What do you do when you can't please your parents? I live with them and haven't been able to move out yet due to disability and a bad financial situation. I do my best but can't really please them.
Can't Please Parents
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There is very little you can do except pray for a way out our a change of heart.
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May they become a bit more understanding towards you, through The Lord's voice, which is speaking to them through their conscience.
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Why aim to please anyone but God?
Peradventure Proverbs 16:7 will be the case. Nevertheless, Jesus words will ring true. (Matthew 10:34-36)
But deliverance will come one way or another if you stay faithful and patient.
Peradventure Proverbs 16:7 will be the case. Nevertheless, Jesus words will ring true. (Matthew 10:34-36)
But deliverance will come one way or another if you stay faithful and patient.
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It is more important, in my opinion although, to be proud of yourself. Most importantly though, I am positive God is proud of you and is shining his light on you. Keep your head up 
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All you can do is talk with them and establish just what it is they want of you?
If it is for you to be married, with a successful career, grandchildren that they can grab about then you will never satisfy them.
Talk and sort out what they want, if it's is more help around the house etc, again talk about what you can do.
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That's something I really have to do more often. At times I haven't done so because I've been so discouraged!!!! But God is able to work in any circumstance and prayer is key.
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What I do is never enough. If there's something that I've done around the house to tidy up, what is noticed what ISN'T done rather than what has been done. I'm considered a failure because I don't make a lot of money in my profession - though I've struggled immensely just with being able to be well and to work because of disability. They're also disappointed in me because I still live at home - though that is also tied to me having the disability.
So basically what Tolworth John says here:
Talking hasn't really helped at all. Arguments at times erupt and I like to avoid arguments.
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Thank you for the prayers, I appreciate it, God bless you.
It is more important, in my opinion although, to be proud of yourself. Most importantly though, I am positive God is proud of you and is shining his light on you. Keep your head up
Thank you
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You are right, I must please God first. I just want to be able to honor my parents as the Word of God says. It's difficult to honor my parents at times because they can be unkind so I try to avoid the unkindness in many ways. It's detrimental to having a good relationship. But I am trying to put into practice what the Lord says about loving my enemies. That has helped to improve the relationship and I want the relationship to be good to glorify God. Thank you so much for the encouragement I really appreciate it.
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What I do is never enough. If there's something that I've done around the house to tidy up, what is noticed what ISN'T done rather than what has been done. I'm considered a failure because I don't make a lot of money in my profession - though I've struggled immensely just with being able to be well and to work because of disability. They're also disappointed in me because I still live at home - though that is also tied to me having the disability.
Well it’s hard to give advice with so few details but you and your parents have my prayers.
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Commendable that you want to honor your parents.
If you have never been responsible for a home, it is difficult to realize all that goes into it. Try to give yourself a reality check. Take note of what you are doing, how long it takes you and how complete you are doing what is asks of you. Compare tasks others do, the length of time it takes them and how well the assignments are accomplished. If they asks you to clean the kitchen floor, do you sweep the most traffic areas or do you remove the rugs, etc and really sweep every inch? Do you dislike being told? Then asks for a list. It would help you see what they expect and the timeframe they have in mind. Also, if you spend time on your phone while doing a task, it may look 30 min to do but just a 5-10 min chore.
Also, our goal was to educate our sons before they left home. They knew how to plan meals, purchase food, cook, budgeting, etc. What about taking initiative without having to be told? That shows maturity.
Not saying that too much is expected of you or not - just trying to help you see more sides to the situation.
If you have never been responsible for a home, it is difficult to realize all that goes into it. Try to give yourself a reality check. Take note of what you are doing, how long it takes you and how complete you are doing what is asks of you. Compare tasks others do, the length of time it takes them and how well the assignments are accomplished. If they asks you to clean the kitchen floor, do you sweep the most traffic areas or do you remove the rugs, etc and really sweep every inch? Do you dislike being told? Then asks for a list. It would help you see what they expect and the timeframe they have in mind. Also, if you spend time on your phone while doing a task, it may look 30 min to do but just a 5-10 min chore.
Also, our goal was to educate our sons before they left home. They knew how to plan meals, purchase food, cook, budgeting, etc. What about taking initiative without having to be told? That shows maturity.
Not saying that too much is expected of you or not - just trying to help you see more sides to the situation.
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We have been taught much ideas which come from humans way of seeing it. Not everything taught in psycology lines up with what is written in God's Word, actually, a lot of it encourages us to do what God warned us not to do.
I do think it is great you want to focus on the part of loving your enemies. Unkindness is something which cannot be avoided in this world, and many will measure up their kindness with how they are treated from others. But when we look at the part of loving our enemies, this isn't a common way of thinking for those who aren't saved.
When you can look at your parents through Jesus's eyes, then there have come much change upon you. As He is changing you more to look at them with love and tenderness, forgiving them as God has forgiven you through Christ.
When we cannot honour our parents, we have a rebellion within us. We easily bring ourselves down into selfpity, and then focus on all the hurt and anger we have build up inside of us. This will also easily bring us into pride, which again, will lead us into more rebellion against our parents. Also creating unforgiveness, which when you have this, healing as well as being set free in Christ Jesus gets hindered.
Look into what God's Word says, also asking anyone who has the right theology of the bible to possibly teach you sound doctrine, and pray to God to show you what needs to be worked on in you, what changes needs to be done in your heart.
I mean this well. It is easy to look at one's self as the one without any fault. Many may offend us, hurt us, be unkind to us... but we are not meant to be like those who are in the world, but being more like Christ is.
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Why do you think you cannot please your parents? Is there something that you desire to do or they want you to do? Parents are so special to us as children, however, it can be hard to live with them at times because they may not see you as an adult. I think the best and only thing you can do is do your best to get on your feet, respect your parents by helping around the house proactively, supporting them financially ( even if it is a little), try to listen to what they have to say ( may be able to provide wisdom) have a spirit of gratitude and love, and just be optimist things will get better. I pray that everything works out in your favor.
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