Badly need advice

[Lostgirl28]

I am.

Thank you so much.Feel much better.

 

[Galilee63]

Relax.

Hand the situation over to our Lord Jesus asking Holy Spirit and our Heavenly Mother Mary's loving holy intercession praying Jesus' Holy Wound Chaplet, and at the start after making The Sign of The Cross, "Lord Jesus, Holy Spirit and Mother Mary, I immerse my heart and soul in Your Sacred Holy Wounds Jesus and ask for You to break this relationship in Your Holy Will to be done urgently. I immerse my friend (say name) heart and soul in Your Sacred Wounds and pray for Your Precious Holy Blood poured upon her. I immerse her Mother's heart and soul in Your Sacred Wounds and pray for Your Precious Holy Blood poured upon her, healing her Mother of her illness. Praying in front of Jesus' on His Cross focussing on Jesus' Sorrowful Mysteries in illustration allows Jesus to enter your Heart more deeply bringing you closer to our Lord Jesus and The Holy Spirit/God our Heavenly Father.

Jesus Holy Wound Chaplet

Holy Wounds Rosary chaplet - Martha Chambon
Using the normal Rosary beads

On the crucifix and first three beads:
O Powerful God! O Holy God! O Immortal God! Have pity on us and upon the whole world! Amen
Pardon and mercy, O my Jesus, during these present dangers. Pour on us Thy Most Precious Blood! Amen
O Eternal Father, be merciful to us through the Blood of Jesus Christ Thy only Son! Be merciful to us, we beseech Thee!

On the (Our Father) beads:
Eternal Father, I offer Thee the Wounds of Our Lord Jesus Christ to heal the Wounds of our souls.

On the (Hail Mary) beads:
My Jesus, pardon and mercy, through the merits of Thy Holy Wounds!

Finish by repeating three times:
Eternal Father, I offer Thee the Wounds of Our Lord Jesus Christ to heal the Wounds of our souls.

These invocations were taught by Our Lord Himself to Sister Mary Chambon, humble lay sister at Chambery.
Our Lord made the following promises in favor of those who recite this chaplet:
Promises of Our Lord to Sr. Mary Martha Chambon

 

[Galilee63]

Trust in Jesus completely after handing over daily and thrice daily until our Lord Jesus and The Holy Spirit/God works through the situation making changes.

Also, it would be a wonderful thing if you could visit a Christian Bookshop and pick up Jesus' Cross for yourself, your friend and Her Mother (one each), including Saint Padre Pio's Holy Medallion for Her ill Mother to wear or have with her including the Prayer to Saint Padre Pio of whom heals through our Lord Jesus. An infant about to be taken off life support recently; his Father ran home after remembering an old Saint Padre Pio Holy Medallion, placed it on his Infants' tummy in the hospital bed and to the surprise of Specialists, his Infants heart rate went up 70% and he was healed by our Lord Jesus. Mother Mary's Holy Miraculous Medal of which Jesus and Mother Mary designed and delivered to Saint Simon Stock; I wear mine daily and/or The Holy Scapulas designed by God and given to other Saints to produce and distribute. These Holy items allow Jesus The Holy Spirit and Mother Mary to more greatly protect against evil, break vices, addictions, intercede in situations with prayer from our hearts and keep evil more greatly away of which causes illness/cancer and other ailments and sufferings. Prayer is priority having said these things.

The greater the trust in Jesus during prayer and asking for His Holy Will to be done through you and the situation, the more Jesus' generosity.

 

[Galilee63]

Two last things.

