baldness - to fight or to shave?

[dysert]

Looks and youth fade.

I can certainly attest to that!

 

[Anguspure]

Do you identify this as an issue with vanity?

Appearance in the flesh can be used as an attack by the enemy if we put too much concern into it.

1 Peter 3:3-4
3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

It's our flesh after all, and the flesh will age and die.

I'm receding and it has been used as an attack which uncovered vanity in me.

Give it over to the Lord and don't worry, let it happen and instead concern yourself with inner beauty.

This is a challenge I am facing too and your thread has encouraged me to not fight hair loss.

May God bless you brother.

@ossrey
Of course its about looking good! The guy has to attract a woman if he wants to get married and the question is aimed at whether or not he can be attractive.
I am a person who knows nothing about what attracts a woman, still don't know what my wife is attracted to.
But my 10 cents worth is that women are strange and varied creatures. In the end it'll be something in your character that overcomes any reservations about your looks (don't know what that is but lets face it all of us guys look pretty bad).
If you're worried about your baldness my suggestion is that there is a bit more development needed in the character department.

 

[NanBee]

Why on earth don't you just look into that procedure where they take hair from the bottom of the back of your hairline and transplant it where you want hair? There are many good reasons to want a full head of hair other than mere vanity. If anyone questions your decision on religious grounds, I simply would tell them that a person who looks good (according to his preferences) and has more self-confidence makes a more effective witness for Christ.

 

[DreamerOfTheHeart]

Hi all,

This is my first post, and I'm glad this forum exists. Great to see a venue where believers can encourage each other.

So, here's my issue: I'm fighting hair loss, don't personally think I look good at all bald, and want to keep my hair. I know this is the definition of a first world problem, but for some reason it's still been bothering me quite a bit. I'm still single, and would like to date. My hair hasn't receded a TON yet, but it's visible. When I shave my head, the classic male pattern baldness signs are apparent. I've despised the way I look with a buzzcut since a young age, and have even tried the look again a couple times in the past couple years, only to realize it was not the look for me. Each time, I've been eager for my hair to just grow out. Understandably, when the whole hair loss thing became noticeable, I panicked, got on the meds ASAP (generic forms of propecia/rogaine), and didn't look back. Well, until a couple years ago.

The problem? Well, since renewing my faith and making a deeper commitment to walking with the Lord, I haven't felt spiritual peace about fighting to keep my hair. I know it sounds stupid, but please hear my out. Even though I don't have much of a personal issue with fighting hair loss, in general, I don't know if that's the route I'm personally supposed to take. I'm trying to hear God's voice as to the right actions for me to take on this matter.

When my whole issues about 'fighting hair loss' surfaced in the first place, a friend prayed with me on the matter (he actually prayed for God to heal my hair, while I was just sort of praying about the situation in general -- what to do/not to do/etc.). During this prayer, I actually felt the presence of the Holy spirit (the heat/warm sensation, all of that stuff -- not to get into a charismatic debate). After that prayer I stopped taking the meds. My hair was okay for a bit, but a few months later I could feel it falling. At that point, I chickened out and started the meds back up again, which worked, but I didn't feel right deep down spiritually. So I stopped again, but bargained with myself to not give up on the fight completely, saying 'well, maybe it's just the Propecia I should steer clear of, because it can have bad side effects.' Then, I went on the generic form of Rogaine alone. Unfortunately, I still didn't feel right about the whole thing.

After that, I decided to take an all natural route. I experimented around, lost more hair (and a couple months ago it was legit noticeable, at least to me), and have found a hair loss shampoo and all-natural hair loss supplement that seemed to be way better than nothing. The problem? Well, I still don't feel amazing with the Lord about this. I know it sounds extreme to say "I'm afraid I'm sinning by doing something about my hair loss," but I don't see "not sinning" to be as simple as not breaking laws; I see it as whether a person is following God's specific instructions for his or her own life. To be clear: I don't think doing something about hair loss is a categorical sin; perhaps it just is for me.

