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no I know not at home,in fact I just started going to church last month,and I really like this guy there.
and he seems like a happy go lucky person,he goes to church with his friend and his friend's girlfriend,and every time I see him he always has a smile on his face.
You just never know what's going on inside. I've been married
thanks,that is very true,I just pray that he has not given up on me,and pray that I have the courage to actually talk to him,I hate being shy.
okNo problem. Perhaps, try to find a situation where you actually need to talk to him or ask for his help or assistance. If you can't find such situation, create one
definitely
I guess we could start out that there aren't many great people out there. We could also say that what is great in one person's eyes is not compatible to another. Compatibility means so much in a relationship but far too often people settle for someone not right for them in hopes of changing them, which usually doesn't work.
If my lady friend were perfect, how would I be able to learn how to love?
Among other things, I would say spend time with mature Christian seniors who can help you grow as a person so you are more ready for a real relationship. So, you don't want older people who only sympathize with you and try to match-make; but share with ones who can see through you and help you with your good things and things needing correction for having a close relationship. And my opinion is a real guy can see through you, too, but will help you grow in Jesus. So, I would not go only by smiling
If my lady friend were perfect, how would I be able to learn how to love?
Among other things, I would say spend time with mature Christian seniors who can help you grow as a person so you are more ready for a real relationship. So, you don't want older people who only sympathize with you and try to match-make; but share with ones who can see through you and help you with your good things and things needing correction for having a close relationship. And my opinion is a real guy can see through you, too, but will help you grow in Jesus. So, I would not go only by smiling
And if you discover you feel this guy is for real . . . I would say trust him by telling him. If you don't trust him, possibly God knows He does not want to assure you about him, and/or you are not ready for someone like him.
Possibly, he might be trustworthy and able to have compassion for you, but telling him how you see him might be a detraction, when you can simply enjoy and appreciate sharing with him.
I see where you all are going with your answers and comments and I thank you all very much
You learning how to love has little to do with her but much to do with you.
She is very tender and caring, a very good example for me. So, when she might be even wrong somehow, I might remember how she has been my role model for how to love. So, learning to love with her is partly because of how she helps me
As you say partly but learning how to love lies in surrendering to the Spirit which God gives his children. Love lives within us. As we grow in understanding of that Spirit, love also grows within us. That Spirit is necessary for us to love others, including the girl you speak of. She sounds like a wonderful person. Allow God to lead you in love.She is very tender and caring, a very good example for me. So, when she might be even wrong somehow, I might remember how she has been my role model for how to love. So, learning to love with her is partly because of how she helps me