Repent your sins to Jesus after praying to The Holy Spirit. Read God's Holy Word daily if you don't already for at least 15 minutes asking The Holy Spirit to illuminate your heart to your most serious sins, receive Holy Communion/our Lord's Holy Eucharist of which contain His Blessings Gifts and Graces and repent your sins to Jesus one on ONE if you don't go to Church confessing through a Priest or Minister/Pastor while abstaining from the physical side. Jesus knows our hearts and intentions, vices and situations as do Heaven watching us all. Jesus says this to Saint Marie Chambon. We are all being watched not only God, there is no privacy with only God seeing us sin. I only learned this in recent years. All of my past sins were seen by all of Heaven particularly when we are prayed for by family or someone else around the world praying for the Afflicted. So while Jesus, God and The Holy Spirit are trying to work through people and their situations through the Prayers of others, all of the Angels, Saints, Martyrs and Holy Souls in Heaven praying for us at different times during our lives, are most sadly witnessing our dreadful horrible sins, particularly the hurts we inflict in malice upon others at times or a thought that is nasty about others, and these are the most serious, the voluntary sins, Jesus says as opposed to the involuntary sins. The sins where we have deliberately hurt Jesus and others or instigated sins. Because every sin against another is a sin against Jesus including of course the broken Commandments of our Lord Jesus' God and The Holy Spirits. Celibacy is what our Lord wants with most people because after we break celibacy many problems occur in our lives unless married through Him, repenting regularly, receiving Holy Communion, praying, reading God's Holy Word, fasting to block satan regularly, trusting in Jesus, opening our hearts receiving Jesus into our hearts and working for our Lord Jesus The Holy Spirit/God our Heavenly Father. The Most Holy Rosary prayed to Jesus and Mother Mary breaks sexual relations for good. Anyone who has prayed The Holy Rosary and has asked for celibacy, then says God has not broken the vice/abstaining from sexual relations, has not prayed The Holy Rosary properly and/or not stuck to praying The Holy Rosary daily. Every vice/addiction/problem has been removed by God through Mother Mary since I commenced praying The Holy Rosary back in 2011. Focussing on Jesus and His Cross and Holy Sorrowful Mysteries in depth is praying The Holy Rosary properly. Holy Illustrations assist greatly in opening up our hearts receiving Jesus into our hearts of His Sorrowful Mysteries. And you don't have to be a Catholic to pray The Holy Rosary. The Creed can be prayed without being baptized Catholic.

Everything including so many wonderful fantastic changes in my life and those around me with all of The Glory and Honour Yours Dear God my Heavenly Father my Lord Jesus Christ my Precious Holy Flesh and Blood Dear Lord, with all of my Love Gratitude and Honour to Thee our Blessed Virgin Mother Mary now and for eternity.
Amen.

 

[Galilee63]

I know many people whom pray to Jesus, God and The Holy Spirit His Divine Mercy Chaplet regularly and have had their lives transformed, huge changes for the good and better made by our Lord Jesus and The Holy Spirit and every prayer for everything heard and answered by Jesus Christ our Merciful Saviour. This is another most powerful prayer from God delivered to Saint Faustina in the 1930s

Every prayer for Holy causes and world causes family and friends causes are heard and answered by Jesus, God and The Holy Spirit within Gods Holy Divine Mercy Chaplet and Novena. Pray to Jesus His Holy Wound Chaplet first though. Asking for our Blessed Virgin Mother Mary's breaking of the sexual side. Mother Mary will break it with Jesus and The Holy Spirit if you pray Her Most Holy Rosary. I would start with one Holy Decade first prayed well. Focussing on Jesus is praying well. His Life, His Sufferings, His Sorrows. His Agonies, His Persecutions, His Sacred Holy Wounds.

All the best in our Lord Jesus The Holy Spirit and our Heavenly Mother Mary

If you offer up your sufferings for The Holy Souls in Purgatory prior to praying, Jesus loves this. Jesus has explained this to His Saints many times. He is able to work through our sufferings while taking those and using them to assist in His Holy Works in Heaven here on earth and for The Holy Souls in Purgatory or souls on their way to eternal damnation.

 

[Albion]

Maintain the friendship and abandon the sexual sin.

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That was the first thing I thought of, too.

 

[rswings99]

Maintain the friendship and abandon the sexual sin.

If there are threats of suicide and attempts, you cant play around with this, call the paramedics every-time its threatened or attempted.

