Avoiding desperation......

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I was married and in a good healthy marriage. And I am lonely....lonely with a lot more responsibility than before I was married and a much lower statistically chance of ever getting married again.

Did you feel lonely in your marriage?
Do you want to be married again?

 

[blackribbon]

Did you feel lonely in your marriage?
Do you want to be married again?

Yes, I would like to be married. And yes, there were times in our marriage when communication was running at a low point and it was extremely lonely, even with him sleeping in the same bed. No marriage is all honeymoon

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Yes, I would like to be married. And yes, there were times in our marriage when communication was running at a low point and it was extremely lonely, even with him sleeping in the same bed. No marriage is all honeymoon

Yeah... I understand. Marriage is alot of work which is why I can wait...or just not even mar y. Would rather dedicate myself to God.

 

[Niels]

Desperation makes things worse. People often talk about how unattractive desperation is, but it's more than just unattractive. Think of all that could go wrong if you settle down with somebody who is obviously wrong for you. I'm not talking about superficial things or small problems, as none of us is perfect. It's just that love/lust/whatever can lead us to overlook major problems like personality compatibility issues, abuse, etc. I mean, I have as a strong desire for love as anybody, but if I start feeling desperate I'm better off pulling back and focusing on other things. When I weigh the pros and the cons, love simply isn't something that I want to be desperate about.

 

[timewerx]

How does our mindset need to change?

or anything else you have to offer..

The only person who can truly make you happy is already with you

And that is you.