If it's any consolation, my primary thrust is on male concupiscence (yes, that is a pun!) and the male driven commercial sex industry that culls out and attracts financially starved women. It's just that some attention (correction?) is to be applied to women because, well, let's face it, they are the fairer sex and some of them are being excessively complicit in the various male-driven sex industries. And it only takes one Playmate to hook a bunch of male kids ... for life.
I don't think women are faultless when it comes to sexual misbehavior. But we're talking about two different things, since I am focusing on the problems presented by Girl Defined's picture of sexual purity, whereas your focus seems to be secular culture instead.
If we're talking specifically about the inappropriate contentography industry, then yeah, women are complicit too. Though I would be a bit suspicious of approaching sexual industries in a way that is exclusively male-oriented, since it's not as if women don't consume sexually explicit material also. We're not always passive players who are just looking for money or validation from men--there's a reason smutty romance novels exist, after all.
This is probably the one point on which I will somewhat differ with you. I think the idea of waiting for marriage is beneficial, but only for Christians.
Oh, I wasn't criticizing the idea of waiting until marriage. It's the phrasing I don't like: "saving" yourself until marriage. It ties too much value and self-worth into the virginal state, so I'd prefer to find a way to talk about this stuff that isn't going to give people a complex even on their wedding night.
At the least, I mean by raunchiness what Ariel Levy means by it, and as you may know, she is a non-christian, Jewish, Lesbian feminist. So, if I can agree with at least her definition, I feel I'm on to something.
I've never read Ariel Levy, so saying that you agree with her definition doesn't really help me. Looking her up on Amazon, though, it looks like her focus is on things like the inappropriate contentography industry?
But seriously, the Bible does judge women who persist in a particular lifestyle or immoral attitude just as surely as it does men (who it may identify as 'harlot-mongers'.......ew!) And yes, yes, I know all of this is troublesome emotionally these days, but it is for most of us. We all have to pull the immorality 'out' of us if we want to be Christian. I don't expect non-Christians to be able to do that very well, if at all.
The Madonna-harlot dichotomy refers more to the inability of some men to even really feel sexual attraction to their wives, since they have divided women up into those who are virgins and thus pure, and those who are sexual objects. They can't simultaneously respect a woman and want to sleep with her, because their focus on virginal purity is so strong that sexual activity is always something that demeans a woman, even in the marital context.
If we count the thinking of persons like Ariel Levy, then yes, I suppose so. But I'm not seeing it take hold on a wide scale yet, unless you're somehow counting the #me2 movement. You may have to enlighten me further on what way you're seeing this 'progressive creeping' which you're talking about.
Yeah, I'm thinking specifically of the #metoo movement. Despite its hedonism (or perhaps because of it), the secular left has become obsessed with consent in a way that I think is really constructive.
Found one. Mr. Atheist seems to eschew the idea that having to go to the Bible to support a notion about sexual propriety means the notion itself should be seen as questionable [between minute 6 and 7]? NOT! What's questionable is 'how' people apply hermeneutics to their understanding about social principles seen in the Bible, not whether or not they go to the bible for social principles.
Oh, yes. I disliked that part in particular, because you don't actually have to go to the Bible to defend some form of sexual propriety. I certainly came to my own conclusions independently.
I was also disturbed when he said he was glad he had had sex early, before marriage, because his ideas about sexuality and gender roles were messed up. I feel like this is a very good reason
not to immediately rush to sexual experimentation, since I've known multiple women who were abused, coerced, and exploited in those sorts of early relationships.