It could be emotional manipulation or it could be the real deal.

If you want to renew your life in Christ, pray pray pray.

Stop the sin explain to her why you are stopping it.

I could not have said it better........................an excellent advice

Please give up sin save your soul, and pray that your friend's soul is also saved through Lord Christ's" grace. Separate yourself from this situation; it is better for both of you

 

[dqhall]

Hi.I am in a relationship with the same sex, but want a renew life as i know from the very start that samesex is a sin.My problem is i cant leave her because she needed me, she is my bestfried before the relationship started and she harms herself everytime i tried to ,specially her mom has a cancer now and we both miles away from our family because we are working in abroad.I asked God to give me a sign, and if her mom will not continue with chemo ill break the relationship, but her mom is on chemo now.what should i do? Thanks

I would recommend celibacy and to let her know you changed your mind and are not comfortable with the lesbian lifestyle. It is not a sin to have a friend of the same sex, but it is a sin to have sex with someone of the same sex. You might look for fellowship with Christian singles and married.

 

[OpenYourBibles]

My first inclination while reading your post, was to suggest that you invite your friend to church with you, and pray that she could receive the same revelation that you did... but then I found out she goes to church with you, and is even active in the church, which then makes me wonder...

What does your Pastor say about all of this??? You said, "i know from the very start that samesex is a sin." I am assuming... so I might be wrong... but I am assuming you learned this principle at church. So now that things are out in the open I would imagine the Pastor knowing that he has an individual practicing same sex (i.e. sin) as a worker in the church should raise a lot of questions! And I suppose if it is not all out in the open, you should have a chat with your Pastor about all of this. God commanded a pastor in Isa 58 to - "Cry Aloud and Spare Not" your friend deserves the right to be told the truth and receive help. It is also a Pastor's job according to 2 Tim 2:24-26:

24 And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient,

25 In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth;

26 And that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will.

It is his/her job to teach and instruct in a gentle and patient way even those that "oppose themselves" which seems to be the bigger problem in your friend's situation. You have the right to take the revelation that God has given you and run with it and be free. Someone who is going to extort you with self harm cannot be a good mate, and I would question even the friendship. God gave you that revelation to do something with it... for you... help your friend as best you can, but Acts 2 says, Save Yourself From This Untoward Generation!

 

[Kit Sigmon]

Hi.I am in a relationship with the same sex, but want a renew life as i know from the very start that samesex is a sin.My problem is i cant leave her because she needed me, she is my bestfried before the relationship started and she harms herself everytime i tried to ,specially her mom has a cancer now and we both miles away from our family because we are working in abroad.I asked God to give me a sign, and if her mom will not continue with chemo ill break the relationship, but her mom is on chemo now.what should i do? Thanks

What you're dealing with is emotional abuse.
Your friend is trying to hold you hostage to continue in a sinful relationship.
You be her best friend but she ain't acting like a best friend if she's threatening to harm herself
if you don't do things her way...that's called being controlling...manipulative.
Giving in to threats over and over does not make a relationship healthy, and it only allows anger and resentment to build on your end...tell your friend that you care about her and will be a friend to her but that's it...stick to your boundaries.

Seriously, you can’t be responsible for her actions, no matter what and this includes when your partner chooses to harm themselves... a good relationship/friendship is based on respect and caring, not on threats of self harm if you don't do what she wants.
Remember that no matter what your friend might say, you don’t have to prove anything.
Even though she might be saying something like, “If you really loved me/or if you really care, you’d stop me from killing myself,” the real truth is that there are unhealthy elements in the relationship. Until those unhealthy elements are addressed, they will most likely continue no matter how many times you give in to your friend's demands.
Connect your friend with a counselor and I would also advise that you seek counselling too because emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.

