Christian platitudes?

[timewerx]

One Christian single lady I was getting to know. I had noticed her height requirement in a man was min. of 5'10". I am 5'8" and I had asked her if a guy a bit shorter than that, would she be okay with that.

She answered, "If God has guided me to do so, then yes".

Answer her:

Has God ever guided you to pursue something you didn't like?

 

[ThisIsMe123]

People love to frame it in those terms because they think it absolves them of any guilt associated with being shallow, in some abstract way. Whether it's rejecting a would-be relationship or breaking off an existing one, if the rejecting party passes the buck to God then they don't believe it's their fault because "God did it" and therefore the rejected party has no right to an explanation, to be angry, or even to be hurt because expecting any of that would be questioning God.

It's the mark of an immature person not because they're involving God, but because they're not able or willing to recognize their own agency or their own contributions.

Good point, and if it's a decision not involving dating...like say, a life decision. Same thing can apply. I knew of someone that worked as a clerk at a plaza mall. I had asked her how college was going...and she said, "God felt it best that I drop out of college" I don't think she used the word "drop out", but that's how I had interpreted it. When in reality, it was a decision that she made herself as I know people don't care to have an education beyond high school. They simply don't like it.

Rather than to say, "I just didn't care for college classes", they'll just state the alternative.

I also knew of Christian I couldn't really go to for advice, to seek her feedback...but her retorts were "Pray about it" and that's it. Needless to say, we stopped being friends. She was kind of out of touch (not with me), but out of touch...in general.

 

[Noxot]

Would you apply the same verbiage to a father caring for his child? Is that feminine? God is our Father. Caring for a wounded child is what loving parents do.

True. the son of god came out of the father just like eve came out of adam. But i have been doubting the point of understanding everything according to a feminine or masculine label. I dont think god should be limited to conceptions of father, son, and Kingdom. A father without a mother does not sound right.

Why would you adopt something like that?

It's the truth and besides even the term "Christian" was at first an insult. I have my struggles with the incel bitterness. It seems to be a natural fleshly feeling. It's the other side of the coin of the "Chad" symbol, which is the guy that gets lots of sex and is desired by women. It's hard to draw the line between evolutionary success and spiritual excellence. I keep in mind that the flesh still holds symbols that are spiritual. It's not completely Fallen, it is good and evil.

A year long spiritual battle settled the matter. Good and evil are abundantly clear. Not because I read it or someone told me. I’ve experienced it firsthand.

I have experienced it too. Evil is unworthy to be exalted to God, as something of his opposite standing side-by-side him. But evil is a very real reality and it should not be denied.

Why do you like it?

Because I believe in love. I encountered a cruel spiritual lady that had walked away from Christianity and was concerning herself more and more with nature. She said that she is complete in herself without a man. That is the typical thing to say. But I found the opposite stance better for me. I have no desire to be complete. I feel like half of me is gone. Even God is complete as Trinity. why should I be whole in myself if even God is three?

Sorry for being off-topic, I don't understand Christian platitudes. God told us to be perfect. it's up to each of us to be such. God is willing and so we should seek him to see what that Perfection is.

 

[bèlla]

I dont think god should be limited to conceptions of father, son, and Kingdom. A father without a mother does not sound right.

God is a Spirit. The personifications help us to understand His aspects in a manner we can grasp. He has never described Himself as female. Though wisdom is known as such. Some consider the shekinah His feminine aspect.

I have my struggles with the incel bitterness. It seems to be a natural fleshly feeling.

The spiritual elements are rejection and bitterness. Stand against them in prayer.

It's the other side of the coin of the "Chad" symbol, which is the guy that gets lots of sex and is desired by women.

I wish we’d cease to emphasize winners and losers in matters of the heart. Most people want someone who will love and respect them. That’s true for both sexes.

Numbers lie. Quality matters most. Attention is deceiving and most of it isn’t worth mentioning. The successful guy who gets lots of girls isn’t admitting the majority are interested in what he has more than who he is. His plight is worse. I’ve heard women disclose their strategies to snare him. And its truly sad.

Things are equally challenging for women. Some view you as nothing more than a commodity or useful magnet for attention. They aren’t considering your hopes, dreams, or welfare.

Faith and modest attire can offset things to a point. But you gain a different set of problems. It doesn’t diminish unwanted attention or sexual advances. And it doesn’t mean the other person sees you. Really sees you. Maybe if they’re looking past themselves and the role you’d fill. But that isn’t commonplace.

So don’t believe everything you hear. My friend is a ‘Chad’ and he’s brutally honest about the dating landscape, the challenges of finding a quality companion, and the impact diminishing values have had.

Although he’s very handsome, he doesn’t readily choose women who are equally attractive. He selects the one that best suits him and his lifestyle. And they’re incredibly loyal to him because he validates their motives and buy-in. The result is a relationship with domesticated women who value tradition and abhor feminism.

In short, she’s out there. There are hidden gems in our midst. You have to know how to spot them. That’s half the battle. But it isn’t a game, spin, or the tricks some propose. They’re clueless and would never attract a woman who’s in your corner come what may.

She said that she is complete in herself without a man. That is the typical thing to say. But I found the opposite stance better for me. I have no desire to be complete. I feel like half of me is gone. Even God is complete as Trinity. why should I be whole in myself if even God is three?

Pain distorts our mind and heart and can lead us to isolate ourselves and adopt philosophies that increase our hurt. I don’t agree with her. I don’t believe we’re meant to walk or toil alone. God calls us into fellowship with Him and other humans.

To echo her sentiments relationally would make me dishonest or in denial and I’m not in that place. Acknowledging our needs openly can be scary. It exposes the heart and our vulnerability in ways that can be uncomfortable for most.

But behind the fear is a liberating truth that would free us if we’d just embrace it. Needing him isn’t a declaration of weakness or testament of lack. Its a resounding declaration that he brings something to my world I long to have and I’m bettered by its presence.

He feeds. He gives. He is. My heart. My hand. My all. I need him.

I don’t believe you can traverse the bowels of love when you’re cloaked or barricading your heart from intruders. You must be willing to open and receive. You must allow them to see the pleasant places and the hidden things residing in the recesses of your attic and basement.

When you’re prepared to bare all and give all you can truly have a happy ending. Nothing less than all will bring you to that point.

Stay open. Don’t change.

Sorry for being off-topic, I don't understand Christian platitudes.

No apology needed. I appreciate the diversion. I needed it.