- Feb 2, 2018
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The title sums it up. The Lord has placed a strong (and VERY obvious) calling on my life to enter ministry. He has given me dreams, open visions, prophetic word from other brothers and sisters, and spoken to me directly (inwardly during prayer).
I have NO doubts about my calling and the mission he's placed me on.
However, my wife is not a strong Christian. She was raised Catholic, and they weren't even very involved in that. The Lord has built my faith over the last 5 years or so through his prophetic words coming true over and over again. The Lord took me from the road I was on in grand supernatural fashion, and placed me on the right path toward his ministry. (I was in a Christian cult and didn't know it, I was deceived). She has zero faith. And on top of that, she fakes faith, going along when I receive a word, vision, or dream and pretending she's totally down with it...until it comes time to actually "step out" in that faith, doing our part until it's time for God to do his. Then the world's gonna fall apart, in her eyes, when I start taking those first steps out on the water toward Jesus.
The Lord showed me in a dream about four years ago, that I would come to a time when it would look like I was going to lose my family, but in the end we would be stronger than ever. My wife (although she doesn't know it yet) is called to be at my side as I go down this road. She's called to ministry too, just doesn't realize it, and refuses to see it. I can't force anything, I have to leave this in the Lord's hands. My wife doesn't trust my judgement at all. And partially, rightly so. (I had an affair several years ago, I was addicted to painkillers that the VA threw at me like candy, and I got wrapped up in the Hebrew Roots cult). I totally understand that she has fear.
BUT...that doesn't change what the Lord has told me and shown me. He also told me that I was trying to dive deep, and there would be alot of people like "water wings" trying to hold me back. She resists any effort to attend any church full time. It's always a struggle. Has been for 17 years. Things are coming to a head because I'm involved in a charismatic church (which is where the Lord told me I need to plant my butt right now) and the power of the Holy Spirit scares her. She thinks it's another cult. Nevermind that I've been associated with them for 5 years now. But NOW that I'm starting to take my call seriously and taking small steps to implement as the Lord leads, the things attached to her are crying out. She went running back to our old church (that she hated and did everything she could to disrupt attendance there) crying that I'm crazy and "addicted to God." Unfortunately what I'm seeing from everyone around me is the unBiblical position that "family comes first." Before serving Jesus? The state of the church today saddens me.
I know my family is important. I love them dearly. I DO NOT want to lose them. But I also absolutely refuse to let God's call pass me by. I'm prepared for the worst if it's necessary. Unfortunately my wife's trying to bring it.
What say you guys? I could use some input. Please, if your answer is "you can't minister if your home's not in order"...save it. I know that. This is part of that process. The Lord is shaking my home and putting it in right alignment. I have faith that ultimately, I will minister in a manner pleasing to the Lord.
I just don't know if my wife will be along for the ride. Some things I have strong faith with, but I'm still human and struggle with others. Thank you.
I cannot minister to my wife. She won't allow it. Refuses to read, pray, or discuss anything with me. Ministering to her is no longer an option. Even the marriage counselor picked up almost immediately on the fact that her problem is not from me, it comes from her lack of relationship with Jesus Christ. She is obviously hostile toward Christianity, although will deny it point-blank.Your first calling ... is to see to your wife.
1 Corinthians 7
An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 33 But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 34 His interests are divided.
God has no desire that you leave your wife in the dust ... as speed on into ministry.
You have ... to bring her along with you.
And that may mean ... slowing things down ... so that she can keep up.
Why don't you make her (your wife) your first ministry objective ? If you win her ... it will give you good preparation for a successful ministry.
And I would pretty much guarantee that any ministry you might hope for ... will be hindered by having a wife who is either not on board ... or has left you ... because you left her spiritual needs unmet.
And as I'm thinking of it ... "diving deep" sounds more indicative of a more intense application of yourself to Bible study ... rather than a launching into a new ministry.
I cannot minister to my wife. She won't allow it. Refuses to read, pray, or discuss anything with me.
Ahead of you. We're in counseling. Again. People with your point of view are exactly what why Churchianity is in trouble. "Think" I heard from God? There's no doubt. If I don't hear from God (like ALL Christians do) then what's the point of prayer? What's the point of faith? There is no pride here. Only obeisance to what I was told. I'm not super excited about some of it either. Honestly, I'm a little scared. But I will do what the Lord told me to do. There's no other option.Your first ministry is to your wife and kids. Deal with it. And get some solid counseling on all of this before you destroy your marriage in the name of a delusion you just happen to have at the moment.
Yes, I know what it feels like to be "held back" by a spouse. But, just because you have a desire to serve the Lord, and just because you THINK God is talking to you, doesn't mean He really is.
Again, get some help and deal with it in a proper, sober, and responsible way that show esteem for your wife and who she is. You're sin is to discount her straight off the bat, and if anything, you're just showing pride. Do you really think the Lord is going to use you if what is really driving you is pride and addictive desire for satisfaction?
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Ahead of you. We're in counseling. Again. People with your point of view are exactly what why Churchianity is in trouble. "Think" I heard from God? There's no doubt. If I don't hear from God (like ALL Christians do) then what's the point of prayer? What's the point of faith? There is no pride here. Only obeisance to what I was told. I'm not super excited about some of it either. Honestly, I'm a little scared. But I will do what the Lord told me to do. There's no other option.
That's good advice, and the Lord's been speaking this exact thing to me. But it seems like nothing helps.Yes, you can. This definition of "minister" is too narrow.
How can you love your wife and serve her? Not with the agenda of her conversion or sanctification, but just for who she is right now? That is your ministry to her.
I cannot minister to my wife. She won't allow it. Refuses to read, pray, or discuss anything with me. Ministering to her is no longer an option. Even the marriage counselor picked up almost immediately on the fact that her problem is not from me, it comes from her lack of relationship with Jesus Christ. She is obviously hostile toward Christianity, although will deny it point-blank.