Honor Father and mother is the first commandment with promise.Should a parent be very involved in their child's life once they reach their 20's? I am gonna present different scenarios.A child that lives with the parent,and a child who is currently in college(not living with the parent).Should parents have a say in decisions involving a child choosing what college to go to, what major to pick, how far they go? Should a parent be allowed to have a say in the decisions their children choose when they reach their 20's?
I agree.I am asking because I was watching a show about people in their 20's who were overweight,and they could not take care of themselves.Their parents had to take care of them, and in turn, when them being so involved and never saying no to their kids,they ended up enabling them to turn out the way they did.So I was just wondering how does a parent guide their child without being too controlling, but not being a enabler and baby their children?Honor Father and mother is the first commandment with promise.
It does not say honor parents until you are an adult, nor does it say only if they are honorable.
Although it also says we ought to obey God rather than man.
If one honors parents, it is likely your children will honor you.
If you dishonor parents, your children will dishonor you. (Galatians 6:7-8)
Most often the best way is to discuss differences with your parents and see if they can be resolved.
It is always better to proceed with the parents blessing on everything we do if possible.
One of the signs of the end times is "disobedience to parents"I agree.I am asking because I was watching a show about people in their 20's who were overweight,and they could not take care of themselves.Their parents had to take care of them, and in turn, when them being so involved and never saying no to their kids,they ended up enabling them to turn out the way they did.So I was just wondering how does a parent guide their child without being too controlling, but not being a enabler and baby their children?
My 24yo daughter is my ward. She has a severe form of autism and a mental age of 18mos.My son is Autistic and 3 years old.
My 24yo daughter is my ward. She has a severe form of autism and a mental age of 18mos.
We've gotten used to it over the years. Thankfully, she's pretty compliant.That must be hard.
We've gotten used to it over the years. Thankfully, she's pretty compliant.
Her 31yo brother (mental age 6-10yo) lives in a supervised apartment. His meltdowns tended to be more violent. We were at legal risk whenever we had to intervene. Even if we are found to be innocent, court is still a big hassle each time.
The program that he is in, now, has built-in protections against frivolous lawsuits.
My daughter BIT teachers & aides regularly throughout her school career. Around 12, I used light slaps to get her to release her bite from me. After a while, she stopped trying to bite me and I didn't need to use them anymore.The only thing they are prepared to use is ‘positive restraint’ if he goes to hurt himself (either deliberately or because of his complete lack of danger awareness). They define positive restraint as forced handholding and enforced hugging if more restraint is needed (in view of another adult) and they aren’t prepared to do anything else and I can understand why.
.Should parents have a say in decisions involving a child choosing what college to go to, what major to pick, how far they go?
At that point, the parents' will arises from their capacity as investors. Even my rule about conduct within my house stems from my capacity as landlord. Majority doesn't absolve anyone from those responsibilities.If the parrents are paying for the cost of college then yes they have a large say in which college is chosen.
The student has to make a case for why a more expencive college is wanted or why a different course is being selected.
At that point, the parents' will arises from their position as investors. Even my rule about conduct within my house stems from my position as landlord. Majority doesn't absolve anyone from those responsibilities.
A non-parental investor would weigh in on that, too.The examples is of parrents dictating which college to attend.
Sorry I didn't know how to phrase the pollThere is a big difference between the vote choice and your question.
If the parrents are paying for the cost of college then yes they have a large say in which college is chosen.
The student has to make a case for why a more expencive college is wanted or why a different course is being selected.
Growing up involves learning to negotiate with parrents and parrents have to learn to compromise.
Should a parent be very involved in their child's life once they reach their 20's? I am gonna present different scenarios.A child that lives with the parent,and a child who is currently in college(not living with the parent).Should parents have a say in decisions involving a child choosing what college to go to, what major to pick, how far they go? Should a parent be allowed to have a say in the decisions their children choose when they reach their 20's?
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Somewhat.I think its ok for a parent to have a say in what college their child goes to,but I do think that the major should be up to the student.For example,if the student wants to pursue a healthcare career,but the parent says they would rather they study business,I do not think that is fair.But I do not see anything wrong with a parent guiding their child to pick a major that will have good career opportunities.ok ... because of that do you think it reasonable for them to have a say so?