 

[Zoey <3]

The relationship is clearly harmful, if your trying to leave results in her abusing herself. In a way, she is abusing you- trying to threaten you if you choose to leave. I believe you should stay for a short while longer. You will soon get a chance to leave, both of you unscathed by the weight of the world. Please do not allow yourself to be effected by her lack of positive influences. I trust that you will make the right choice. I know it may seem silly, but pray. Always pray. Ask the Holy Spirit for guidance. He will lead you down the right path.

I, too, dated a girl in my high school years. She is the only relationship I have had. I did not understand until senior year that it was harming my relationship with God. It takes time and effort to overcome lgbt+ thoughts, but it does grow much easier with time.

If you need support or someone to talk to, please do not hesitate to message me. We can get you through this together. I believe in you! And again, please do not allow her to get to your head. Have a blessed day!

 

[Courage Ampadu]

Hi.I am in a relationship with the same sex, but want a renew life as i know from the very start that samesex is a sin.My problem is i cant leave her because she needed me, she is my bestfried before the relationship started and she harms herself everytime i tried to ,specially her mom has a cancer now and we both miles away from our family because we are working in abroad.I asked God to give me a sign, and if her mom will not continue with chemo ill break the relationship, but her mom is on chemo now.what should i do? Thanks

Hi,
I am so pleased that you have come to this realisation that living in a same sex relationship is a sin and more importantly that you want to do something about it. I am assuming that this is part of a wider decision to follow Jesus and to dedicate your life to him. This is important as you cannot do works of righteousness on your own, you need him.

I would also like to add that you need to work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. Others we are to preach to and love. Note the difference. Jesus said to pluck out your eye rather than to let it lead you to hell. This is how serious our own salvation is. Please do not prioritise your friend's welfare above your eternity no matter how much you love her. Besides, you do not love her more than Christ does and he tells us that if we love mother father brother sister and yes, ourselves also more than we love him, then we are not worthy of him. So it is a straightforward decision. Pray for courage and follow the peace in your heart.

From personal experience there is no right time to end a relationship, it will hurt anyway, so just do it. Don't hang around for too long. I understand the complication about her sick mum but you need to trust the Lord to take care of all the problems. You will be surprised what provision God has made for her safety but if you let that deter you then you will not see it.

Finally, remember that we are to do good to all men and live in peace with all if it is in our power to do so. In your case I don't think it is, you cannot please your friend and the Lord at the same time. One of them is going to be unhappy and something tells me that you don't want to choose your friend above the Lord.
I hope this makes sense. God bless

 

[gym_class_hero]

Am praying for you. Can tell you that throughout my checkered history, Ive never regretted following God's will. As others have said, there's never "a good time" to leave a relationship. If someone is mad at me for doing the right thing, they aren't really my "friend." God bless you

 

[Jesus: From Gen to Rev]

Hi.I am in a relationship with the same sex, but want a renew life as i know from the very start that samesex is a sin.My problem is i cant leave her because she needed me, she is my bestfried before the relationship started and she harms herself everytime i tried to ,specially her mom has a cancer now and we both miles away from our family because we are working in abroad.I asked God to give me a sign, and if her mom will not continue with chemo ill break the relationship, but her mom is on chemo now.what should i do? Thanks

My dear sister Lostgirl28, you have received some good advice from your friends in Jesus in this thread - especially to immediately cease the sinful relationship you are in - and may I add the words .. "in Faith".

Regarding "I asked God to give me a sign, and if her mom will not continue with chemo ill break the relationship, but her mom is on chemo now.what should i do?" ... many Christians make the same mistake you have made in that. God is very clear in the Bible about His will for us and our obedience. We can't ask for a sign from Him as to whether or not we can continue in the sinful practice. He already answered that in the Bible. We must simply ask God to help us overcome the temptations to sin, repenting and asking forgiveness.

