Chase or wait?

[timewerx]

As everyone has said, 'waiting' is generally not the most successful way to encourage something to change.

But you can still get dates this way if you get out of the house a lot like a job. But the man still has to make the first move. It's seldom a woman will ask for a date even if she's interested in you.

 

[MotherFirefly]

But you can still get dates this way if you get out of the house a lot like a job. But the man still has to make the first move. It's seldom a woman will ask for a date even if she's interested in you.

I assumed what you describe to be the opposite of waiting in this case..

 

[timewerx]

I assumed what you describe to be the opposite of waiting in this case..

Yea, it looks that way....I guess for us men, we could either chase or wait for someone to chase!

 

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I've been around two bits of advice. One said don't seriously date a woman unless you intend to marry her. If at any time you find out that she's not going to be "the one", then end it. Another way to do things (and one I'm doing now) is to take the least passive approach and keep my options open. To me, this means that if I see a woman I'm attracted to, I will ask her out. And during the date I will find out if she is a Christian or not. If she's not, then no harm no foul. I move on. But if she is a believer then I let things play out in their time. I haven't gotten further than the "looking" part, but this is the tactic I plan to use in case I do find a date. Lol

 

[Sketcher]

God understands that you want a wife that loves you, a lot of men do; and you will receive her, and she will receive you, all in due time. God will give you a soulmate, but we must continue to believe and pray in the lord until he's ready at the right time.

How do you know that? Not every faithful servant of the Lord gets a spouse (John the Baptist and Paul being two prominent examples).

 

[Quad]

How do you know that? Not every faithful servant of the Lord gets a spouse (John the Baptist and Paul being two prominent examples).

I can't remember the verse, but it said to make your needs or desires known to God, and he will answer accordingly. Ah, here it is. Mathew 21:22

"If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask in prayer."

I can't speak on everyone's behalf that they will always receive what they pray for, but i think that verse is a good foundation everyone could believe in, if they want.

 

[Sketcher]

I can't remember the verse, but it said to make your needs or desires known to God, and he will answer accordingly.

Ah, here it is. Mathew 21:22

"If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask in prayer."

I can't speak on everyone's behalf that they will always receive what they pray for, but i think that verse is a good foundation everyone could believe in, if they want.

What was the context of that verse? Remember, Pauls' thorn in his flesh remained (2 Cor 12:7-9).

 

[Quad]

What was the context of that verse? Remember, Pauls' thorn in his flesh remained (2 Cor 12:7-9).

I believe the context of that verse was to make your wishes known to God, and he will see to it coming to fruition. The OP (original poster) was deciding if he should wait, or pursue women, and I considered that he should wait; and that the Lord knows he wants a wife. As long as the OP stays faithful, humble, I believe there's a strong chance he will receive a wife.

I can't be 100% sure that he will receive a wife, but I do believe that making your concerns known to God is one of the best starting points to receive anything.

 

[Sketcher]

I believe the context of that verse was to make your wishes known to God, and he will see to it coming to fruition. The OP (original poster) was deciding if he should wait, or pursue women, and I considered that he should wait; and that the Lord knows he wants a wife. As long as the OP stays faithful, humble, I believe there's a strong chance he will receive a wife.

I can't be 100% sure that he will receive a wife, but I do believe that making your concerns known to God is one of the best starting points to receive anything.

No, the context is Jesus demonstrating his authority over the fig tree, using it to teach the disciples an object lesson about fruitfulness. He also had a lesson about faith, but he never said that God was obligated to to grant a desire because you believe you will get it. Your desires have to match up with God's desires in order to rightly expect that you will get what you prayed for (James 4:3). If you are not 100% sure, then don't say he "will" get it. It's not promised. Forgiveness of sins upon repentance is promised, you CAN be sure of that. Expecting something of God that he never really promised you is a terrible trap that the enemy uses to wreak havoc on people's faith. I've seen it, it's far from pretty.

 

[Quad]

No, the context is Jesus demonstrating his authority over the fig tree, using it to teach the disciples an object lesson about fruitfulness. He also had a lesson about faith, but he never said that God was obligated to to grant a desire because you believe you will get it. Your desires have to match up with God's desires in order to rightly expect that you will get what you prayed for (James 4:3). If you are not 100% sure, then don't say he "will" get it. It's not promised. Forgiveness of sins upon repentance is promised, you CAN be sure of that. Expecting something of God that he never really promised you is a terrible trap that the enemy uses to wreak havoc on people's faith. I've seen it, it's far from pretty.

You asked what the context of the verse Mathew 21:22 was, and I told you what it was.

your desires DO have to match God's overall plan, and that's basically what I've been confirming this entire time. I said i'm not 100% sure because I can't confirm on everyone's behalf that their prayers will always be answered because I don't know everything and everyone's plan; but if we trust in the lord and put our faith in him, our desires WILL come to fruition in his plan, in his way.

God ALWAYS holds up his end of the deal as long as we do our part and meet him half way and appreciate his authority. He is never late.

 

[timewerx]

"If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask in prayer."

There is actually a limit to that.

Remember even Jesus asked God to spare Him the crucifixion but God denied Him that request because Jesus is asking outside of God's Will.

Does doing God's Will and believing in Christ justify the need for a spouse or an expensive, luxurious house or a 20 million dollar private jet for example?

This is why despite many Christians praying for a spouse, some gets their prayers "answered", some not. I'm afraid to say, they are all just coincidences or the effort you put to making yourself an eligible wife or husband.

Many Christians don't really know what belief is and doing what God's Will is. We're just doing a worldly version of Christianity and I'm afraid, that won't cut it.

It's probably okay to get married but I'm afraid, it's not really important in the New Covenant. It's something not to envy, not to covet, and not to get depressed if you don't have one.

 

[timewerx]

but if we trust in the lord and put our faith in him, our desires WILL come to fruition in his plan, in his way.

God ALWAYS holds up his end of the deal as long as we do our part and meet him half way and appreciate his authority. He is never late.

Someone who does God's Will and believes in Christ will desire for different things.

Often they are not the same things unbelievers desire.

 

[RobertMerton]

I am sorry, but the cases of God being a matchmaker is extremely limited.

I think it was only once or twice.

There is no 'someone out there that God made just for you'. Instead he made all of us and gave us free will.