Hi All,
I havent been on here in a very long time but I just needed some quick advice. I have a coworker who I really liked in the beginning because she really helped me get acquainted with my new job. Long story short, the more I get to know her the more I am unsure of rather or not she is really a friend. My coworker is Hindu and is from India. She has been working as a teacher for 10 years and this is my 1st year working as a teacher. In short, she is really great about inviting me to Indian parties, she will help me if I ask her for like a ride or something, and she has invited me over 2x to her house. The problem is she is incredibly rude! For example:
She called me today asking me for advice on assignments or homework for her students. I tried to speak and she talked over me. She then continues to ask me questions, and then gives me short and nasty responses back. She will say something like: I was talking about my 5th and 6th hour kids. Then as I talk she will say:" Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah". Also if I come to her class she will talk to me quickly but then will state " Okay, I gotta go now, bye...and she will shew me off with her hands" ( like you would do a dog). She also stated that the book that I gave her, she will not read because shes not into those kind of books.
In the beginning of the year, she would always tell me things like: You are going to get into trouble for this, you are going to get into trouble for that, lower your expectations for your students, you give them too much work. That ceased however, when my students test scores came back and my class ranked 1st in spelling, and 2nd in all other English subjects. She placed 2nd to the last out of our entire district and she has been teaching 10 years. In addition, her class is COMPLETLY OUT OF CONTROL. They cuss her out, they will talk over her, fights start in her classroom. My classroom is the complete opposite, and her students are often removed from her class and placed in my class instead.
The deal breaker for me came when, I gave her a gift and both of her children gifts. She stated to me that her child was very sick due to one of the hair products for kids that I gave her. Later, she found out that her child was bitten by an insect and had an severe allergic reaction to the insect bite. Which was the cause of her illness, not my gift. In my head I was like REALLY?
Long story short, we eat lunch together everyday; however, I dont know how to feel about her. My fear as a Christian is that I am going to SNAP on her. I do really great with my attitude for months on end, but my problem is that when someone keeps pressing my buttons for an extended period of time. I usually end up getting the last word, and the after math is not nice. I really need advice. Please.
I havent been on here in a very long time but I just needed some quick advice. I have a coworker who I really liked in the beginning because she really helped me get acquainted with my new job. Long story short, the more I get to know her the more I am unsure of rather or not she is really a friend. My coworker is Hindu and is from India. She has been working as a teacher for 10 years and this is my 1st year working as a teacher. In short, she is really great about inviting me to Indian parties, she will help me if I ask her for like a ride or something, and she has invited me over 2x to her house. The problem is she is incredibly rude! For example:
She called me today asking me for advice on assignments or homework for her students. I tried to speak and she talked over me. She then continues to ask me questions, and then gives me short and nasty responses back. She will say something like: I was talking about my 5th and 6th hour kids. Then as I talk she will say:" Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah". Also if I come to her class she will talk to me quickly but then will state " Okay, I gotta go now, bye...and she will shew me off with her hands" ( like you would do a dog). She also stated that the book that I gave her, she will not read because shes not into those kind of books.
In the beginning of the year, she would always tell me things like: You are going to get into trouble for this, you are going to get into trouble for that, lower your expectations for your students, you give them too much work. That ceased however, when my students test scores came back and my class ranked 1st in spelling, and 2nd in all other English subjects. She placed 2nd to the last out of our entire district and she has been teaching 10 years. In addition, her class is COMPLETLY OUT OF CONTROL. They cuss her out, they will talk over her, fights start in her classroom. My classroom is the complete opposite, and her students are often removed from her class and placed in my class instead.
The deal breaker for me came when, I gave her a gift and both of her children gifts. She stated to me that her child was very sick due to one of the hair products for kids that I gave her. Later, she found out that her child was bitten by an insect and had an severe allergic reaction to the insect bite. Which was the cause of her illness, not my gift. In my head I was like REALLY?
Long story short, we eat lunch together everyday; however, I dont know how to feel about her. My fear as a Christian is that I am going to SNAP on her. I do really great with my attitude for months on end, but my problem is that when someone keeps pressing my buttons for an extended period of time. I usually end up getting the last word, and the after math is not nice. I really need advice. Please.