This is tough, because I loathe the prospect of disobedience to God, but I also hate the way I look without hair. It's not a flattering look for me at all (let's face it, Bruce Willis and Patrick Stewart are lucky), and I'd like to date around soon. I feel like if I could have a clear answer from God about what path to take, I'd follow it with peace. I'm just having a hard time getting that answer. I'm considering fasting to get that kind of guidance.

Your prayers and wisdom are appreciated. Thank you all.

Do what you will with it, until you can find yourself in a situation where God can bless your form and change it to something you prefer.

Thing is, what is harder to believe, that God could cure you of leprosy or cancer... or God can give you a full head of hair? Well, both, actually are extremely difficult to believe.

The later maybe even moreso. Because you could wonder why, on earth, God would ever do such a thing. But, either cure is by your faith and your faith alone.

There are healers going out through the earth. If you can keep and try such faith, then sooner or later, you will find your self in such a situation.

FYI, angels change their form routinely.

Part of their job description.

I don't judge you for wanting what you see as an improvement to your physical outward form as uncalled for.

 

[God’s peace]

Do you identify this as an issue with vanity?

Appearance in the flesh can be used as an attack by the enemy if we put too much concern into it.

1 Peter 3:3-4
3 Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

It's our flesh after all, and the flesh will age and die.

I'm receding and it has been used as an attack which uncovered vanity in me.

Give it over to the Lord and don't worry, let it happen and instead concern yourself with inner beauty.

This is a challenge I am facing too and your thread has encouraged me to not fight hair loss.

May God bless you brother.

Just today found your post. I have for years been fighting my hair loss. Always feeling less than with tons of anxiety and stress about my thinning hair(which made it worse making me sad) and constantly full of envy of other guys who are not balding which I know is sin and not pleasing to God to have this be the focus of my thoughts. I even a couple of days ago made an appointment to have a hair transplant procedure that costs 8,000 dollars but after reading your post I was encouraged to cancel the appointment today. I have prayed that God would make it clear what His will is for me about my hair loss and He answered me through your blog. Thanks brother!
Man looks at the outward appearance but God looks on the heart. I accept this now. God’s will be done. Amen

 

[Albion]

Hair transplants worked for Joe Biden. Even after all these years. But as for accepting baldness or shaving one's head, if those are the choices my own view is that it depends very much on how you look completely bald. Some guys seem macho, but others just do not look right.

 

[sweetycakes1]

Hi all,

This is my first post, and I'm glad this forum exists. Great to see a venue where believers can encourage each other.

So, here's my issue: I'm fighting hair loss, don't personally think I look good at all bald, and want to keep my hair. I know this is the definition of a first world problem, but for some reason it's still been bothering me quite a bit. I'm still single, and would like to date. My hair hasn't receded a TON yet, but it's visible. When I shave my head, the classic male pattern baldness signs are apparent. I've despised the way I look with a buzzcut since a young age, and have even tried the look again a couple times in the past couple years, only to realize it was not the look for me. Each time, I've been eager for my hair to just grow out. Understandably, when the whole hair loss thing became noticeable, I panicked, got on the meds ASAP (generic forms of propecia/rogaine), and didn't look back. Well, until a couple years ago.

The problem? Well, since renewing my faith and making a deeper commitment to walking with the Lord, I haven't felt spiritual peace about fighting to keep my hair. I know it sounds stupid, but please hear my out. Even though I don't have much of a personal issue with fighting hair loss, in general, I don't know if that's the route I'm personally supposed to take. I'm trying to hear God's voice as to the right actions for me to take on this matter.

When my whole issues about 'fighting hair loss' surfaced in the first place, a friend prayed with me on the matter (he actually prayed for God to heal my hair, while I was just sort of praying about the situation in general -- what to do/not to do/etc.). During this prayer, I actually felt the presence of the Holy spirit (the heat/warm sensation, all of that stuff -- not to get into a charismatic debate). After that prayer I stopped taking the meds. My hair was okay for a bit, but a few months later I could feel it falling. At that point, I chickened out and started the meds back up again, which worked, but I didn't feel right deep down spiritually. So I stopped again, but bargained with myself to not give up on the fight completely, saying 'well, maybe it's just the Propecia I should steer clear of, because it can have bad side effects.' Then, I went on the generic form of Rogaine alone. Unfortunately, I still didn't feel right about the whole thing.

