Chase or wait?

[JesseFrank]

I'm currently single, and am keeping my eyes out for "the one".

I know God has his hand on my life, and I'm very comfortable with where I am at socially and spiritually.

But, there is something about the thrill of a chase that I can't get enough of! I really like talking to girls. If I see someone I like, I try to make it my goal to say hi or talk to them.

At the same time, a wiser self on the inside tells me to wait and that God will bring me the woman I'm supposed to marry when the time is right.

I know the Bible doesn't say there is anything wrong with speaking to a woman in the hopes of dating and marriage, but I want the opinions of my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.

What say you?

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[SnowyMacie]

If spend all of your time waiting on that one perfect woman to fall into your lap, or God to bring her into your life, you'll miss out. Too often that waiting, instead of seeking out and having healthy patience, becomes the mentality of "what if there's someone better". If you spend your time waiting on the perfect person to come, they will not come. If they do, you will not recognize them because you are looking too much into "what could be" instead of what is. Things very rarely ever just fall into our laps.

 

[redblue22]

the one?

what are you talking about?

talk to girls or not talk to them?

I must be missing something. Are these girls in bikinis on the beach booty dancing or something?

 

[JesseFrank]

The one I'm supposed to marry

 

[Applekrate]

The age old saying has so much meaning-
"he chases her until she catches him"
If you have not heard that before, ponder it.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I'm currently single, and am keeping my eyes out for "the one".

I know God has his hand on my life, and I'm very comfortable with where I am at socially and spiritually.

But, there is something about the thrill of a chase that I can't get enough of! I really like talking to girls. If I see someone I like, I try to make it my goal to say hi or talk to them.

At the same time, a wiser self on the inside tells me to wait and that God will bring me the woman I'm supposed to marry when the time is right.

I know the Bible doesn't say there is anything wrong with speaking to a woman in the hopes of dating and marriage, but I want the opinions of my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.

What say you?

Sitting around and waiting for Him to bring you "the One" is a recipe for a lifetime of loneliness. If you never meet woman, how will you ever hope to find her?

 

[timewerx]

Chase her.

Chaser her with an ax while wearing a viking helmet and screaming praises to Odin.

I'll chase her with a WW2 Tiger tank..... Assuming she cannot run faster than the antiquated tank

Anyway, I think if you own a running vintage WW2 tank, it's probably women who'd be chasing you! ---Only hoping, I haven't really seen women chasing tank guys lately, nor guys who have toy tanks.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[timewerx]

If you watched the movie, Fury, then all you will need is a chocolate bar.

That and a time machine back to the 40's..... Women of today doesn't just want a chocolate bar!

They want your whole undivided attention too!

 

[timewerx]

I know the Bible doesn't say there is anything wrong with speaking to a woman in the hopes of dating and marriage, but I want the opinions of my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.

What say you?

There's a tendency for our culture to have men chasing women, but less so these days. You could either wait or "chase". Waiting takes longer though, obviously.

But waiting also takes skill, lots of patience, and open eyes. God does send people. You just need to open your eyes What you're looking for isn't always what God intends for you.

 

[redblue22]

The last time I said I was out meeting girls with some friends, the pastor squeezed my hand tight enough to let me know he was not in favor. Of course he then sat down with his WIFE!

The one you are supposed to marry? Have you been to a psychic or something? Waiting for what?

 

[Sketcher]

I don't know that there's anyone that anybody is supposed to marry. There are plenty of people that you can marry and plenty of other people whom you should not marry.

 

[MotherFirefly]

As everyone has said, 'waiting' is generally not the most successful way to encourage something to change.
I could be wrong, but I imagine random women don't often come knocking on your door? Unless you're into mail-women. In which case, waiting is a perfect idea and eventually you'll get lucky!

Be confident and don't take this crap so seriously.

 

[Quad]

I'm currently single, and am keeping my eyes out for "the one".

I know God has his hand on my life, and I'm very comfortable with where I am at socially and spiritually.

But, there is something about the thrill of a chase that I can't get enough of! I really like talking to girls. If I see someone I like, I try to make it my goal to say hi or talk to them.

At the same time, a wiser self on the inside tells me to wait and that God will bring me the woman I'm supposed to marry when the time is right.

I know the Bible doesn't say there is anything wrong with speaking to a woman in the hopes of dating and marriage, but I want the opinions of my fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.

What say you?

I don't recommend chasing. I've chased A LOT in past, and when it comes to finding your soulmate, it's best to wait and let love take it's natural course and find you.

Depending on the situation, pursuing someone can be stressful, and you may not get the desire or satisfaction you want out of it. If you let love happen naturally, you raise your chances of finding the right person for you.

God understands that you want a wife that loves you, a lot of men do; and you will receive her, and she will receive you, all in due time. God will give you a soulmate, but we must continue to believe and pray in the lord until he's ready at the right time.

Sometimes, I would ask the lord, "God, I'm eager to know what my wife would look like, could you please give me any clues that I could relate to?" Not much longer, I felt communication within my holy spirit that God answered my prayers, and I started to get an idea of what she may be and look like. I know it sounds hard to believe, but I recommend praying for things like that. It will help set your soul at ease until the meantime.

 

[Quad]

duplicate post, please delete, sorry

 

[Quad]

duplicate post. please delete, sorry.

 

[Strider1002]

I wouldn't chase just anyone for the fun of it. But if you find someone with potential... why not?

 

[kittysbecute]

I read the thread title as "Cheese or wait", the answer is definitely cheese.

In regards to OP, I'm pretty sure things don't work out exactly the same for everyone. So I don't think we could give a right or wrong answer to your question. There is a time for waiting and a time for persuing. Just seek God's will and guidance in everything.

 

[ReesePiece23]

You don't wait for friends, business associates, acquaintances or mentors do you? You meet them by going out and living without any real conscious direction. You just pick them up on the way.

Those who want a partner, but don't. Are usually those who worry about the minor detail, wait until they have formed the 'perfect plan' and then avoid ever talking to them when push comes to shove. It's not natural.

Be passionate and autentic. The rest will happen as a by-product.