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I hope you're all having a blessed sleep right now, those of you on the other side of the world. :)

We went to visit our son and grandson this afternoon and had tea (dinner) there too. Our little grandson is speaking a lot more now and can generally make himself understood, which is cool. A lovely fine day here, so we took him for a little walk and we managed to see quite a few of his fave things on the way - a motorbike, an aeroplane, a truck and a boat. :D No fire truck, though - thankfully. :)
 
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I hope you're all having a blessed sleep right now, those of you on the other side of the world. :)

We went to visit our son and grandson this afternoon and had tea (dinner) there too. Our little grandson is speaking a lot more now and can generally make himself understood, which is cool. A lovely fine day here, so we took him for a little walk and we managed to see quite a few of his fave things on the way - a motorbike, an aeroplane, a truck and a boat. :D No fire truck, though - thankfully. :)
Our children and grandchildren grow so fast ~ precious moments to treasure!
God bless you and your family :pray:
 
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Our children and grandchildren grow so fast ~ precious moments to treasure!
God bless you and your family :pray:


Thanks, Gail. :) Yes, moments to treasure. Our son isn't too far off 30 already - hard to believe.

Our girl mentioned a movie today. I think it came out in the 80's, and our girl said 'Well, it's over 20 years old now, Mum.' It feels like the other day that it came out to me. :D
 
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Thanks, Gail. :) Yes, moments to treasure. Our son isn't too far off 30 already - hard to believe.

Our girl mentioned a movie today. I think it came out in the 80's, and our girl said 'Well, it's over 20 years old now, Mum.' It feels like the other day that it came out to me. :D
I hear you ^_^
My son is 32 and my daughter will be 38 next week ~ our grandsons are 10 & 11 :eek:
Of course WE don't age :D
 
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May God bless you in His Merciful Love today :crossrc:
 
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I hear you ^_^
My son is 32 and my daughter will be 38 next week ~ our grandsons are 10 & 11 :eek:
Of course WE don't age :D


Us - age? Never! :p :p

I do enjoy having adult children, though - it's fab. :) They are great friends as well as 'offspring'. We are so blessed, when so many families are estranged from each other.
 
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Us - age? Never! :p :p

I do enjoy having adult children, though - it's fab. :) They are great friends as well as 'offspring'. We are so blessed, when so many families are estranged from each other.
:amen: to that!

Since all our parents have passed on now, we see our siblings on both sides drifting away, despite our efforts to stay close (or come closer).
It is very sad ~ I pray for them, and hope :pray:

My husband and kids are my greatest blessings in life :love:
 
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:amen: to that!

Since all our parents have passed on now, we see our siblings on both sides drifting away, despite our efforts to stay close (or come closer).
It is very sad ~ I pray for them, and hope :pray:

My husband and kids are my greatest blessings in life :love:


I'm sorry about that, Gail. I don't converse that often with my sister and brother, but we are close. They live a fair way away but I see them when I go to visit Dad, as they live near Dad. My other sister I speak to only rarely, but there is still a fairly strong bond there. She also lives at some distance from us - in the other direction from Dad. :D

I agree with you about our greatest blessings. :) :thumbsup: *my understatement of the year* :p :D
 
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I'm sorry about that, Gail. I don't converse that often with my sister and brother, but we are close. They live a fair way away but I see them when I go to visit Dad, as they live near Dad. My other sister I speak to only rarely, but there is still a fairly strong bond there. She also lives at some distance from us - in the other direction from Dad. :D

I agree with you about our greatest blessings. :) :thumbsup: *my understatement of the year* :p :D
Thanks :hug: It is crazy because we live close to one another :doh:
We know we are not alone...others have the same concerns.
All will be well in the Lord's perfect will and timing :pray:
 
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Everyone eventually walks along his own way, it seems with his own more immediate family and friends. The old ones have drifted, or we have drifted, or both, away from each other. My brothers and cousins with whom I had so much in common when we were kids and all of our parents were alive scarcely know me and vice versa.

But... as you say, Thank God for our own children and grandchildren. With them there is still a connection. Will they drift apart from each other when we are gone?
 
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Everyone eventually walks along his own way, it seems with his own more immediate family and friends. The old ones have drifted, or we have drifted, or both, away from each other. My brothers and cousins with whom I had so much in common when we were kids and all of our parents were alive scarcely know me and vice versa.

But... as you say, Thank God for our own children and grandchildren. With them there is still a connection. Will they drift apart from each other when we are gone?

This seems to be more common; I am not sure why...but venture to guess because we are such a preoccupied and busy society now. :o

My 'kids' are appalled by all this, because they were close to their cousins, aunts, and uncles growing up.
They vow NOT to let it happen between them, and it doesn't seem like it would right now..... I pray that is the case!

The other difference I see is that with our siblings on both sides, it was our parents that kept us together;
'One on one' we really were not close, but at least my son and daughter are pretty connected.
I had hoped our parent's passings would bring us all together on both sides, but they have just settled back into their own lives.
Who knows what the future holds ~ just pray and hope for the best :pray:
 
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When Larry's mom died, then for certain, when his dad died...we just stopped seeing his side of the family. There were serious reasons on both sides...but I would try to not let that happen at this time...but it is kind of too late.

