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I made a thread earlier on the topic of Christian dating. Many users correctly point out to me that post was way too long. So I am breaking it down piece by piece for discussions.
Original post here:
http://www.christianforums.com/t7831915/
For Christians that have problems dating another Christian, there are generally 4 types:
1) Couldn’t find a Christian date
2) Bad dates (disappointing Christian dates)
3) Had sex before marriage.
4) Divorced
This post is about the second type: Bad Christian dates. That is Christian dates who either doesn't demonstrate Christian values, or are worst than non-Christians.
Results: Extreme bitterness, hate the opposite sex, generalization (this is the big one), distrust in other Christians
Views: Many men see feminism in church as a big problem.
Many men say those Christian girls they dated do not cherish Christian men at all. They rate men just like the world does. Many complained that their Christian girlfriend eventually left them for a non-Christian guy.
(Generalization: Christian women rate men based on the highly secular 6/6/6/ criteria. 6 feet tall/ 6 packs/ makes 6 figure. They have no idea how else to rate Christian men because the church never taught them to rate men based on Christian values instead of secular values.)
Women say Christian men also have zero Christian values. Many are addicted to inappropriate content. Others openly want sexual engagements before marriage.
Some men say they can only try to limit their inappropriate content addictions. It is “literally impossible” for them to completely stop without some kind of serious psychological help. Most men say prayers rarely help here. Some call inappropriate content and lust the “Thorn of the Flesh” for Christian men that God put there to keep men humble. They say women should stop judging men based on the standards of the year 1,500, when inappropriate content wasn’t nearly as widely and easily accessible. They say it is simply easier for women to avoid inappropriate content than men do.
Some men also blame the current media and culture. They also say many Christian women would dress in “highly inappropriate” clothing to reveal their bodies to men. They do it everywhere; work, school, shopping and even in church. Men say these Christian Women are causing their brothers in Christ to stumble.
Women say they can wear whatever they want. The men should control themselves.
About 50% of the Christian men admitted that they watched inappropriate content recently and is addicted, compared to 20% of Christian women. See link below:
Why are so many Christians addicted to inappropriate content? | Covenant Eyes
There has been cases of "nuclear breakup", similar to "nuclear rejections". In the break up case, the girl would tell the whole church about everything that went wrong in the relationship. The guys find it hard to stay in that church afterwards.
Question for discussion: Did you personally, or heard from someone you know, about bad Christian dates that didn't live up to the "expectations"? In those cases, did you (or that person) feels it is better off to date a non-Christian?
Original post here:
http://www.christianforums.com/t7831915/
For Christians that have problems dating another Christian, there are generally 4 types:
1) Couldn’t find a Christian date
2) Bad dates (disappointing Christian dates)
3) Had sex before marriage.
4) Divorced
This post is about the second type: Bad Christian dates. That is Christian dates who either doesn't demonstrate Christian values, or are worst than non-Christians.
Results: Extreme bitterness, hate the opposite sex, generalization (this is the big one), distrust in other Christians
Views: Many men see feminism in church as a big problem.
Many men say those Christian girls they dated do not cherish Christian men at all. They rate men just like the world does. Many complained that their Christian girlfriend eventually left them for a non-Christian guy.
(Generalization: Christian women rate men based on the highly secular 6/6/6/ criteria. 6 feet tall/ 6 packs/ makes 6 figure. They have no idea how else to rate Christian men because the church never taught them to rate men based on Christian values instead of secular values.)
Women say Christian men also have zero Christian values. Many are addicted to inappropriate content. Others openly want sexual engagements before marriage.
Some men say they can only try to limit their inappropriate content addictions. It is “literally impossible” for them to completely stop without some kind of serious psychological help. Most men say prayers rarely help here. Some call inappropriate content and lust the “Thorn of the Flesh” for Christian men that God put there to keep men humble. They say women should stop judging men based on the standards of the year 1,500, when inappropriate content wasn’t nearly as widely and easily accessible. They say it is simply easier for women to avoid inappropriate content than men do.
Some men also blame the current media and culture. They also say many Christian women would dress in “highly inappropriate” clothing to reveal their bodies to men. They do it everywhere; work, school, shopping and even in church. Men say these Christian Women are causing their brothers in Christ to stumble.
Women say they can wear whatever they want. The men should control themselves.
About 50% of the Christian men admitted that they watched inappropriate content recently and is addicted, compared to 20% of Christian women. See link below:
Why are so many Christians addicted to inappropriate content? | Covenant Eyes
There has been cases of "nuclear breakup", similar to "nuclear rejections". In the break up case, the girl would tell the whole church about everything that went wrong in the relationship. The guys find it hard to stay in that church afterwards.
Question for discussion: Did you personally, or heard from someone you know, about bad Christian dates that didn't live up to the "expectations"? In those cases, did you (or that person) feels it is better off to date a non-Christian?
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