Just because God has a plan to achieve His purpose doesn't mean that man can't make plans of his own.
Proverbs 19:21
Many plans are in a man's heart, But the counsel of the LORD will stand.
God does indeed direct and instruct us to do good, but man is most often spiritually dead in their sin. The reprobate are not exempt from God's commands however, and they are responsible for their sin.
You changed translations of the above passage. Any reason why?
So, whose plans will succeed, man's or God's?
So, would you foreordain and send reprobates to hell without remedy like God?
You are right: God is either in control or He is not. However, just because God creates circumstances and allows sin for His purposes doesn't mean that He is responsible in the same way that a man is. When a man sins he is willing evil in his heart, and God hates evil, so he is worthy of death; when God purposes that a man should sin, He wills it for His good purpose, and He is not guilty of anything. You think my view of God is evil because I believe He is sovereign over everything, even the sins of men. Paul had people who said his view of God raising Pharaoh up only to destroy him was evil as well:
Romans 9:18-22
You will say to me then, “Why does He still find fault? For who resists His will?” On the contrary, who are you, O man, who answers back to God? The thing molded will not say to the molder, “Why did you make me like this,” will it? Or does not the potter have a right over the clay, to make from the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for common use?
If God hates evil, why does He create circumstances, purposes, and allows it? BTW, what do you mean by purposes sin? If God hates evil, how did it get past His sovereignty so that evil exists? Did God realize His mistake and just let it happen?
I can guarantee if there is something I hate, I will do everything within my power to stop, control, and forbid it. Your belief is that God hates evil, but does nothing about it. Is there anything you hate, and yet allow it? If a person hates sin, should they just allow it in their lives, and let evil run its course? If you hate your anyone getting drunk, should you just allow it, even knowing the consequences it brings? If you hate pornography, do you just allow it in your house, and even create circumstances by which it may enter your house?
Here's a little about vessels of honor.
2 Timothy 2
19 ...“Let everyone who names the name of Christ depart from iniquity.”
20 But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and silver, but also of wood and clay, some for honor and some for dishonor.
21 Therefore if anyone cleanses himself from the latter, he will be a vessel for honor, sanctified and useful for the Master, prepared for every good work.
Why does God choose a vessel for honor? Do you know? Have you sought the answer?
There are vessels for honor and some for dishonor. How can a man be a vessel for honor? Paul says if anyone (that means anyone) cleanses himself from the latter (that means anyone who cleanses HIMSELF), he WILL BE a vessel for honor, he will be sanctified, and he will be useful for the Master (the Potter). If a man freely chooses to cleanse himself, God will make him for a vessel to honor. If he doesn't cleanse himself, he will be a vessel for dishonor.
If a man does not cleanse himself, he has no right to say to the Potter, 'why did you make me like this'. It's very simple.
Just because God creates and fashions a body in the womb that does not mean the person is not born a child of wrath. Who's image are people born into? Are they born into Christ's image, or Adam's? Whose nature do we inherit?
Genesis 5:3
When Adam had lived one hundred and thirty years, he became the father of a son in his own likeness, according to his image, and named him Seth
Was not Adam's image scarred with sin? Do people not begin to sin from the moment they are able to? Are children born seeking God, or ignoring Him?
Okay, you are getting off the path. You said that grown men should come to the kingdom like little children, for little children have childlike faith and dependence on God. What kind of faith do children of wrath have? Do they have faith at all? Where do you get that children of wrath are dependent on God? Are these traits of the fallen and unsaved according to Calvinism? Why should grown men come to the kingdom like fallen, sinful, and dead children?
Please explain your belief. Do men come to the kingdom like little, sinful, dead, fallen, and lustful children or not? If little children have a sinful nature, will that sinful nature bring children or grown men into the kingdom? Can you show me where man with a sinful nature depends upon God?
If a baby had the knowledge and ability (like they get with age), then they would sin, just as every man since Adam (except Christ) has. Yes, the wrath of God comes upon a person for such things, but why do people do such things? Why does every child without fail (except Christ) become a sinner?
You told me man should be like little children to enter the kingdom, then proceed to tell me the awful state of little children. Do men need to have a sinful nature in order to enter the kingdom? Does a man need to be a child of wrath in order to enter the kingdom?
You say a child 'becomes' a sinner. Does this mean they are not sinners at birth? You have built a very confusing situation here. Do you even understand what you are saying?
Let's see what James says about the origin of sin.
James 1
14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
First, James does not say sin is from Adam. He does say sin is brought forth when lust has conceived. This is a result of man being tempted and drawn away of his own lust and enticed. You were correct when you said a child 'becomes' a sinner. He does not become a sinner from Adam. He becomes a sinner when is drawn away of his OWN lust.
James said a man receives the crown of life when he endures temptation. Here we have a condition for man to meet in order to receive the crown of life.
Why don't they use their clean sinless slate to choose righteousness and seek God? Why didn't God save all the babies in Noah's flood? These are some serious questions you need to ask yourself.
Why didn't Adam and Eve choose righteousness and seek God with their clean slate? Who says the babies were not of the kingdom? Jesus said they were. I am fairly sure the children were saved and are in the kingdom.
Jesus saying we should become like children is very easily explained...
Matthew 18:4
"Whoever then humbles himself as this child, he is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven."
It's about being humble; children are humble, not sinless!
So, of such is the kingdom of God, involves becoming like children and humbling ourselves? Here again, we see a condition man must meet to enter the kingdom.