Being Single...

[~HopeFloats~]

As the Holidays are coming so soon, I find myself feeling so lonely...

 

[lunalinda]

*raises hand* Me too. *sigh*

 

[kelco]

do you think physical apperance of people is the main reason why people are single? i mean if ya just look at how the world works....it's usually the skinny blondes w/ big breasts w/ the guys who are tall and muscular, the heavier set people together, nerdy people together, etc...maybe that's just how it is now, but when someone seeks someone who they don't look like is that bad?

Yep that's the way the world works. If you don't meet the standards no one wants you no matter how great a person you are inside. If you don't have long blond hair and big boobs and little everything else, you might as well be invisible to everyone.

 

[pibsts]

well i like long blonde hair...but they don't necessarily have to have triple D breasts. i think it's really up to the person who they decide to be w/. there are so many couples who look nothing like each other, but it's what they believe in what counts. i don't think i'm ugly by no means...just need a little meat on my bones. tell me what you think?

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Hey Guys!

Being single is such a roller coaster eh..

Thinking of you all today and keeping you all in my prayers for a Blessed Holiday

 

[Shadowcat]

What I like about being single is freedom and doing my own thing.

What I don't like is I've been single so long I'm almost terrified of being in a relationship. Another downside is I would really like the physical contact like hugs from someone really special to me.

 

[awesome liver]

i enjoy being single cos i can have cuddle buddies and not worry about jealousies.

i don't like not having someone to come home to with a meal cooked for me at the table at the end of a long day.

and yes, i'm joking.

 

[strengthinweakness]

As a single man, I don't like not having a girlfriend or wife with whom to share my deepest thoughts and feelings, and vice versa. The public perception of men is that they don't like to talk about their feelings and they don't want to listen to a woman's feelings... and I know that some men, maybe even many men, do fit this description, but personally, I love the give and take of sharing my deepest thoughts and feelings with the woman that I love, and listening as she shares hers with me. It's hard to enjoy it so much, though, and to not actually have a girlfriend or wife with whom to share... I really dislike that aspect of being single. It would also be nice to have semi-daily hugs from a woman whom I loved and who loved me... or even monthly hugs...

 

[AceHero]

I've never not been single, so up to this point I haven't felt the need to be with someone. I think a lot of people my age start a relationship with someone just to have a relationship in order to feel that they matter to someone or feel secure. I don't really feel lonely, because I have quite a few good friends and acquaintances at church and school. With that said, I'll probably end my (self-imposed) chronic singleness in college. It's not that I want to be single, but the way I've seen it, teenage relationships can really interfere with high school.

 

[Colof Ards]

What I like about being single is freedom and doing my own thing.

What I don't like is I've been single so long I'm almost terrified of being in a relationship. Another downside is I would really like the physical contact like hugs from someone really special to me.

I really know what you mean, in everything you say.

 

[Blank123]

What do you enjoy about it?

What do you NOT enjoy about it?

I am really getting tired of being single yet so scared of being vulnerable to another person..

I know I am not alone and many people like I struggle daily too..

Any words of wisdom?

I like the fact that I have been spared a lot of the drama that usually comes with dating around my age

I love the fact that my singleness has allowed me to really grow in my walk with God. If I had ended up with who I wanted to I am certain I would not be as far in my walk as I have gotten.

There are of course downsides to being single. I would love to find that one guy and get married. There are times when I do wish I had someone special to share with. I do look forward to being married if thats what God has in mind for me, but not knowing means I have to learn to trust in Him.

 

[Josh3908]

The worst thing about being single, other than the single thing, is being lonely. One thing I have noticed in my ever increasing years of singleness is that the older you get the fewer friends you have, this makes being single worse. It makes it worse because lots of your buddies are either married or in good relationships and because as a single christian as you get older you become a minority group.

As much as I want a wife and family oneday, the hardest part of life is being lonely. In my church of about 130 people there are 2 single males over 20, 1 is a widow the other is me. Most youth have left my church although I'm too old for youth I was good friends with them.

Anyway thats the worst thing about being single, being lonely.

Good things are no ties, freedom to go where you wish, take a job where you wish, go to school where you wish. Makes those choices easier.

Anyway I have no words of wisdom, I'm just lonely.

 

[NicelyAged]

What Do I Like About Being Single?

** The freedom to make my own decisions without having to accomodate someone else's thinking. That has its positives and negatives. Since I'm a guy, I don't have woman's intuition. Sometimes, lacking that leads to wrong decisions. But, since I'm a guy, I think logically. Sometimes that helps me avoid wrong decisions that would otherwise be driven by female emotion. It's a mixed bag.

What do I not like about being single?

** Having so much to give and no one to give it to.

 

[Niels]

Pros:
- Keeps me young
- Little to no personal drama (because I'm not even dating)
- Free to draw, write, play music etc.
- Can eat dinner in bed if I want to

Cons:
- Perhaps more vulnerable to Satan's lies
- Lack of conversation and companionship
- Skewed sense of identity (neither married nor the stereotypical single... where do I fit in?)
- Perfectly good hormones are going to waste

 

[lunalinda]

Cons:
- Perfectly good hormones are going to waste

Heh, I like the way you worded that. Cuz ain't that the truth? It's like having all the ingredients but no oven, the safe but no combination, the car but no tires, the DVD's but no player. It's all so pointless when it's going to waste.

 

[Johnnz]

The first reference in the Bible to marriage refers to it as 'becoming one flesh'. I see this as two people merging their lives and creating something quite different for themselves and each other. That does challenge our concepts of individuality rather severely. And of course, when things aren't right marriage can become a hell hole. Many single people have seen this in their own families and are understandably apprehensive about becomming part of such a marriage.

Jesus also talked about dying in order to live. Parents know this. If you think that marriage interferes with personal lifestyle forget about having children. Time, money, energy, constant demands, and responsibility - kids require all of these. But what price can you put on a child's snuggling into your arms, their delights and sense of discovery at so many things in life, their development and growing mastery of life, their love and respect as the mature? Dying to live, giving up in order to gain are principles that form part of the great mystery and adventure of life. And, of course, many single people have done just that, and know lives of fulfillment and eternal consequences.

John
NZ

 

[Jenster]

Very wise, Johnnz, very wise.

Pros:
- Can eat dinner in bed if I want to

LOL! mrkguy75, I hadn't considered doing that before... Breakfast, yes; dinner, no. I'm more the typical dinner-in-front-of-the-TV kind of person.

 

[marley03]

i just wish there was girls out there who like to chill and not party all the time(get drunk), want to grow as a Christian and will help there, funny, love sports, sweet and pretty. hard to find, ha.

 

[marley03]

like a Christian jennifer garner.

 

[JPPT1974]

Loves to read, write, exercise, game shows, music, internet, NFL.
Must be kind, sweet, understanding, caring, and a Christian first and foremost.