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Does a person really need to go to church to follow God? And if so, what about people who fail to make connections in church?
People are always telling me that we were not to meant to live a Christian life alone. But I do notice that just because you go to church, doesn't mean you are living your faith among believers. Church can be a lonely place for some people.
And what about people who struggle with same-sex attraction? I am not talking about people with gay pride. I am talking about someone who believes what the Bible says about homosexuality and wants to live according to the principles of the Bible, but they have same-sex attraction, and are not proud of it, but is honest about it. The church can be a lonely place for people like that because a lot of people are uncomfortable with them.
It's not fair to tell them that they have to go to church, while they get treated like they are toxic waste. Christians idea of loving them would to say hi to them, and then just leaving them alone. I am okay with not going to church and staying home. But every time I hear Christians tell me that I am wrong for not going to church, I am hearing "you have to come to church and love us, even though we are uncomfortable around you."
Now, you can ask if I am actually loving the way that I say that Christians aren't. The answer is no. And I may not do what I am saying that Christians don't do. I get that. But I am not upset with not being loved in the church; and I am not telling them that they have to love me. But they are saying that about me. I am okay with staying at home and watching preaching. In fact, my life is happier when I stay at home. I am not telling them that they should love me. I am simply saying that they don't do what they are telling me to do. I still consider Christians as people of God and the Bride of Christ. But if they are not going to do what they are telling me to do, then stop preaching at me and telling me that I should go to church. No one here on Christian Forum is doing that. I am just venting about people that have preached at me.
Again, I get the speech "Christians are not meant to live their Christian life solo. They are meant to live their Christian life with other believers." Well, like I said, just because I am in church, doesn't mean I am living my faith among believers. It can still be a lonely place for a believer, especially for some that struggle with same-sex attraction.
So, please be blunt and tell me why is it still wrong for me to not go to church if I don't make connections in the body. I won't argue with you. I am actually afraid that I am going to be one of those people that God says, "I am sorry. I never knew you." Because I refuse to go to church.
People are always telling me that we were not to meant to live a Christian life alone. But I do notice that just because you go to church, doesn't mean you are living your faith among believers. Church can be a lonely place for some people.
And what about people who struggle with same-sex attraction? I am not talking about people with gay pride. I am talking about someone who believes what the Bible says about homosexuality and wants to live according to the principles of the Bible, but they have same-sex attraction, and are not proud of it, but is honest about it. The church can be a lonely place for people like that because a lot of people are uncomfortable with them.
It's not fair to tell them that they have to go to church, while they get treated like they are toxic waste. Christians idea of loving them would to say hi to them, and then just leaving them alone. I am okay with not going to church and staying home. But every time I hear Christians tell me that I am wrong for not going to church, I am hearing "you have to come to church and love us, even though we are uncomfortable around you."
Now, you can ask if I am actually loving the way that I say that Christians aren't. The answer is no. And I may not do what I am saying that Christians don't do. I get that. But I am not upset with not being loved in the church; and I am not telling them that they have to love me. But they are saying that about me. I am okay with staying at home and watching preaching. In fact, my life is happier when I stay at home. I am not telling them that they should love me. I am simply saying that they don't do what they are telling me to do. I still consider Christians as people of God and the Bride of Christ. But if they are not going to do what they are telling me to do, then stop preaching at me and telling me that I should go to church. No one here on Christian Forum is doing that. I am just venting about people that have preached at me.
Again, I get the speech "Christians are not meant to live their Christian life solo. They are meant to live their Christian life with other believers." Well, like I said, just because I am in church, doesn't mean I am living my faith among believers. It can still be a lonely place for a believer, especially for some that struggle with same-sex attraction.
So, please be blunt and tell me why is it still wrong for me to not go to church if I don't make connections in the body. I won't argue with you. I am actually afraid that I am going to be one of those people that God says, "I am sorry. I never knew you." Because I refuse to go to church.
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