After that, I decided to take an all natural route. I experimented around, lost more hair (and a couple months ago it was legit noticeable, at least to me), and have found a hair loss shampoo and all-natural hair loss supplement that seemed to be way better than nothing. The problem? Well, I still don't feel amazing with the Lord about this. I know it sounds extreme to say "I'm afraid I'm sinning by doing something about my hair loss," but I don't see "not sinning" to be as simple as not breaking laws; I see it as whether a person is following God's specific instructions for his or her own life. To be clear: I don't think doing something about hair loss is a categorical sin; perhaps it just is for me.

This is tough, because I loathe the prospect of disobedience to God, but I also hate the way I look without hair. It's not a flattering look for me at all (let's face it, Bruce Willis and Patrick Stewart are lucky), and I'd like to date around soon. I feel like if I could have a clear answer from God about what path to take, I'd follow it with peace. I'm just having a hard time getting that answer. I'm considering fasting to get that kind of guidance.

Your prayers and wisdom are appreciated. Thank you all.

Please just save your head. I find men with very very short hear or bald very masculine. Gives that rugged military look. Accept it as the way GOD MEANT YOU TO BE.

 

[sweetycakes1]

I told my dad that when your hair turns grey it just means its a sign of wisdom and when it falls out.... well I have no answer. lol.

I personally don't care to much about my hair. I've never really understood the obsession with not showing grey. Then again I was on a ton of meds as a child and started getting grey hairs at that time. Not like a full head of them or anything. Just a few greys. As I hit my 20s I had a few more. Around 31 or so I started getting much more. You can barely tell since they are mixed in with my hair, unless you look close.

I also have bald looking spots where most men do in the front corners, but mine are from sensors always being on my head dor EKGs and what not. It doesn't really bother me either. I don't really take good care of my hair either (not that I let it become sloppy and greasy). And yet people still love my hair for some reason because it seems thick and "elegant" (as some say).

Now I will say baldness can be awkward depending on where it starts and what it looks like. For example this picture below is ok for balding:

But this picture below..... I don't like at all:

I just find it odd looking and it makes people look old. At that point I'd just start shaving my head either bald or having a small buzzed looking cut. I wouldn't bother though with hair coloring. Which really just makes any balding even more obvious since the skin is light compared to darkened hair. Again, while I don't care about hair at this point, I just don't want certain looks as I age. My dads hair has really thinned out (he has short kinky Italian hair) and as hes aged its gone from an afro (hes white) to shorter and now very short and thinned out in general. Though it doesn't look that bad really on him. Having his type of hair wors better with balding.

I'm a mix of my mothers straight long hair and my dads short curly hair. I think its called "Wavy".

I forgot to get to the point about God in all this. I don't God cares what we do with our hair really as long as it isn't extreme. Like if you made side mohawks and made them neon blue. lol. While there is some vanity things one could bring up, I don't think its the end of the world to want to color your hair or shave it. Its not like your cutting off a limb or putting in nose rings.

All these men posted here look HANDSOME the way they are. Forget about hair transplant just be the way GOD meant you to be.

 

[God’s peace]

Your words are very encouraging. I really needed them today.

Thanks and God bless

 

[God’s peace]

All these men posted here look HANDSOME the way they are. Forget about hair transplant just be the way GOD meant you to be.

Your words are very encouraging. Thanks so much.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

It's even worse for others.

While out hiking the other day came across a couple and the lady had very thin hair with a large round bald spot on the top of her head.

My brothers wife who is in her late fifties is going bald. She now always has her head covered.

68 now and I have a little bald spot.
Doesn't seem to bother the wife.
But, I guess most all prefer to have hair.

