The last guy I dated I wasn't physically attracted to him. What attracted me to him was that he kept telling me what he liked about me. It made me feel loved and he was the first guy that ever made me feel that way. The other guys only complemented my physical features. Not him...until we were further in the relationship.
Does anyone else feel like these churches that have a negative attitude about a Singles group in the church are hypocrites about it? Maybe they've mentioned that it's wrong for Believing women to marry non-Believing men (but don't say vice-versa on Believing men). Or you have concluded that the church leaders must see dating in the church as a sin even though these people have been married since their 20s.
Singles groups do tend to dissolve over time, like a couple of years. The last one I knew of faded away and the church didn't have any ties nor sponsors to it...they just allowed space (a room) for them to meet, that's it. So it wasn't advertised through the church's channels.
I think the two people that lead it was a man and a woman, the man was attempting to date the woman in the group, and anyways, some kind of drama formed when she friend zoned him, and he left the group. I recall this one woman, rather attractive (not that I had an interest), that was a "swing by" type.
That she'd just "swing by" the post-Bible study social to talk, but never stuck around to form friendships or fellowship. I was wondering if she was just scanning the room for prospects and then leaving. She ran a Christian homeless shelter or something as her daily job thing.
But I did a search on this kind of thing, and apparently these groups don't last long. Either enough people couple up and disappear to no longer justify the group's existence, or just people stop showing up due to lack of interest and more interests in events outside of church altogether.
Back in the Yahoo Personals days, there was a woman I was communicating with on that site that knew of a rather popular singles group at a certain church. The church allowed for any Christian to attend...you didn't have to be a regular at their Sunday services either. She said she tried out that group and she said it was mostly full of men she wouldn't even consider having in her life. A lot of awkward/unattractive men. Thus her reason for taking it online
Thanks to Christian Mingle and Christian themed singles sites, in-person singles groups are no longer necessary.