump the political argument and thereby win the match for Christ like some Divine referee.
Catholic moral teaching is not like that, and Catholics do a big disservice to their own Church by becoming Heavenly dictators as to what the One, True Teaching of that Church is. Catholic moral teaching is there to inform our conscience, and our minds, as we apply them to the specifics of the current events of our own lives and our worlds. Morality has never been structured as a technical manual, but morality is always a struggle, a struggle against our own selves, our fellow human being and even God himself.
There is nothing in morality that would say that one child as collateral damage is proportionate given this or that particular situation, but seven is all out of proportion in that situation.
And combined with considering Just War theory, other mitigating factors as well that need to be considered, including what is involved in making victory in a war possible, or impossible, for to enter into a war where victory is not possible is against morality as well.
Church teaching is not a trump card to be used to self-righteously close down the discussion, but it is more like an intellectual prayer to be used by Catholics as they formulate their own positions and arguments and opinions as they bring them to the public square to be debated and put into practice through the governments that we in the West are all a part of.