Deal-breakers

[redblue22]

I seem to have misplaced my list, and it really is too tiresome to write another.

I'm trying to motivate myself to write one. I might make a list because . . .

1. We could compare scorecards on a date. "You did poorly on the four of a kind, but you got a Yahtzee to make up for it."
2. I might forget that I'm not into sex-changed meth users who plan to return to their amish way of life. (just another exploding buggy in Indiana)
3. A proper long list would be great for my pride to feed on since it does not contain any of my own rejection worthy traits.
4. By sharing my list, others will know precisely where to manipulate me and keep me from facing reality. I can then be angry at them whenever the truth slips out.
5. I can use the list to comfort myself in my own self-made aloneness--which by my age means a pretty long list pretending I have some control over the selection process.
6. In the continued making of my endless list I'm playing Solitare and Trivia Pursuit at the same time.
7. People who make lists are definitely on my list. "I've got a little list, I'm sure they'll not be missed." --Lord High Executioner. (he then goes into song and dance of how just about everyone is on his list to be executed for just about every triviality he can think of)

 

[sparkydave]

Yeah, that one is tough for me too. There's a late-twenties young woman at my church that folks are gently pushing me towards. I hardly know anything about her. Her family has been in that church for a long time and from all accounts she's sweet, Christian, likeable enough. She can also stop traffic with her looks (in a good way).

However, she's recently divorced (from a bad guy, apparently) and has two kids. One is, interestingly, in the Children's Church class that I teach and is about 7. The other is 11 or so. I just... I don't think I could do that. Insta-families are hard. I myself come from a divorced family and my stepfather came into the picture when I was 12; married my mother when I was 15.

I don't know if I could do that, knowing that situation from my perspective.

I just... don't know.

Funny, I seem to be in the same boat. There's a lady who sits behind me whom the pastor and others have been hinting at. They tell me she's a sweet girl, and no disputing she's attractive. She seems pretty quiet, and it was only after going for almost a year(!) that we were properly introduced. All I know is she's about 34, works at a hospital, and has a daughter in the 6th grade. Not ruling it out, I just have very little experience with kids and they intimidate me a little. On the other hand, my dad married my mom when my older sister was 7, so maybe he has words of wisdom to pass along.

 

[NoodlesNoodlesNoodles]

I assume there is a picture in that post. but I can't see it. I think your post is racist against Canadians

Look closer...

 

[Blank123]

ok I got it. too exhausted last night