I basically have not seen or heard much from my brother for 20 years...i tried, but he was unresponsive.

My 2 sons have been estranged for 20 years already...:doh:.

Periodically we hear from one of Larry's cousins...I have no idea if any of my cpusins are still alive...we live on seperate sides of the country and were never close...man...it is sort of sad, when you add it all up...but our parents before us were isolated and estranged from their families too.
 
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When Larry's mom died, then for certain, when his dad died...we just stopped seeing his side of the family. There were serious reasons on both sides...but I would try to not let that happen at this time...but it is kind of too late.

I basically have not seen or heard much from my brother for 20 years...i tried, but he was unresponsive.

My 2 sons have been estranged for 20 years already...:doh:.

Periodically we hear from one of Larry's cousins...I have no idea if any of my cpusins are still alive...we live on seperate sides of the country and were never close...man...it is sort of sad, when you add it all up...but our parents before us were isolated and estranged from their families too.
That is so sad :(
It seems in past generations families were much closer.
Thanks for sharing; it does help my aching heart :hug:

When I look back, I see things are now ....what they actually were back then!
Perhaps I was too busy with work, kids, and illnesses, to realize it ......until I settled into the quietude of retirement.

It doesn't help that most of my friends have passed on ....or are seriously ill as well :o

It may well be a right of passage for our age...as we detach from the world.... the Lord draws us closer to HIM ....as we journey 'Home' to Him :pray:
 
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Coming into this conversation [as an onlooker]

I would add that such experiences are doubtless VERY COMMON
Indeed, would seem to occur in most families,
once, the offspring begin adventures into the outside world

Being individuals, they accrue experience in individual ways and, therefore
grow/mature differently ~adding different values and range of knowledge

I haven't met up with many of my cousins since my pre-teens
~as with Shirley, those families 'moved' _to the other side of the country
inhibiting/preventing, regular face-to-face contact
And, in my late teens, lost contact with them completely... just as soon as the females married
~changing their surnames and addresses

One of Mum's sisters made 'her move' upon Dad...
and his having announced what was she was up to, estranged her and her family
never, to be heard from again...
Not until Dad passed-away when she then, attended his funeral

My own brother 'Derek', tried to entice my second wife away, after, I had taken him into my family home
He was homeless, after his wife discovered he'd been 'playing-away' with her cousin

I was working 'permanent nights' as a nursing assistant at a psychiatric hospital
She, didn't want to know and exposed him
I threw him out on the street and I haven't seen him since
Oh, I heard that he made 'similar moves' upon his friends wives
and even the teenage daughter of one of them

My youngest brother... developed a drink problem [alcoholic]
and this blew his marriage apart
He visited me immediately after he had lost his wife and their home
and threatened my two eldest sons, who coincidentally, were already 'visiting' me
I told him to leave and not return unless he was 'stone-cold sober'
He passed away from a heart attack while drinking with our brother Derek [in a pub]

I maintained contact with my sister-in-law [via facebook] for about a year
when then, her posts became a little disgusting and I then unfriended her
and so it was that 'contact' was terminated


I guess, it is the result of 'choices' both positive and negative
ie: we measure who we are, by the company we are happy to keep [?]
So, that maybe the saying..."Birds, of a feather, flock-together"
is the 'signpost' to our individual direction through life

Do I miss them ? .... not-really :scratch: Do they miss me ??

Am I sorry they are no-longer around ? .. No, we walk different paths
and with expectations that are alien to each other ... I have let them go
and for sure, they too have 'moved-on'

I have 'today'
and, this is so-important to me
because I no longer have-to deal, with the baggage they carried around

We, all of us, are the sum of all of our experiences,
~the people we have met
~the good and the bad
for these, have influenced our reaction
to everything that happens to us and around us

Years ago, families didn't fall so-far from the tree [?]
Travel wasn't so easy...today the world has been opened up_ CHOICES are more varied

My signature.... contains, my now, 'mature insight' upon life

"We make our bed and must lie in it"

:wave:

dave
 
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Thanks Dave :hug: I am sorry for your trials...and happy for your many blessings in the end.

The past few years have been quite a healing journey for me!
Learning to 'let go' of loved ones....and the fear and guilt I was ingrained to feel when I asserted myself, has been a painful struggle at times.... but it has also strengthened and freed me.

I always pray that I am able to love with HIS love ...and seek to do His will in all things, as best I can with His grace. :holy:

Thank you ALL for your sharing; the Lord has used you to light the path He is asking me to follow...in peace, hope, and trust.

Have blessed Easter :pray:
 
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Dave ~ you mentioned having TODAY......
That has been impressed on me for a few months now.
Living in the PRESENT MOMENT...which is all we truly have!
The past is gone, and the future when it arrives will be the PRESENT moment.
So in living fully NOW...we are freed of all that 'baggage' you mentioned.
Each experience of each day is such a blessing; the Lord provides for each days needs.

Matthew 6:34
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself.
Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
:amen: Praise God ~ He is faithful, loving, and merciful :clap:
 
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