Often wonder?
In heaven will my hair be restored?
Or will bald be in?

I guess God can locate every hair that we have ever lost and put them back where they once were if He chooses? Or just give us new hair? That would save some time.

M-Bob

 

[Jesseessej]

Hi all,

This is my first post, and I'm glad this forum exists. Great to see a venue where believers can encourage each other.

So, here's my issue: I'm fighting hair loss, don't personally think I look good at all bald, and want to keep my hair. I know this is the definition of a first world problem, but for some reason it's still been bothering me quite a bit. I'm still single, and would like to date. My hair hasn't receded a TON yet, but it's visible. When I shave my head, the classic male pattern baldness signs are apparent. I've despised the way I look with a buzzcut since a young age, and have even tried the look again a couple times in the past couple years, only to realize it was not the look for me. Each time, I've been eager for my hair to just grow out. Understandably, when the whole hair loss thing became noticeable, I panicked, got on the meds ASAP (generic forms of propecia/rogaine), and didn't look back. Well, until a couple years ago.

The problem? Well, since renewing my faith and making a deeper commitment to walking with the Lord, I haven't felt spiritual peace about fighting to keep my hair. I know it sounds stupid, but please hear my out. Even though I don't have much of a personal issue with fighting hair loss, in general, I don't know if that's the route I'm personally supposed to take. I'm trying to hear God's voice as to the right actions for me to take on this matter.

When my whole issues about 'fighting hair loss' surfaced in the first place, a friend prayed with me on the matter (he actually prayed for God to heal my hair, while I was just sort of praying about the situation in general -- what to do/not to do/etc.). During this prayer, I actually felt the presence of the Holy spirit (the heat/warm sensation, all of that stuff -- not to get into a charismatic debate). After that prayer I stopped taking the meds. My hair was okay for a bit, but a few months later I could feel it falling. At that point, I chickened out and started the meds back up again, which worked, but I didn't feel right deep down spiritually. So I stopped again, but bargained with myself to not give up on the fight completely, saying 'well, maybe it's just the Propecia I should steer clear of, because it can have bad side effects.' Then, I went on the generic form of Rogaine alone. Unfortunately, I still didn't feel right about the whole thing.

After that, I decided to take an all natural route. I experimented around, lost more hair (and a couple months ago it was legit noticeable, at least to me), and have found a hair loss shampoo and all-natural hair loss supplement that seemed to be way better than nothing. The problem? Well, I still don't feel amazing with the Lord about this. I know it sounds extreme to say "I'm afraid I'm sinning by doing something about my hair loss," but I don't see "not sinning" to be as simple as not breaking laws; I see it as whether a person is following God's specific instructions for his or her own life. To be clear: I don't think doing something about hair loss is a categorical sin; perhaps it just is for me.

This is tough, because I loathe the prospect of disobedience to God, but I also hate the way I look without hair. It's not a flattering look for me at all (let's face it, Bruce Willis and Patrick Stewart are lucky), and I'd like to date around soon. I feel like if I could have a clear answer from God about what path to take, I'd follow it with peace. I'm just having a hard time getting that answer. I'm considering fasting to get that kind of guidance.

Your prayers and wisdom are appreciated. Thank you all.

Hey, just wanted to find out where you’re at with this now? I’ve been challenged with the exact same issue.

 

[com7fy8]

There are woman who are vain about what a man looks like. You do not want to make yourself attractive to a vain woman. But make sure you take good care of yourself in ways that really matter.

Grow in Jesus so you can attract together with a really Christian woman.

I see how becoming humble can get you away from vanity. And with Jesus you won't be troubled about vain things.

"'Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'" (Matthew 11:29)

Vanity can have us troubled, not resting in Jesus and enjoying loving one another as family.

Possibly you can see the trick > the vain worries keep our attention away from Jesus and becoming gentle and humble and kind and all-loving.

And if certain women don't love you because of baldness, have compassion for them. They are missing out on so much because of not knowing how to love!