Regarding prayer ... as both you and your friend are Christians, and as her mum is so gravely ill, you would both be praying for her mum. Please explain to your friend that living in sin causes a separation between yourselves and God, and that would be effecting her's and your prayers for her mum (and for yourselves too). Our dear Catholic friend that posted to you had the very best of intentions, and also some nice advice, but please do not be resorting to the practices of Rosary/Crucifixes/scripted prayes, etc. I came out of Catholicism and recognise all of those things as vain repetitions and graven images/idolatory, etc. You have enough problems without bringing any of that between you and God too. Your simple prayers - communing with God personally as your Best Friend from your heart is acceptable prayer with Him.

Agape love, which is what John says God is, is the love that looks for the very best for others - and that is eternal life. If you and your friend truly love (agape) each other, you will immediately cease sinful practice, as sin separated you from salvation and eternal life.

It would be good if you and your friend could immediately, permanently cease this sin, and still remain best friends - in a true Christian relationship - helping each other with a pure relationship with Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. However, the Bible says to make no provision for the flesh. Therefore, if staying together is not possible without temptation and sin - the temptation would be best removed. ie. someone quitting smoking should throw smoking equipment away, not have it within easy reach.

I share all of this in Christian love, and ask forgiveness if any of what I have has not been done correctly. I am not a God-inspired writer, so my words will be faulty - sorry. God and the Bible are your best guide by far.

Faith my sister. Praying for you, your friend, and her mum.

 

[rockytopva]

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. - 1 Corinthians 6:18

Fornication... inappropriate contenteia... And to let the Strongs Dictionary define it....

illicit sexual intercourse
adultery, fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, intercourse with animals etc.
sexual intercourse with close relatives; Lev. 18
sexual intercourse with a divorced man or woman; Mk. 10:11,12 - Genesis Chapter 1 (KJV)

 

[writewords]

Hi.I am in a relationship with the same sex, but want a renew life as i know from the very start that samesex is a sin.My problem is i cant leave her because she needed me, she is my bestfried before the relationship started and she harms herself everytime i tried to ,specially her mom has a cancer now and we both miles away from our family because we are working in abroad.I asked God to give me a sign, and if her mom will not continue with chemo ill break the relationship, but her mom is on chemo now.what should i do? Thanks

Manipulation. She is harming herself to keep you from leaving. Get out.

 

[PanDeVida]

Hi.I am in a relationship with the same sex, but want a renew life as i know from the very start that samesex is a sin.My problem is i cant leave her because she needed me, she is my bestfried before the relationship started and she harms herself everytime i tried to ,specially her mom has a cancer now and we both miles away from our family because we are working in abroad.I asked God to give me a sign, and if her mom will not continue with chemo ill break the relationship, but her mom is on chemo now.what should i do? Thanks

Lostgirl, God does not need to give you a sign re: if she is on chemo or not! God has already given you the sign by letting you know in your heart that you are sinning, no other sign will be given than that you already have, many don't know that they are sining, and you do.

I will pray for you, and please pray for me.

 

[lben]

I think its better for me to leave the country we are working and return home to my family and forget about her. I just need a prayer that God will give me strength and not to look back even she will hurt herself.

That's the smartest thing you've said so far. Leave her and go back home. She is threatening suicide as a means to manipulate you and force you to stay where you don't want to. People who threaten suicide like this rarely do it, or if they do try, they will wait until just before the other person gets home from work to swallow pills or whatever, knowing that they will be rescued in time thus giving credibility to their threats and a deeper manipulation of the other person. Granted, if that person didn't come home as scheduled, it could be an accidental suicide. People who are serious about killing themselves go where no one will find them and do it, and they don't usually threaten first. Allowing her threats to control you and your behavior and decision is her ultimate goal. It is a form of abuse.

You are not responsible for her decisions to hurt herself. She is using this as an excuse. She will continue to threaten self harm every time she doesn't get her way about something.

As far as sinning goes, yes homosexuality is a serious sin and continuing in something you know is wrong is just spitting in God's face and telling him you don't care how he feels about certain issues, you'll do as you please.

 

[lben]

Yes thank you.that is why i am getting crazy.God knows i don't want to hurt someone specially her my best friend

She's not your best friend. She's your worst enemy.

 

[Winken]

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